Listening Schedule
Dragon Reborn RED | Jun 2024 Multistage Stage IVC6
15 mins, Tues and Thur, 7 days break after 21 days
On-WashOut
Shame runs the show for so many of us.
It keeps us moving, performing, functioning — and that’s why the idea of letting it go feels terrifying.
Because if shame isn’t driving you… what’s left?
Who are you without it?
Shame is behind every coping mechanism you picked up when your real, authentic self was rejected early in life.
You learned you couldn’t simply be you, so you adapted.
You figured out what you had to do to earn love or avoid pain.
Hello perfectionism, over-functioning, people-pleasing, self-abandonment.
And if love wasn’t available, you found ways to numb, distract, or detach so the hurt wouldn’t swallow you.
Hi addiction, thrill-seeking, emotional shut-down, overthinking everything to death.
These coping mechanisms were survival tools.
They helped you exist in an environment that did not allow you to show up as yourself and still be loved, held, and cared for in the way you needed.
But here’s the truth:
The adaptation is not you.
You are layered.
You are complex.
You are beautiful.
And yes — you are messy.
You’re meant to be.
Shame, not you, is the voice saying you’re unlovable unless you’re perfect.
Shame is the force telling you how you’re “supposed” to be, blocking you from discovering who you could be.
Shame is what insists feelings are “bad” and that you should just “be happy,” silencing the very real pain of the love you needed but never received.
Shame tells endless stories that aren’t true.
And if you want to access the bright, whole, loving self at your core, you have to be willing to look directly at that shame —
so you can finally see that it has never been who you are.