Advice on what sub to use for no motivation, and not seeing a point to life anymore?

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#161

Agree with @Dantes about transmuting that sexual energy and taking some different actions. As an example of transforming that energy, when the urge arises, do a bunch of pushups or bodyweight squats or any other exercise you want. Get yourself a little stronger and a little healthier in the process of rewiring the associated actions you have with your libido.

There are a ton of other activities you could do if working out isn’t your thing, but pushups were the first thing that came to mind and useful for immediate effect. I’ve used that to good effect when trying to calm down my libido many times in the past.

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#162

Those are called heuristics.

IF Hungry, and HAVE choice, THEN go FOR healthier option. You literally take the thinking away :wink:

^ also reason why HABITS and DISCIPLINE are important, because you arent always ‘motivated’, that’s when your rules and values take over… and it turns into a long term thing

That’s why we also discriminate, because purely by chance there is some truth in some stuff.

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#163

Agree when I was in thailand i noticed how depressed the animals looked who were locked up in these small cages. The look in their eyes was one of tears.

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#164

In terms of avoiding my sexuality that’s definitely part of it. I don’t know how to deal with my sex drive In a healthy way. i act out in lower nature activities ex fapping, healthy sexuality is something I been trying to learn for sure

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#165

Pmo is definitely a substitute for something I’m lacking in my life. There’s a need I’m trying to get met but I’m doing it with negative outlets.
Congrats man on overcoming this issue though how is Nofap for you now ? How’s your relationship to your sexuality now ?

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#166

Jeeze this was massively depressing to read, I feel for animals in cages or who are mistreated

#167

I mentioned on here sometime back that when I would get urges I would go in my room and dance or shadow box. This helped a lot in transmuting my sexual energy I’m going to get into the habit of doing this again everyday.
Push ups is a good one to, my room is small but I can make this happen in the living room

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#168

I would throw in primal to this mix. Primal Helps you discover what healthy sexuality is. It did for me once primal got the Q treatment, not to mention primal in the past helped my mood due to the sanguine sub in it. I may add primal to my stack again.
I just started running QL few days ago, So as the journey grows I’ll update on that

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#169

:smile: thnx bro :blush:

ya i used porn for subitstute too because I was always angry at ppl, didn’t have any frends, living with my parents, no job, no nothing
it was really bad :laughing:
it was like my escape and i used it to fill in the void of the state of my life and most of all distracting myself from changing myself and growing
i had lots of limiting belief about myself, i basically thought i was a loser and hopeless
i never went to therapy or nothing, no one knew about my addiction i kept it to myself and lied to ppl
and i just stuck in a loop of zero change, going to porn to get pleasure lol ya my case is extreme
but at the same time, i overcamed it! so if i can do it, then anyone can, this I know for sure!

once i overcame my addiction and changed i was like my life force camed back to me and i got out in the world, no anxiety and confident but it is only 1 phase in my life i have to continue to keep growing b/c i owe it to myself

the best way is with subs and subclub have the best subs in the earth

im on nofap now for 1 year, after i changed with subs i went 1 month on nofap and then i just keep going and keeping going, never struggled
only see real women, and also women will be way more attractive to you in a healthier way, its very different
you will get very very very very horny, but its a different kind of horny idk how to explain
it’s not the drug addict release kind of horny, its a very deep genuine mature attraction type of horny
its like a strong deep calm overall horny
nothing erratic and big urge, chasing quick fix like it is when ur brain conditioned for porn
and the horny gets balanced by other aspect of attraction/connection
so it doesnt make you mindless you are still always present and calm
and since porn/fap is no longer existing as outlet so what happens is you become very charisma and glowing from this sex energy :star_struck:

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#170

If i could triple like your comment I would. Your description of your life At the beginning is like my life to almost a T lol
It sounds like u rewired your brain man congrats, seeing a attractive girl doesn’t trigger you to act out with negative outlets, ex fapping, edging etc
There’s of a lot of members myself included who struggle with pmo in this community that I think would find what you wrote very inspiring.
It’s interesting you mentioned life force came back once you got this under control. I’ve noticed when I fap or binge, whether it’s the same day or day after or after that etc my eyes look dead.
My eyes look dead, there’s No emotion when talking to people especially women. I’m just numb and my eyes reflect that numbness.
Now when I’m on a nice streak like you mentioned my like force energy builds up and the life in my eyes also returns.
I have that sparkle in my eyes and I can show my interest in women through my eyes just by looking at them.
That sparkle, is a reflection of my life force energy/ sexual energy.
The sexual energy I’m not releasing through fapping is being released in my eyes when I’m talking to women if that makes sense.
My sexual energy is being shown through my eyes While on Nofap

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#171

yess sir you hav tha shiny eyes :star_struck::star_struck::star_struck:

ya the pmo really drains you lol i can also notice in other guys sometimes when i look at their eyes you can tell if theyre pmoing b/c their eyes will seem dull :laughing: but its ok

if any1 pmo they should kno to never give up!
use subclub subs and be consistent, trust the subs, change your life and be positive
try your best and dont beat urself up or get impatience
it wil all get better!

if you fapped,binge or pmoed, no big deal not the end of the world, there is no point in thinking about it or dwelling on it
just keep working on the inner changes, growths and subs consistent
and the brain will changes your mind will become healthier!!! :muscle:

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