https://youtube.com/shorts/iwsHFVGUGGM?si=Z7dWrA-HlSQo40Ga
I don’t agree fully, Does he say some kinda way that you can’t be congruent, concept which is a much talked about concept here
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I agree 100000% every word he said. He’s right.
You’re probably just misunderstanding what he’s trying to say because he doesn’t spend a hour going into details.
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I get what he’s getting at in that we are ultimately the most authentic with ourselves (we’re the only ones privy to our thoughts and feelings at any given time), but that clip is missing out on some important nuance:
Authenticity is a spectrum. In general, our favorite people in the world are those we can be more honest (hence authentic) with.
In the case of interacting with people we aren’t familiar with, some put on a mask of openness. These people are different than those with a higher capacity to accept reality as it is at any given moment.
The video was speaking more on the former group than the (rarer) latter.
As social beings, we are meant to interact and our action are influence with our environment.
We can’t be original because we learned those ‘acts’ maybe from our parents or neighbors, so keep on doing it sometimes for a lifetime.