I think in my case, the reason I don’t do that directly is because of 2 things:
- reputation (as I mentioned)
- the casual effects of that “F**K off” (last time I was cutthroat, it affected my dad’s work)
And here’s a thing these type of people have a thick skull because if you help them once, they become leeches, and while I’m really not the nicest person you’d ever meet, I was also taught to always try and have the “giving hand” than the “asking hand”, but I’m beginning to see that my “giving hand” is giving me headaches now 
The way I used to do it (up until a few months ago) was by completely destroying their self esteems, making them see how lowlife they are, so that they can get the self-awareness to become better, but that is not the best way to go about things.
For example: there used to be a guy I was friends with, a few months back, and this guy always complained about how he can’t get chicks and stuff, and asked me multiple times to set him up with someone, and he kept going on and on (because I’m always surrounded by chicks), but when it got too annoying, this is what I told him:
“Listen man, you’re an unsuccessful and lazy piece of fat shit, you have no ambition, no goals, nothing going on for you in life, you call yourself a powerlifter but it’s just an excuse to keep your tiny fragile ego from breaking, because you know you’re nothing but a lazy fatass, and I didn’t even say anything about your personality yet, but honestly, even if your mom was alive, she would have killed herself because of the virus she brought in this world.”
And well, yeahhhh…. Don’t wanna go back there.





