Help with Social Anxiety

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#1

Hello everyone, I came to sub club to get help with some issues i have lack of self confidence, lack of self esteem and social anxiety. I have pored over the content in the forums and based and what Ive read, slowly but surely I am coming up with a list of titles which I think would help with my self confidence and self esteem issues. Those include Ascension, GLM Love Bomb. Maybe later once I have some experience Emperor and Khan However dealing with the social anxiety is another matter.

The thing is the self confidence and self esteem issues are with me all the time and I have a pretty good idea what is going there However, if you were to ask me to describe my social anxiety I would have a difficult to explaining. This is because I have controlled my social anxiety by simply avoiding social interactions all together and so I don’t have a continued or fresh perspective of it.

That is until I am forced to be in a social situation and this is exactly what occurred for me recently. My wife’s grandmother just passed away at the ripe old age of 106 (she was 2 months shy of her 107th). After, the funeral there was a family get together to celebrate the life of this amazing woman.

Of course I couldn’t avoid going to the funeral or the reception and for me it was a horrible situation. Because I was so anxious, I am sure everyone thought I was so weird or strange. For me it felt like I swallowed a bomb and inside I was a chaos of emotions and anxiety. It took all my energy just to keep myself together but all the tension and anxiety I was feeling inside leaked out. I am sure people could feel my intense discomfort which made everyone uncomfortable around me. And when I saw they were uncomfortable it made me more uncomfortable resulting in a vicious loop of discomfort and tension.

Its been a week since and I am still feeling the tension. However, as bad as the situation was it was a blessing in disguise because it happened so recently I can now describe what I was feeling.

  1. I am in my head and 2) I am really self conscious. These 2 are the most important contributors to my social anxiety. In social situations my thoughts are just running constantly: “Look people are watching you”, “Your voice is too low”, You are talking too loud".“There is silence in the conversation its your fault people don’t want to talk to you”. These are just examples of the types of thoughts in my head and they are just constant. Related to this is I am acutely aware of people’s reaction ie self conscious this is also constant. because of these then

  2. I am a chaos and jumble of emotions As I said above it feels like a swallowed a bomb and it has exploded the feeling is intense

  3. I am hyper focused on people’s reaction to me. My wife’s niece she loves my wife and they are always talking so I come up and I asked the niece how are you doing. She looks at me and rolls her eyes as she answers. I notice the eye roll and now I stop talking. I am thinking what did I do? There must be something wrong with you to elicit that reaction. The more I try to reason with myself to say there is nothing wrong with me the worse it gets.

  4. Finally when I am going through all this tension and anxiety I am just afraid to say anything and when I say something because i am uncomfortable people pick up on it and…

I know this is an unnecessarily long post please forgive me but I just wanted to give as best a description as possible as to what I feel with my social anxiety in order to get the best help possible as to what you guys think is going on. As I am typing about and reliving the experience I realize my anxiety is so intense that I must solve this if I am to get anywhere with my self improvement journey. I am really looking for help. I am really feeling down right now.

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#2

100% Love Bomb.

I’d recommend either Sanguine with it or Sanguine: The Elixir

Read the sales pages of those two and see which would work better for you.

Edit: I don’t know if you’re in therapy but when I first joined Subclub I wasn’t and after using a few, I started neurofeedback therapy. I had a dysregulated nervous system, high trait neuroticism and hypervigilance/anxiety and was diagnosed with ocd at 8 years old.

It’s been 1 year and I’m 75 to 80% better. I’m also listening to Love Bomb and after 3 cycles I had a breakthrough and my self worth has been steadily rising since.

Good luck bro

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#3

You have become strongly identified with your body, namely your reactions to what is happening.
Ascension
Sanguine: The Elixir Core
Dragon Reborn
GLM
Genesis
Don’t take too heavy subs, deal with your past and then build a strong foundation)

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#4

There are a few different angles how to tackle your problems.

Lovebomb - for selflove
Ascension - for Self-esteem
Chosen from within - for emotional healing and leading qualities
True Social - straight to the core
Sanguine The Elixir - Joy and Emotional Healing

There would be more options, but those aren’t for beginners.

I’d chose either Chosen from within or True Social

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#5

Hmmm… I would suggest running Phoenix, Love Bomb and Sanguine, for a couple of cycles before switching out Phoenix to GLM, Primal, ascension or Genesis.

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#6

Don’t forget he’s new to SC. So the recommendation is to add one new sub every cycle, not to start with three.
Also is Phoenix a good first title?
It’s a great healing title. I experienced it myself.
But it’s not for the faint of heart. So I would say, it needs a bit of preparation first. Like Sanguine Elixir.

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#7

Nothing wrong with starting with more than one title. This is the newest version of Zero Point with NSE. Not Primal Tech.

Further, Sanguine is there to reduce the recon and mental landscape even further.

Sanguine and Love Bomb is one of the best combos out there. The amount of internal positive energy, protection and displacement of Negativity, annihilation of imprisoning illusionment that one would harbor, amongst many other effects, makes them of the best foundational titles with a potential that exceeds almost everything, more so with proper guidance.

Therefore, yes, it’s okay to start with three titles. The difficulty is relative to the indiviual, their goals, which titles they choose, and the congruence of the titles.

Yes, it’s a perfect first title. Even the predecessor was so - Rebirth. True, it’s not for the faintest of hearts, but he is no child. Nor does it bear the warning against new users. He would also have Sanguine fueling everything with a relentless air of positicity and Love Bomb flooding him with waves of one of the most powerful energy in the world

He says that he’s in his head and is plagues with emotions:

Summary

Love Bomb will definetly make him his own mental point of origin. It will help him realize and live what it is like to be the source and the judge of his own self. Love Bomb is a must imo. Sanguine will push that ahead.

Phoenix will help him traverse his inner world, specifically his emotions, and place the tools needed for Mastery in his own two paws. It will, and this is the best part, quickly remove what does not serve him - the patterns that have been looping in his being. It will cut off the energies that one feeds. Burn the ground and that fruitless orchard, and cement these new seeds that he’s planting and caring. No more salt onto the ground, only water infused with light and truth. It’s not working for ya? Tear it down and start a new construction.

People are more capable of handling and achieving more than they think and imagine they that they could. These are powerful tools, no denying that, but you are also powerful and that’s why we can handle them. Just don’t over expose and microloop.

Whichever tool you pick, it will help you build your monument in the end.

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#8

Thanks everyone for your replies. I was really looking forward to hearing your suggestions but was busy and couldn’t respond until now. I myself thought that Ascension and Love Bomb would be a good place to start and based on your recommendations it seems I am on the right track. I also think True Social makes sense.

My biggest issues I believe are that I am always in my head and so self conscious. Which of the suggested titles do you believe would be best to specifically control those runaway thoughts in my head.

Finally, what do you think about adding Limitless. . I know it is not specific for anxiety. However, I wonder if Limitless with its cognitive enhancement would also be of help controlling those runaway thoughts. Thanks in advance for your responses

#10

Thanks everyone for your suggestions. Will begin applying the recommended titles.

#11

Love Bomb will help to make you not care what others think of you (as your approval will come from within), but it won’t necessarily make you more charismatic. Primal will make you more charismatic and more able to enjoy yourself in social settings. Sanguine will help you to remain cool and relaxed in whatever setting or situation you’re in. I’ve been running all 3 for five or six cycles.

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#12

Reality Smith I like the suggestion of Primal. Do you find that Sanguine makes you feel so “chill” that you lose motivation to do things. I think I read that some where but can’t seem to find the post.

#13

Hmm not sure if it’s Sanguine or Love Bomb but honestly I think one of them or both of them could make you more lazy, at least at first, but not necessarily. If you’re afraid of that then yeah Ascension would probably be better (I haven’t run it but it gets a lot of praise).

#15

That’s a good suggestion of lowering the exposure. Thanks.

#16

For me, that would be Primal, Primal Seduction, Sanguine and Chosen.

#17

After reading the recommendations, I had decided on Ascension, Love Bomb and Limitless. But now I have to think about whether I want to replace one of the three with Primal. Decisions Decisions.

#18

I’d second this recommendation for you, @awe1028 .

I would suggest just Love Bomb for a week or so before adding in anything else, starting with a 30 second listen of the track. Gauge how you handle the recon (if any) from that amount of listening before adding more time to future listens. See what pops up in life from just Love Bomb, imo, before creating your stack. (Multiple subs :smiley: ) Get a taste of the dish before adding salt? I feel @Malkuth would have a great analogy here.

Quoted for excellence.

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#19

Personally Daredevil or HOM :call_me_hand:

#20

I’ve had the social anxiety as long as I can remember. New Primal has been one of my favorite titles in the 4 cycles I’ve used it. It’s helped for sure. But I’m switching to Ascension because I feel like Primal would be way better if I had that base/foundation of Ascension. I’ve also been on LB for 5 cycles, and I’m still feeling it’s best for me to spend some time with Ascension.

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#21

@ABC333 you are saying that you will switch to Ascension instead of Primal? But will you still be listening to Ascension and love bomb or now just Ascension alone?

Also what is/was your experience with Love Bomb. This quote from your post above: 'I’ve also been on LB for 5 cycles, and I’m still feeling it’s best for me to spend some time with Ascension." seems to suggest that Love Bomb was not a good experience for you? Could you clarify? Thanks.

#22

I’m currently on a 30 day washout. I was listening to LB, new Primal, and KB 4.

I will be starting Ascension for my first time on Aug. 30 I think it is.

LB was great. I just feel like for me Ascension might be the missing ingredient. I’ve always jumped ahead for the sexier titles and tried to stick to them as long as I could. But I’m coming back to Ascension and to me that’s like going back and starting from the beginning. Which is what I think I need.

Love bomb is staying put, I will continue it for 12 cycles. I consider it foundational alongside Ascension. I think it’s a great title and I just think for me, I need to pair it with Ascension for awhile to really make the most of it.