A book that REALLY helped me with recon on Khan

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Bonjourno guys, hope we’re all peachy.

I’m an AVID reader - a ‘self help’ junnkie I would say. I’m currently cunning the Khan (updated version) and stage one hit me hard with realisations (and recon). One of the biggest realisations was that I’m using reading as a coping mechanism to FEEL like i’m doing something. In reality, I’m in the exact same place I was before the book - I still NEEDED to take action.

So with that, I vowed to a, only read one book at a time on the most pressing problem I’m having at the minute and b, take action straight away on whatever I read that day in whatever form possible.

Anyhow,dDuring week 2 of Khan St. 1 , I was getting INSANE recon. Extreme moodiness and on the verge of crying everyday. I was just bottling it up. But I ran into a book that changed everything (I put it down to the NSE) - At Last A Life by Paul David. WIth my realisation, I thought instead of just hammering 4 different books on confidence issues at once, I’ll only read this one and go deep.

Side note - The whole reason I started Khan was due to a bad break up. I was a shell of a man, wouldn’t leave my flat because I was paranoid I would bump into my ex with a new guy. Sadboy listening to sad songs Yada yada you know the drill. Severe anxiety even leaving the flat. I had enough after a few months of feeling like this and intuition said Khan.

St. 1 brought EVERYTHING up - especially in relation to the break up. Feelings of inferiority. Anxiety. Confidence issues. Sadness. Pure feeling of unworthiness. It’s like Khan said “Here they are, the things you’ve been bottling, now we’ve got to deal with them”. And this book has been INSTRUMENTAL in helping me deal with them.

The premise is stupidly simple - you simply sit with the emotions and feelings instead of supressing them, expressing them or trying to ‘fix’ them. You simply ‘allow’ them. Say ‘I’m feeling anxious and that’s ok’. He explains it so much better in the book, but within a few days of simply ‘allowing’ everything I woke up and felt actually good for the first time months. It made stage 1 so much easier after I read it, since everything the subliminal brought up, I just ‘allowed’ and it got released soon after. Great thing is you can whizz through it in an hour or two.

I’ve also been re-reading it through stage 2 (which I combined with Lovebomb), which hasn’t had anywhere near as much anxiety (Lovebomb definitely helped and will be a staple in my stacks after running Khan all the way through). Stage 3 I paired with Sanguine and Noveau Rich and it’s been incredible - zero recon and just pure results. About to plunge into stage 4 feet first on my 3rd read through of the book.

But back to the book - I feel like if Khan hadn’t ‘manifested’ that book, I would’ve quit. I think it’s a great way for dealing with recon for me and helping to ‘release’ the pent up emotions/feelings i’d been carrying.

Anyway, hope this book can help a few of you and you’re all killing it on your own journey :slight_smile:

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#2

Really appreciating this share.

Does this work with any kind of feeling?
I’m especially interested in anger.

BTW, the title is the other way round “At last a life” :see_no_evil:

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#3

Interesting, I had a similar epiphany during stage 1, with the “focus on one thing and go deep, stop being a self-help junkie”.

Great stuff, thanks for the book share. :pray:

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#4

I wholeheartedly agree with you, I was initially thinking about making a post similar to this but then I realised that even with this, you face problems during actual execution because even though you know that if you face the shadow, things will resolve, I try to avoid those emotions as I am really scared of facing/ getting overwhelmed by them. Hence, I decided to give it more time and develop a more practical approach to this whole thing.

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#5

I keep doing that, getting the title the wrong way round :sweat_smile:

Yeah - the book posits it for anxiety but every negative feeling I have I simply let it sit and ‘ride it out’ until it’s accepted. I can imagine it would work well with anger! I tried meditation for my anger and that didn’t help much but just allowing it has personally helped with it.

#6

Beautifully put. It’s so hard to overcome the ‘conditioning’ (The only way I can think of putting it) of actually facing things - I’m still working on this myself with talking to strangers. it’s mad because I know what to do but like you say, it’s developing some sort of practical framework in place that you can apply in the midst of situations.

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#7

Great post and appreciate the book recommendation. I will check it out. I have been following this practice of “sitting in the emotion” for several months now. It really helps when a family member goes ballistic about something and the historic response was to get aggressive etc.

#8

could you explain what that means exactly?

#9

I intepret that as letting it be, feel it, let it happen, not trying to “fix it” or “release it” or do some form of modality to process it, but the act of it letting it happen is actually processing it. When you feel sore muscles after a workout, that is your body processing it and evolving. Likewise when you feel emotions, you’re body is already processing it, so don’t get in the way.

@legacyblox is that your understanding of it?

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#10

One of my mentors used the image of a candy.
A feeling wants to be felt, as a candy wants to be sucked

Just stay with the feeling. Sit quietly and comfortably and notice what the feeling is doing in you. Is it a pressure in the heart? Does it feel like a punch in the gut?
Like a wrestler giving you a

bearhug ?

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Just notice it and feel it as long as it lasts. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. Deleted from your system.

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#11

Plus, if u still can’t hold on to the feeling, try to label what u r feeling using this chart: image
First identify wid ur gut feeling which center partition ur feeling falls into (happy, sad, disgusted etc) (u can do this just in ur head without even looking at the chart) then skim through the outer section to pin point the emotion.
Once u have a word associated wid the emotion, its much easier to keep feeling it by just thinking about the word.
This works well for me, YMMY.

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#12

For me - sitting in the emotion is firstly acknowledging the emotion to myself, considering is this positive charged, negative charged or neutral and not acting to it. Like when my wife goes ballistic at me about something - historically I rose to the occasion and it was game on.

In the last few months, I have worked on sitting in my emotional response to her and acknowledging it is her drama and not mine. This was just one of my learnings that has helped me in dealing with the headwinds I have encountered in my business recently…

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