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#1

Brothers ,
I’m in a terrible situation right now.
I ‘be met a girl thing we’re going well because I did not care too much.
But I decided to end the single life life style and put more effort in this relationship.
Love is there for sure on both sides , but I’m getting out of control when she is not there.
I have not done anything wrong yet but I feel it din my chest I don’t want to go back to neediness because I forgot how to act in a relationship.
Anything that can help any advice on sins would be welcome.

Thanks

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#3

Buy ascension and follow the guidelines for listening.

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#4

Are you running any subs at the present moment?

Also honestly just relax take a deep breath. When you get in those situations it is almost like anxiety is pushing you to do something.

Best thing to do is work on calming yourself and think things through with a clear head… letting emotions control everything is a great way to fuck everything up

Maybe work on figuring things that you can do while she isn’t there like hobbies

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#5

Yes, I agree with @TheBoxingScientist, Ascension makes you independent and self-reliant, you will become your own source of happiness, gratitude, etc

Combine it with Primal to adore girls, and fall in love with them, without neediness.

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#6

At the moment I’m running ascension

#7

Sorry i make a lot of typos when I’m nervous .

#8

Keep runing ascension maybe mix some primal in there as well… but like what hobbies are you doing

When she isn’t around you should be making yourself do activities so you have less time to focus on her absence

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#9

Thanks for your suggestions
Since I already have both (ascension and ps)
I will try this combination.
I keep you updated .

Peace

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#10

Here’s your “problem”

:point_down:

Sounds like you went from aloof to attached…and now it’s scaring the piss outta ya.

Good. Don’t stop until you find things to fill your life with that get you juiced and are independent of your new serious relationship. Don’t neglect yourself. Keep building yourself up.

And enjoy the ride :sunglasses:

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#11

I feel like Wanted would be perfect for you but it’s special.

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#12

Here ‘s m’y plan
I’ll stack ascension and wanted for while.
And I will report the result.

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#13

If your going to do Wanted just do Wanted solo. And then add Ascension if everything is good because in your case Wanted will work in a very particular way that would help with the girl. Ascension works in a way where you become high status which is what attracts the girl.

Wanted works in a way where you get attractive and mysterious to get the girl and are non chalant about her.

My personal advice would be to do Wanted for at least 3 months to get rid of the neediness and then add Ascension to compliment Wanted.

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#14

You need to work on this as well… in addition to subs, you may find some mindset books very beneficial. See if either of these sounds helpful to you:

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#15

You forgot the most important book;):

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#16

I haven’t read that one, but I do like what I have read from Mark Manson! I also in no way meant that my paltry list of 2 books should be considered exhaustive. :wink:

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#17

Now that @BLACKICE gave the ideas of what books to read. Here’s my personal favorite (There not the best to actually get girls but I like them for the story they hold and for what not to do cough cough The Game):

This book is the best honestly, if you use the things it teaches it will help you in your social life, dating life and professional life like it did for me (If I had to pick one book to read to become the best person I can be, it would be this one, it really changed my life and no other book has had this effect on me, I even made a course on the book’s teachings back in the day that’s how helpful it was):

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#18

I haven’t got a specific book reference, but I’ve found studying (and actually applying!) Stoic philosophy is a very good approach to getting rid of neediness and cultivating a mindset of “I am enough” and “I am ok”.

#19

Same here, I remember reading “the subtle art of not giving a F” a few years ago and it was very much what I needed to learn at the time. I haven’t gotten around to reading “models” but anything by Mark Manson has my vote.

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#20

That book alone has really helped change my perspective on so many things in life. Honestly it’s a really good book to go back to and reread every few years or so

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#21

Totally different issue, but just yesterday I ordered a copy of Loving What Is by Byron Katie for my mom. I found that to be beneficial for me as well, for not getting all bent out of shape when something isn’t the way I think it “should” be.

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