They have made a decision. Let people who don’t like you be. I know that pull very well myself. Sometimes we need to take reality as is instead of what we wish it was…
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Guilt and shame usually keep me in the game longer than it should. But I’m slowly releasing it now. It sucks that the closest to me don’t really care is the situation, but whatever… That what these subs are for.
I just said to myself “find your voice, dammit” and guess what’s in the Q Store…
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Speaking of which:
I feel like I’ve gotten to know Wanted and feel it out over a long enough timeline that I could start experimenting with my comfort zone - unforced conversation with a woman, teasing and gazing (well of which happened this week)
This is why I feel “f*ck an IOI” or “don’t be a passive, wimp” type advice is well meaning but unhelpful. It’s great to be at that glorious abundance stage already with women, but right now I’m not. Even on cycle no. 5. I’m getting used to looking hot, a world away from my teens looking fat and ugly. So criticising someone for not being further along the journey is the anthesis of growth. Let a brother grow for fuck sake.
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relaxing into being hot
On Wanted and Chosen I’ve released into a very comfortable, embodied self. I know I’m hot - conceited! -
It’s safe to say that I don’t even register or question the “Wanted” attraction signs anymore, because they are very obvious. I’m more interested in how to get comfortable with both subs and let my natural self out - the self I was conditioned to believing it was shameful.
(Although “natural self” is heavily influenced by Wanted, my new dress code is jeans and jacket, leaning back in my seat, with the attitude and life wisdom of "I don’t care a fuck)
As a bonus, I don’t have the voice of my narcissistic parents yelling in my ear about how flawed I am and how “perfect” I should appear to be to others. No one is perfect, so why should I be grinding to their “high standards”, when frankly, I’ve achieved more academically than they ever have?
Yeah I’m a complete monster for saying that, they fed, clothed and housed me, how dare I?
It pisses me off that I achieved this level of mind autonomy later in my life.
This type of confidence is a little elusive because anyone can act confident but the inner “shoulds” come forward to belittle me. But self acceptance and authority that is coming from the self is now taking root, finally learning to do that. Maybe it’s maturity and getting older… I’ll just be myself and the results will speak for myself. Others can project their shit all they like.
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The most enjoyable part for me on my journey is just being able to be myself again. It’s like the subs bring out the right conditions where that’s okay. Just that aspect alone is worth its weight in gold. Huge bonus that we get to pick and choose the flavors we want to add in, with whatever titles we choose.
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What a weird, fulfilling couple of days.
After a train incident my usual commute was severely disrupted and I had a strong willing to help a couple of people from Ireland 
with alternative travel arrangements. This was quite sudden but I had a very strong desire to help out.
Then catching the bus there was the usual nutter trying to cause trouble, which led to this lady sit next to me and we got talking for most of the journey, she shares the same kind of dry, dark humour.
That followed on from my uni conference where even the heat of my department was giving glowing praises to my work l, which I’m “hiding underneath a bushel”.
All three wonderful happenings I give credit to Chosen and has unlocked my own narrow block with talking to people in a normal, non-seductive environment. Testing out Chosen with Hegemon* has given me a ton of charm and positive leadership!
(*I forgot I still had my Chosen with Hegemon NE custom…)
Thinking now, this Chosen custom with Hegemon flows perfectly with Wanted NE. I’m sitting in the cafe relaxing from the crazy day, being stared at by a few people men and women, must be the Chosen glow.
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That is a good fit
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I’m not sure whether Hegemon is a romance module, - going from the support answers given about it, it seems solely like a social/charisma addition. But Hegemon with Wanted/WB would be fire.
Support came back very quickly with an answer as to whether Hegemon does have romance:
Women are drawn to you through the weight that you carry and presence rather than technique. Hegemon gives the Chosen name embed a seductive pull.
Exactly what I wanted out of the custom. It also said Wanted + Hegemon would be the better stack although the extra visibility might hamper Wanted and its mystery element. 
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Currently on an unforced washout, feeling satisfied at the direction of travel.
Probably did the listening the wrong way round for the upcoming academic year:
- Chosen/Chiron since June
- Chosen/Hegemon since September.
Ideally Chiron would be played now, but completely forgot that I had another Chosen custom in the archive, so dug it out and it’s adding such a heavy dynamic to both Wanted and Chosen. Deep attraction with gravity.
The biggest thing I’m taking from this cycle and the summer of heat is that highly aligned groups are where it’s at (those that aren’t including family can get in the bin, no cap).
Magnetic presence isn’t also about force, but influence. I can now do that with these tools, be an attractive man for myself and for the women I’m social with and enjoy the next part of life - that of mentor.
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Still on washout.
But I’m very pleased.
I’m taken aback at some of the results I’m getting.
Like I seem untouchable in a mild way.
Like people have seen a celebrity
Women are a few steps from grabbing me off the street.
Chosen is me.
It just works for me in a way that the other hard edged subs don’t.
Bright, positive, open. Immune to bullshit. I feel lighter too.
Chosen + Hegemon gives it a smouldering seductive edge.
I belong here, the best years are to come.
I feel great, I look “sparkly”, I get to create and mentor in line with my natural energy.
The main monkey on my back - constant dread fear at nothing major - is faint background noise. Barely audible.
It’s a 180⁰ from feeling heavy, ill, can barely walk up the stairs, in a 10hr job taking insane amounts of stress, then returning to a toxic relationship that I co-created.
I wouldn’t call myself an optimist at all. But as long as the sun shines, it’s a good day.
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Chosen Hegemon custom is still delivering for me
The deceiving thing is the thought:
I’m fine, let’s add some more stuff
Because the level of self confidence now feels “normal”, the chaos of building it is missed. So adding another sub won’t harm things, right?
I can convince myself that the rate of progress should be faster
But on Wanted it took 4 cycles to get past the first fence.
Things will take time
Wonderful things like participating in “grown up” kids games and winning is a good ice breaker around women.
Joyful things.
Will it be too much to continue to the end of the year? Don’t think so. A Wanted year end sounds nice. Who knows who will show up (or how many 🫢)
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Looks like I’ve found an interesting way in to success with women - just play. I’m good at having fun 
Speaking of success with women:
You know you are getting successful when a good friend says down on the phone line that I sound a lot more positive today than a year ago. She said before I wouldn’t take her advice to get my mind right and think better, but now I’m a lot happier and the evening out with her was the most she’s laughed out loud.
She also felt safe with me despite a full blown rock concert about to start around her.
The key here was that I didn’t care about whether my jokes “landed” or my observations were outlandish. I was myself and I felt really positive about myself.
I’m seriously thinking about adjusting my stack, making play and joy central to it as it works much better than trying to be dominant alpha . Outward, shiny fun, joyous @Michel is more me.
So Chosen with Summertime (Chosen/Endless Summer) with Wanted swapped out for DreamBoi?
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I’ve had very similar breakthroughs on WANTED. At some point I realized that my natural way of being is all about fun and play, and, most importantly, not caring whether my jokes or my personality overall lands with people or not. it skyrocketed my results with women and helped me become more popular overall.
I’d suggest to consider that it’s probably WANTED helping you to discover your authentic style of seduction and being before switching to another sub. Although, an addition of Chosen and Summertime to WANTED sounds pretty sweet
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Tools for seduction
I present to you my tools for seduction and opening with women:
Play this and become unnecessarily competitive.
Balance this on the temple of any women you find interesting.
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Finding My Own Joy
Stack is now:
Chosen + Summertime + DreamBoi
Chosen: The MVP. Gentle but powerful radiant leader. Very useful for work
Summertime: unwind a lifetime of bracing, friendship betrayal and failure, return joy to system.
DreamBoi: to replace Wanted - results mostly physical shifting, bodily aches and pains, clashing with Chosen
Happy with the selection, it fits much better with my own system - Wanted/Chosen was the warm leader clashing with trying to be the mystery alpha and it showed in my body when stuff started to hurt in my feet and torso. It’s time to swap it out for the gentler, energy compatible version and play that for a cycle or two.
Grateful for the 5 cycles for what it showed me - that I was genuinely becoming more and more attractive, leaner and more able to free myself for approaching women. Summertime will handle the nervous system relaxation better and it will get me to understand that past childhood friendship failures doesn’t mean to shut yourself off totally from expressing oneself spontaneously.
I stopped a fight.
Felt kinda embarrassed about stepping in as well. Mild act of road rage where two big burly blokes are roughing each other up. I stepped in between them and kept telling them “he’s good, he understands he messed up” while more drivers behind them are adding to the upset because they’re causing a tail back. Dude even thanked me, but what tf for? Regulating his nervous system or what?
Then I Snapped
After that bunch of nonsense and soon as I sat in my usual hangout place outside, I was taken by this extremely fit dancer in a group of people as part of a flash mob. She was fine as hell, however I was also aware of how much stock I put in her as a woman with such presence.
Then a thought crossed my mind - she is never going to see me out here. So I returned to my own entertainment.
I’m the WANTED one and yet I’m out here hoping and yearning to be seen and liked. It was then that I knew I hated how much I sold myself out for approval rather than put priority on my life. I always knew this was my background operating system.
No more.
That choice — to stop performing and start becoming — belongs only to you.
I decided to lead me first rather than be fake af. Let them come to me.
DreamBoi is telling me to be spontaneous and real (attractive, kooky, weird, artistic, misunderstood whatever) and fuck trying to be liked. I’m learning to, after trying to be the “alpha mystery man” it hurts physically. Let’s lead with weird instead. 
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Honestly though with all the manosphere and redpill stuff that’s been showing up and men running around trying to be “high value” leaning into your own aesthetic gives you a huge advantage. It’ll make you stand out more. Weird and artistic is a winning combo imo.
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It makes me laugh at how many men think being a hardass is the winning ticket with women when we are entering 2027 and beyond with Gen Z and alpha teaching everyone a new way of being that is much more grounded, “authentic” and self leading, despite social media pressures and the like. I like the direction our society is going…
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