Dealing with superiority recon?

Questions and Comments
#1

How do I handle this recon? I genuinely see others as inferior these past few days, the average human just seems so miserable and boring.

How am I supposed to not see myself as superior to them? Yes, I know everyone has their own pros and cons, and I know I don’t know everything…

But the average human is just riddled with cons, with MAYBE a hint of potential, is how I see it.

The obese middle aged people entering stores only to spend 50usd on nothing but sweets? the average person who has the sense of humor of a dying fish, and makes his way through life with only the most basic small talk?

The mouth breathers, the ones that mumble, the ones that barely know two words in english (pathetic!), the ones that chug energy drinks on the daily…

How are we even the same species? And those same people often tell me that I’m the one that’s delusional, that I think too highly of myself… I just know my worth, I know my intelligence is pretty damn high, I know I’m physically very attractive, I know my empathy and emotional intelligence is also very developed (even when it doesn’t seem like it in this Recon Rant)…

They tell me I’m arrogant, that I need to be humble, to sit down and shut up, because apparently that’s unattractive and it bothers them? Is it really that bad in their eyes to just be confident and say “yeah, I’m fucking awesome dude”??

I hold so much contempt towards those people, because I see them judging me for living my best life vividly, and yet they don’t judge themselves for being obese slobs with the communication skills of a slug.

Unfiltered rant over.

These are my feelings for the past few days, what do I do about it, usually I’m a “my way or the highway” type, but it seems that I’ve grown far too hateful and angry in the past few days.

Does anyone else feel the same when on/off recon? Any tips/ideas how to ease this hatred? I’ve already cut off about 3 or 4 friends.

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#2

You are not your thoughts, you get those thoughts because you have learnt this modaility probably to feel safe… inquiry into what’s the purpose of these kind of thoughts

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#4

I’ll have to reread this a few times, you’ve written a lot of good stuff here, I’ll have to ignore that “god” part though haha, as I’m not a religious person.

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#5

Sounds like you’re currrently more aware of other people’s limits than of your own.

It might be helpful to push yourself physically, intellectually, emotionally, etc., so that you re-contact your own limits.

In most cases, there are usually many beings above you and many below; many situations beyond you, and many under your control and competence.

Which of those we put attention in any given period is a choice. Sometimes we need to remember one side and sometimes the other.

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#6

me neither :slight_smile: but I just like to say it! You can definitely leave out the god part or add anything youd like yourself! Be creative!

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#7

Thank you fellas, keep it coming, good stuff here for sure :slight_smile: already feeling better (though I’m still quite reconed to hell and back haha)

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#8

That is true! Its great to remember that every person you meet, knows something that you dont or is more skilled at something, that you are not as skilled in. The most boring guy on a lunch break could be a millionaire. The beggar on the street could know more about life than you. This is extreme but everyone is better at something than you or knows more about something than you. They offer their own unique value.

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#9

Stay strong, NatureDad.

That may be the most important point of all. Just remembering that this is recon in the first place.

Whenever possible, I like to take these things back to the body. It’s one of the fastest ways to get humble. Also one of the fastest ways to contact true strength.

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#10

That was not recon, bad things always happen to everybody. You simply getting it for a reason.
Learn to re-frame from whatever situation you get into.

Once in a while I bump into some problems, but using tools like title/s I listened to, I’m better equip with any problems I’m dealing with.

#11

I think some of it is recon, honestly. the shift in mentality is pretty severe.

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#12

Firstly, if you want to reduce the recon, take it slower. Reduce exposure. Shorter loops and additional rest days.

Secondly, you may feel superior and probably are in the areas that count for you. But that fat slob over there might be a coding genius, a pillar of his community, because he is able to bridge all gaps and restore peace. He might be a talented wood craftsman, paint the most beautiful pictures or just be the most loving granddad ever etc. You see only what is visible to your eyes.
Keeps that in mind.

Thirdly, you never know their history. Perhaps he was like you twenty years ago. Then tragedy hit and he lost his family, his job and everything and he just gave up.

Fourthly, write it down. Get these thoughts out of your head. Be it in paper or in here. Once we externalise thoughts they often reduce their presence in our day to day life.

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#13

Love bomb for humanity seems to be a good choice here…and the best part is that little baby is for free…. :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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#14

@NatureDad : What sub are you running?

#15

Yeah, fair enough, I do know a friend that’s fat, but he’s no slob, he’s charismatic, a verified genius and a coding genius (dude started learning at age 4 lmao)

I’m mainly talking about the average people. When you meet a genius you can tell, I can tell when others are smarter or better at me at things, but the average human is just absolutely not, we’re talking average here.

#16

Stark Black, Wanted Black, Primal

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#17

It sounds like they do judge themselves, which is why they judge you. It’s the projection again Saint was talking about.

I don’t get like this anymore. I used to. What helped me was reminding myself one little aspect of your life can forever alter how you live it. And sometimes you’re not in control of that circumstance. We all see the outward of everyone, but we rarely glimpse the internal. I just keep that in mind. Distancing through anger or “othering” people like this is easier than understanding that’s another human being that’s more similar to you than you think.

It sounds like you’re afraid of the traits you see in them. For these people to live rent free in your head this much, it sounds like there’s other stuff going on. Do I approve of them projecting their own issues with themselves onto you? Hell no, people should be responsible for their shit. But I do think it sounds like you hold yourself to a standard and don’t want to fall below that for fear of consequences.

#18

Ofcourse, my standards are high and I’ll meet them, these people are often used as fuel for myself to never get to that level of self sabotage and hatred.

That’s how I truly see it, self hatred, if you let yourself go that hard? do you really love yourself? would you let your loved ones eat so much and get so unhealthy? Hell no. Therefore I do not allow myself to get there either.

I also hold myself to high standards because I am living proof to many of my dearest friends, I don’t want to just talk the talk, I don’t want to be the guru that sells them enlightment but can’t even fix his own room, or sell them an idea on how to become a billionaire when I’m broke.

I’ll be the guru that gives them advice because he is a living embodiment of his reality, and I’ll tell them how to become a millionaire only when I am one.

Would you get sex advice from a virgin? or from the guy that sleeps around with many women and has a giver’s mentality?

#19

I’m not gonna pick apart what fuels someone towards their goals. I know life is really complex. And sometimes the harshest things can be used as fuel.

But from what you wrote here it sounds like it is fueled by people’s perception of you and your status. Do you feel like that’s something that elevates you and makes you feel better or chains you down and drags you along?

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#20

I think it fuels me, I judge them, and I’m disgusted by them for judging me when I’m clearly doing something better than them.

When I see someone doing better than me I learn from him, simple as, if he’s doing better, then that means I can grow, if I were to judge that person, then no wonder I’d get stuck and go nowhere.

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#21

How would you feel practicing compassion for them while also not taking their shit?

I fully agree with you, there are some people in this world who suffer and then take it out on everyone else. But time spent in anger over these people only hurts yourself. Granted if it’s continual treatment, yeah cut them out of your life and use that anger to establish boundaries. But from a broad perspective and thinking about it as a global concept? It seems like it would be an internal rumination that just decreases your quality of life.

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