Alpha and Jealousy

The Emperor's Lounge
#1

Imagine following scenario:

You are in a relationship with a beautiful woman for over a year. You have your ups and downs and not everything is perfect but all in all it is a loving relationship. Now your girl starts to meet another guy. She invites him regularly to her place on Fridays at 8 pm. He stays with her alone until midnight… You know he is her type of guy but you also know you can trust your partner and she would break up with you first before cheating.

What would be the most alpha way to react in that kind of situation?

On the one hand, you do not want to come across overly jealous.
On the other hand, however, I feel like being to „cool“ with it could also be less than ideal. Or is it?

Input from alpha males only pls haha

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#2

This just ain’t true in my experience. No one is to be 100% trusted and most people cheat in relationships despite the quality of it. Also Don’t see why dude would need to be the there at those hours on a regular basis. So if he is, something is being done.

At that point she’s getting an ultimatum, either she stops inviting him over (which btw if this happened even once that’ll be the very first time I address it), or she can just be single. I won’t force her hand cause I know there’s someone else out there (and my preference is being single anyway, I’m just humoring this hypothetically).

She so much as pretends that she doesn’t see what’s wrong, or gets defensive about it, back to the streets shes goes. End of story. Unless it was explicitly stated and agreed to by both ppl in the relationship that this was cool before it started happening, this is disrespect…and she’d know that.

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#3

Is this really alpha male behavior? This is setting boundaries but doesn’t that type of (over-)reaction come from a needy place, fearing to get rejected and hurt?

They are just hanging out, man

#4

I don’t care if it’s “alpha” or not. Don’t care how it’s perceived by her or anyone else for that matter. It’s my boundary and if she doesn’t respect it she’s free to be single again.

I didn’t say she couldn’t chill with him at all or that it was a problem to have male friends. Just not gonna be under circumstances like that unless once again, this was already explicitly spoken upon and agreed to by both her and I that them being together at her place every week during those hours was cool beforehand.

No jealousy here and no emotion. It’s about respect. I know better than to put myself through an emotional roller coaster over someone I could easily replace. No neediness and no fear of rejection. Usually males that tolerate something this but aren’t really cool with it, are the ones that are needy and feel like they can’t find anyone else so easily which is why they tend to tolerate poor treatment from women in the first place.

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#5

I would write the same thing as @Davisnwc
And below is the thing seen thousand times only from beta (we are talking about GF, not side chicks):

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#6

Thanks for the input @Davisnwc

Now imagine you are the guy the girl meets every Friday. The first times when meeting her you did not even know she has a boyfriend.

What would you do? How would you react?

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#7

I assume she would ask you. She always prioritizes you over him, but on those Fridays you are working until midnight or are busy otherwise, so you would be „okay“ with it.

#8

Gotta be honest, most women I end up attracting are either in relationships or already married (which is another reason I move very slowly with women cause if they’re already taken I’m cool with not going any further…she needs to take accountability for agreeing to be with that man). Basically at that point I’d need to have a conversation with dude cause although I know most ppl cheat I’m not about to risk getting into unnecessary drama for the sake of entertainment or pleasure from a woman that’s already taken.

If he cool with it then fine, and even then from that point on I would rather meet in public places unless her man was already gonna be with us. That way, is she ever thought of trying anything she may be deterred since we’re in public and wouldn’t wanna cause a scene or feared being rejected in public.

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#9

Once again, if we both agree then whatever but in real life I’d look at her crazy for even asking me something like this, and then hit her with a series of questions to uncover why she would even consider it. Chances are there isn’t gonna be a truly logical response either

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#10

Hahah, I feel you on that. Unwantedly I am currently having a hoard of boyfriends around me who are jealous of me and have explicitly told so their gfs lol.

In my experience, it is never worth the drama to have an affair with a girl who is in a relationship. If she cheats because of you it always ends bad.
She has to break up on her own and normally it does not take long for her to do that…

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#11

Exactly. I’ve seen plenty situations where at best a dude ends up a long term side piece and at worst could lose his life.

Also seen a situation play out to where the BF found out, left the girl and then the girl blamed the side guy and ran off with someone else entirely different altogether

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#12

I would probably do that if I were the boyfriend.

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#13

Um I don’t think a girl who’s with an actual “alpha” would ever be in that type of situation. There’s a lot more to this hypothetical scenario to be honest. For example, did she ask you for your permission or did she start doing this out of the whim?

If she did ask her guy for his permission and he said yes, then there’s nothing to complain about; a real “alpha” would accept his own decisions. And if she didn’t and just started inviting this guy out of the blue, it’s clear that the boyfriend was never ‘alpha’ to begin with.

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#14

I would honestly go dance alone for a week and allow other girls to come and wow me, when you feel good there’s always a door open to beautiful women

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#15

If your not happy with her staying with this guy till midnight tell her to f**k off.

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