Oh. It’s there. But distance and social mores stand in the way. 
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The idea is that to vet other men, elder males who are related to the woman are objective about their opinions.
Else there is a possibility for sexual competition between men hence leading to a biased opinion.
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I know more about the story of the individual she’s talking about. But she does know to keep my biases in mind re: thoughts and advice on the matter.
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Highly accurate.
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Note to myself 
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Rebirth: Karen Destroyer ZP 
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How about any books by Lindsay Gibson?
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If you were watching a movie of someone you thought was a narcissist, and another movie of a narcissist who was truly healed, what differences would you notice?
What would a healed narcissist be doing different?
What would a healed narcissist not be doing?
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The healed narc wouldn’t be manipulating or lying anymore. They wouldn’t be purposely doing things to get under someone’s skin. They would become vulnerable and honest. Introspective and more educated about why they were that way and what they did to start to recover from their own abuse in childhood.
They would be cuddling up on a couch with their partner, having quality time. Warmth and richness of experience.
The difference would be that they would have awareness when they start acting that way again and have the awareness on what to do about it.
They talk about it. They share what’s going on.
They actually want the best for everyone.
They help other narcs to overcome too.
Sounds like a beautiful fantasy. 
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How does being a well balanced person includes being vulnerable? This vulnerability stuff is something I hear people say but I have the hardest time understanding it. Who in their right mind wants to make themselves vulnerable on purpose?
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It promotes intimacy & deeper connection IMO
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Vulnerability fosters good emotional and mental health . Vulnerability also is a sign of courage. We become more resilient and brave when we embrace who we truly are and what we are feeling. Lastly, being vulnerable can help us foster better connections and relationships with others.
How do you think empathy fits in?
(Their ability to understand what others are feeling, their inner worlds, and then demonstrating care for that.)
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I started to witness said narcissist experiencing this more with time but then went back to the narc ways… seemingly went back and fourth.
I feel they were born with empathy but then shielded that to protect themselves.
To bring them back to before the narcissism and revise (rewrite) the experience, I wonder if that would work.
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Apparently Lucifer was the first narcissist, he fell in love with himself and was obsessed by his own beauty.
A narcissistic personality (disorder) is a mental health condition which they have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They seek too much attention and want others to admire them. When someone has this disorder, they lack the ability to understand or care about their feelings of others.
They are preoccupied with their own feelings and needs, seem cold and detached when you need emotional support, and have difficulty making a sincere apology and accepting responsibility for any harm they may cause. It can leave you feeling entirely alone and dissatisfied in a relationship.
People with this disorder uses manipulative tactics to win arguments, love drama especially after a fight. Trust level is erratic, makes you second-guess them constantly.
Narcissists has superficial and momentary affection which serves as a way to get what they want from people. They may be helpful in some extent but a lack of empathy and devotion to themselves renders narcissist unable to develop meaningful relationships.
They have a specific attraction towards people, the one that reflect well on themselves.
Partly I have these traits, but basing on psychological evaluation Its not me.
We can be narcissist from our upbringing, childhood trauma, and other things.
Dragon Reborn, well it was awesome. Have you ever have that moment in your life wherein you are so tired from work then you hug someone and you felt so much love that the tiredness is totally gone. DR can give it to you. The spiritual part is quite hard for most people because it is generally something nobody can describe accurately but it exist.
Love Bomb or Love Bomb for Humanity (LBFH) , when you learn to appreciate, you will open yourself to the world - it will be easier for the good things to come into your life. And if you run the other subs, it will have shorter time to get the results.
A narcissist have a threshold were they can never survive a stressful level, arguments or a dire situation, but once a person can accept Love and driven by it, you cannot be shaken or turned by any circumstances.
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wow.
The amount of applied wisdom in your posts above. Not just the quoted one, but all of them.
Mind-blowing.
Awesome.
Learning a lot. Thank you.
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For example, another implication of your points:
When I charge a person a fee for helping them, it also offers them some protection from any potential unprofessionalism on my part.
By explicitly symbolizing and framing the person’s contribution (the contribution of the person who is being helped), it protects that person from any feelings of guilt or manipulation that I might introduce into the interaction. It protects them from the aura of martyrdom that I might intentionally or unintentionally project onto this effort to help them. That projection of martyrdom is usually going to happen, sooner or later.
This is an important point.
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Well said, Malkuth. Since your work involves duties of a similar nature, am sure you get it.
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I wonder if a person could help a former lover professionally with the form of a contract?
Reading this has me pondering.
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