There’s so much more going on in that story than what we’re talking about in this little conversation.
We often use other people’s lives as cartoonish cautionary tales or motivational examples, but the realities of life are very complex, compelling, and profound.
It’s a waste of time to judge others or yourself. You’re never going to reach a clear, satisfying judgment, and the time could have been better spent working to benefit and improve conditions.
As children, we’re taught that “Johnny is bad, and Jason is good” or whatever, but as we grow and experience, we usually find out that situations were more complicated than we realized.
Self-love is not underrated and self-love is not overrated. It’s one of many necessary elements in a healthy life. And some days you’ll need more while other days you’ll need less. Some days you’ll have more and other days, you’ll have less.
There’s not going to be a simple recipe that makes sense of everything. But we can get out here in the world and try to do the best that we can.
Don’t memorize rules to tell you if you are a decent person or not. Or to convince yourself that you’re a success or a failure. What’s the point of that? You’ll still have to life your life anyway.
We learn about life by living life and by reflecting on our and others’ experiences.
Labels and maps help but only up to a certain point.