Let’s put these quotes here from book “jealousy and envy views on two powerful feeling” this is rich manifestation I am looking at this topic because it’s related to my relationship with money
It is important and fruitful to clearly delineate the differences between envy and jealousy. The Oxford English Dictionary’s definition of jealousy
implies a resentfulness toward another on account of known or suspected rivalry; troubled by the belief, suspicion, or fear that the good that one desires to gain or keep for oneself had been or may be diverted to another;
resentfulness toward another on account of known or suspected rivalry, for example in love and affection, especially in sexual love. It is interesting that jealousy is also defined as intolerant of unfaithfulness, solicitous for preservation of rights, vehement in wrath, desire, or devotion. This last meaning seems to involve passion and a certain belief in and reliance on justice and loyalty.
The meaning of envy is rather different. The definition speaks of grudg-ing contemplation of more fortunate persons, of people with advantages; envy is related to invidere, to look upon in a bad sense; malice, enmity; mor-tification, and ill will occasioned by the contemplation of another’s superior advantages. Also in a more neutral sense, to wish oneself on a level with
another in some respect, or possessed of something that another has.
Jealousy requires the capacity of relating on a three-person relation-
ship level, on an oedipal level. Jealousy is linked with rivalry for the love,
attention, and possible privileges from a third. It arises from a belief or
fear that the love object may divert some or all of his or her love or atten-
tion to another. A profound feeling of unfairness and betrayal is often
present in the fantasies of the jealous person and can often be the basis for
the hatred and wish of revenge the individual experiences. We have all
had to struggle in the course of development with our feelings of ambiva-
lence toward our love objects, and jealousy is usually linked with suspi-
ciousness toward the desired object or the rival. The feeling of jealousy
can call for violent hatred and a strong wish for revenge. It is often accom-
panied by powerful feelings and fantasies of being tricked and deceived,
both by the object of devotion and by the rival. The difference between
jealousy and feelings of envy has mainly to do with the fact that the vic-
tim of jealousy feels less completely at the mercy of the other as he or she
has already achieved more complex, somewhat more mature and multiple
object relationships.
That’s what a healing for money Negative beliefs should work on
In jealousy I feel: “I am the one who has been excluded from love. I am standing outside of an intimate relationship that is particularly precious to me.”1 Behind jealousy, there is always a sense of loss, and with that, acute pain and sadness, but also a feeling of humiliation and shame.
Another interesting differentiation is one that goes back to Nietzsche and was introduced into the analytic debate by the Swiss analyst Brigit Barth (1990)—the one between common envy and existential envy: com-mon envy is conscious, loud, and vehement. It wants to take what the other has and demands a simple reversal of inequality, not the establish-ment of justice. Existential envy is secret, veiled, and quiet. This envy knows it cannot have what it admires. This hopelessness causes despair, rage, rebellion, and hatred, together with the conviction not to be able to survive without the desired value. It wants the humiliation, disempower-ment, and destruction of the envied one.
