Lmfao
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Hey @pacman, sucks that they try to make you feel this bad about yourself. It can be difficult when you are in such a situation to know what to do. But to me, it seems that you have a certain level of clarity right now, that moment of clarity is what can propel you ahead. Perhaps we can see how the next step can get you even further.
Have you ever tried to find out what motivates them to treat you like this? The best way to find out how to behave is to find out from their point of view, what is going on for them, what is leading them towards such behavior. Also, what does it look like from a third parties perspective if you would go through these situations? This is what I do when dealing with difficult situations. I am curious what you come up with and take your time to figure it out, try to go deeper each time…
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This. And this is true for any family, friends, coworkers, etc .
Man, even ** Insert your Biden/Trump/Obama ** get “disrespected” (I use your word) all the fucking time. There is no point in life where this won’t happen. It is just life and interaction with other people. You can be upset when it happen, but understand that this can happen like rain can happen and it is your job to handle it.
Work on your body language, verbal judo, or just avoidance (why bother with annoying people).
Focus on you, don’t focus on them.
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Start by being comfortable saying no. Alpha means “first”. Put yourself first.
Doesn’t matter as long as you value yourself. When you start seeing yourself as high value, they will have no other choice than seeing yourself that way too.
You need to start calling out disrespect. No violently or harshly. But when you see disrespect, make your opinion known.
Listen, this is a long journey. You’re not going to change overnight. I hope you have a healing sub in your stack. Are you running Regeneration?
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@pacman
In addition to the above, there is also the option of thinking that is disrespectful treatment and avoiding it. Hang with people who respect you.
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I kind of feel that each time I feel this way it’s my ego being attacked.i need to get rid of the ego so that I can be humble and communicate effectively with people.
If I’m really honest with my self …it’s like I’m too good for everyone else and the smallest remarks hurts me so much but as I said it ego driven.
No JUST Ascension solo.
Yes you are correct the journey is a long one.
Just to add this small part.
Complete strangers treat me extremely high status. This issues of disrespect is only prevalent amongst my immediate family coworkers and friends.
I also make time to contact people so called friends and they don’t ever make an attemp to call back atleast. 
I can easily forgot them but some books say that we need to foster relationships And try best not to end any… I’m lost
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that is a tough problem pacman! I wonder what it is you truly want from them? Acceptance and connection?
Out of curiosity, can you feel when you have rapport with them or when you lose it? Do you know how to build it back up?
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No, you have to get rid of your ego to think properly and therefore be successful.
Take, for example, this exchange between myself and @Yazooneh
[quote=“Yazooneh, post:275, topic:9056”]
Best secret of attracting women is truthfully not caring about outcomes, taking risks for the sake of thrill rather than the reward that comes after
Everything you know about PUA is useless when not attached to a man with a player mindset who loves the game
[/quote]
To which I replied.
And how does a man without the player mindset acquire the player mindset?
Think about it.
Nine minutes later @Yazooneh then replied
how does the man that hates playing poker become a poker champion
think about it
but it ties into the point i said, by ditching attachment to outcomes he enjoys the game more and hopefully embraces it’s speed bumps enough to like playing.
dudes with a thirst to find their wives NOW dont enjoy women at all
Yazooneh was clearly annoyed that my reply pointed out a serious flaw to his thinking. And because he was annoyed his ego got in the way which is why he came up with the nonsensical reply.
Yazooneh was so eager to reply simply because I had pricked his bubble that any old rubbish would clearly do irrespective of it being in anyway helpful or factually correct.
Being humble for the sake of being humble merely makes you seem like a Dickens character, “I’m ever so 'umble, guv”. Women won’t drop their knickers and men won’t follow you, ffs.
And you effectively communicate with people by asking them questions and giving orders.
If you have been following my journal you will know what sort of institution I am currently working in.
Do you really think that if an inmate uses mean words it will have any effect on me whatsoever.
Really.
REALLY.
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This is too simplistic.
Why is there such a thing as not outshining the boss? (One of the 48 laws of power, I believe).
It’s because the boss has a fragile ego. This is especially present in middle and senior management. Yet interestingly, I find it much less present in self made men at the very top of their power pyramid. Hence, of the three presidents the senile old fool and the empty suit would be susceptible to being disrespected whereas the narcarcisstic bore would not regard mean comments as being worthy of though and as such, out of the three is the only alpha male.
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I tried but it’s just that they have more control over us in lower levels. They dictate our work load etc. So they distribute unfairly when they see that you are a threat to them.
They also set up and trap you.
Yes this is the country i live in 
So don’t let them see you as a threat, then. This is not rocket science.
Your “job” should not be your main focus. Make sure you are not in the top 20% but just below that so they won’t see you as a threat and also won’t give you extra work but your performance will still be good enough to keep your job and go for promotion etc.
Do you work in a govt school or a private school? As presumably private would care much more about performance (but even then the above still holds true).
You need to start working on your own investments and businesses.
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I would love to build it back up but then again why must I accept their nonsense?
As @Simon mentioned that I need to accept this life style since it’s part of being alpha. It won’t be easy but I need to accept it and be comfortable with it.
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I’m at a government school.
The only reason why I work hard at my job is because I assumed it will make me better personally. What I’m realising is that the harder I work the more u shine and the more people attack me.
They also hold me back because of their positions.
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You assumed wrong.
Why do you have this wrong assumption stuck in your head?
For the same reason you are morally disgusted by bribery and corruption.
What is it in your upbringing and culture that leads you to not understand reality?
Get a job in a private school if you must teach.
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I get you!
Thank you for that awareness.
I will now take the relevant action.
Appreciate that @remarkable 
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Isn’t your goal to be respected and have good relationships with them? If not, what is it that you truly want? I asked these questions to gauge what your current level of ability is, before putting blame on others. Most often fights like these are due to a lack of social skills. Complaining is a poor substitute for being responsible for getting a result.
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Yes that’s absolutely true mate.
My social skills are not the best.
What do you suggest ?
Wow man, that is some radical self-honesty, I respect that… Honestly, my impression of you is that your laid-back guy and I don’t know if your social skills are not the best.(chill guy to talk to) If you want my suggestions, I would recommend the following:
Rapport: The Four Ways to Read People
by Laurence Alison and Emily Alison |
and
Straight-Line Leadership: Tools for Living with Velocity and Power in Turbulent Times
by Dusan Djukich
( I saw @Simon recommending this one, and I have not seen anything like it!)
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