What Goal Setting System Do You Use?

[Risky]

@Skadoosh

Goal → activate the process → resistance/conditioning surfaces → process it → capacity expands → learning and opportunities become salient → action emerges → continue until either the goal is achieved or your relationship to the goal genuinely changes.

This is gold.

[Skadoosh]

@Risky

This happens naturally in my experience, the problem is when the work starts, unfolding, you fold. Lol

But I mean you usually set the intention, sometimes not as clear as it should be. I want this. Then things unfold, and let’s be real, sometimes you need to overcome nasty stuff, limiting beliefs, trauma, fears. You start thinking, hey I am not getting any viewers or streaming even. I’m just getting recon. But that’s the process, removing what’s in the way.

I started streaming again recently and the sickest anxiety came up. This is why I stopped streaming. Realized this is the process. Processed it, then came over the streaming/perfomance anxiety.

I think my long run of GLM/DRR created space for me to realise this and notice it. Because usually I just fold.

This is similar to what happened to me with my last big goal.

I wrote down my goal, started processing it and doing the work, planning it out, taking action, etc. There were rough days. Nasty stuff, lol. Things I had to face but I was like “nah, no thanks… I don’t really want to look at that”. It’s not always like that, it depends on the goal. In my opinion, generally the more idealistic leaning type of goals tend to require a lot of that type of work because you’re so internally far from it or not really as pure and innocent in your desire for it as you consciously think. The roughest is when you start hitting paradoxes, like the nature of your desire for the goal being the block of the goal. Case in point popular example: wanting to attract women as a self-esteem band-aid but the work showing you the fact that you need the band aid is itself why you can’t attract them but if that is solved, then your reasoning for wanting to attract them is gone. The paradoxical loop effect in integration - very popular.

If I’m entering folding territory in relation to the goal I wrote, then that just reveals another goal to me. I’ll do the exact same thing, except it will be “my goal is to build the processing capacity to more easily process and do all the work required for that goal (the original one)”. Then that will start unfolding. My subconscious mind will start working on that sub-set of the goal just like it was doing for the original goal. It’s like if learning a skill is hard, then I’ll just learn how to get better at learning the skill, lol. The progression never stops, it just gets simplified or broken down into smaller pieces. I don’t think you folded - running GLM/DRR is you building the processing capacity to be better equipped for reaching your goal. It’s all progress in the grand scheme of things.

edit: probably not necessary but whatever lol

skynet explanation

Yeah — this is a much more complete version of what you mean, because it closes the apparent “failure” loophole.

In your framework, folding doesn’t sit outside the unfolding. It gives you information about the current bottleneck. If the original goal produces material that exceeds your present capacity to process or act through, then the next actionable goal simply becomes building that capacity.

So instead of:

goal → resistance → fold → failure

you’re describing:

goal → resistance → capacity limit revealed → capacity-building becomes the next goal → increased capacity → return to original goal

That’s why your “learning how to get better at learning the skill” analogy fits so well. You keep moving one level down until you find something your current system can actually work with.

And the paradox point is important too. Sometimes processing doesn’t merely remove an obstacle while leaving the original desire untouched; it can reveal that part of the desire itself was organized around the unresolved issue. Your dating example illustrates that cleanly: if “I need women to want me so I can feel worthy” is driving the goal, developing stable self-worth may simultaneously remove the block and remove that particular reason for pursuing the goal. You may still want relationships afterward, but from a very different motive.

That also explains your distinction between genuinely changing your mind about a goal and “failing” at it. If the process changes the underlying structure that generated the goal, discovering that you no longer want it is itself useful information rather than an incomplete outcome.

And I agree that, within the model you’re describing, GLM/DRR wouldn’t necessarily count as folding. If those practices increased the person’s ability to notice, tolerate, interpret, and work through what surfaced when they returned to streaming, then they functioned as capacity-building. The original progression was still happening; it just took a detour through a prerequisite they hadn’t initially recognized.

The cleanest principle underneath everything you wrote might be:

When the work required for a goal becomes too difficult, the difficulty itself becomes the next piece of work.

That captures the recursive nature of your whole approach really well.

[Fusion]

@Bull_of_Shiva_999

I once did:

Why Goals:

Write 3 or more things that you wanna make change in the world with your what goals

Expanding human consciousness, bring more peace to world etc.

What Goals:

Write 3 or more long term Goals (5-10 year)

Release 3 music albums, go on a world tour etc.

How Goals:

List stuff you need to do to achive your What goals short term/daily

So you work through your how goals to achieve what goals and intend to bring why goals to life.

That’s a really interesting way to go about, it sounds holistic. What was your experience with this methodology?

@Skadoosh

When the work required for a goal becomes too difficult, the difficulty itself becomes the next piece of work.

Sounds like that quote from I think it was Ryan holiday “The obstacle is the way”. That mindset was really helpful for me. Especially when I didn’t want to do something. Totally loving your skynet version

@Skadoosh

I write down the goal as an assignment to my subconscious mind. Most people just write a goal, lol

For a time I would choose 1 objective and condense it into a short sentence. Like “I weight 170lbs” or “I make $xx,xxx per month”. I’d then write that goal down by hand 100 times first thing in the morning. Within a few days life started reorganizing around the goal. Eventually I would “feel” the goal as real. The down side and the reason I stopped is I would become absolutely obsessive. Nothing else mattered, all of my emotions be it rage, sadness, happiness, all my emotional states would pour into the goal. Even meals if they weren’t in line with the goal became a matter of efficiency. Anything that wasn’t contributing to the outcome would be eliminated or ignored. Doesn’t work well when in a relationship But damn it if wasn’t effective.

Also, the responses here are more comprehensive than what I imagined when posting this question. I feel fortunate to be part of this community. You guys (and girls) are really freaking cool and hella interesting:) Big thanks to everyone who jumped on to give their perspective.

[Risky]

@Skadoosh

When the work required for a goal becomes too difficult, the difficulty itself becomes the next piece of work.

[JCDenton]

Yeah, a lot of the work is general capacity building.
Because that capacity to process stuff is exactly the foundation for being then able to process and work on all the other goals.

Important capacity builders:
PEACE, Regeneration, GLM, Summertime, KHAN Black, QL4, Limitless ZONE, ASBR, any type of nervous system scripting, any type of energy channels scripting, any type of cognitive enhancement and focus scripting

[anon15812918]

@Fusion

The down side and the reason I stopped is I would become absolutely obsessive. Nothing else mattered, all of my emotions be it rage, sadness, happiness, all my emotional states would pour into the goal

Have you been able to achieve your goals this way though? When I get in this mental state like you described, the chance of me burning out eventually is higher than achieving the goal

[ksub]

@JCDenton

Important capacity builders:
PEACE, Regeneration, GLM, Summertime, KHAN Black, QL4, Limitless ZONE, ASBR, any type of nervous system scripting, any type of energy channels scripting, any type of cognitive enhancement and focus scripting

Not Emperor?

[JCDenton]

I have never tried or used Emperor. I don’t understand its positioning so cannot comment on that…

[Fusion]

@JCDenton

As my main guideline I use the “Essentialism” concept from the book “Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less”.

Adding this to my reading list, once I finish GTD I’ll read through it. Would be cool if we had some kind of book club and/or running book list.

@anon15812918

Have you been able to achieve your goals this way though? When I get in this mental state like you described, the chance of me burning out eventually is higher than achieving the goal

I did, but the cost was too high. Relationships suffered, my health, I’d also get crazy insomnia. I developed this nervous energy and got annoyingly fidgety, at least I felt annoyed. I’m 6’2 and my weight would be between 138-145lbs, I had very little appetite. Anything I did eat was junk food.

Also after hitting the goal I’d sink into what felt like depression. Literally sitting on the couch damn near every night watching Law & Order SVU and eating bad Chinese or street meat. Thankfully I can’t drink when I’m feeling down, or I would have developed what may have turned into a serious problem.

Wasn’t worth it.

[Switters]

I use the 12 week year loosely. It sounds pretty much like Saint outlines- but goals are time bound to 12 months, you set 2-3 priorities, and break them down meticulously into actionable steps- weekly tactics/habits. Some other interesting aspects to the system as well- breakout sessions (setting time to break out of the goal for 4-5 hours and do things you enjoy/build creativity). I don’t believe visualization was a part of it, but would be a good addition.

[Fusion]

@Switters

I use the 12 week year loosely. It sounds pretty much like Saint outlines- but goals are time bound to 12 months, you set 2-3 priorities, and break them down meticulously into actionable steps- weekly tactics/habits. Some other interesting aspects to the system as well- breakout sessions (setting time to break out of the goal for 4-5 hours and do things you enjoy/build creativity). I don’t believe visualization was a part of it, but would be a good addition.

I’ve seen this book forever and skimmed it at Barnes & Nobles once or twice but always got distracted by the cookbook section. I’ll add to my list now. I want to have a clear framework that I’ve run mini tests on ready to go for mid-December. So those New Year/2027 goals run on rails

[Melody]

Learning how to influence the mammalian part of your brain is the breakthrough I’ve found recently for goal setting.

That means imagery, contrast e.t.c

Write first a detailed answer to ‘how do you know when you get there or have got it?’ - Include visual, auditory, kinaesthetic.

Second, secondly, write down what would continue/ happen if you stayed the same or didn’t achieve it.

Then buy one of those digital picture frames and leave it sliding through like 30 images that represent that goal or larger future - key is that they trigger an emotional response in you and have it somewhere you see it all day if you can.

Then write down the habits, beliefs of the person that achieves your goal as a bi-product.

And write the negative habits, beliefs and behaviours you currently have that’s in the way.

Lastly, identify a limiting belief you think might be the one that’s in the way the most of achieving your goal like for instance ‘I don’t deserve a new job’ and make it visible everywhere. Make it your desktop, put it in big letters on a sheet of paper and stick it on your wall. You’ll realise how ridiculous it is as your conscious mind questions it.

What’s brought into the light looses power over you.

The best system I’ve used so far.

All the best 🫶🏻