Lol I love how you describe the subs 
this sentence can be misleading, what does mean effort for a girl.
To me if a girl in a social content lock eyes and smile to me, it means “I want you”.
So this effort from a girl to me equates my effort walking up to her and do the thing right.
But I understand and I like your description of a Wanted Man. It is not exactly what I want I should admit.
I actually love the game, I found it fun. Also, maybe because I am old(er), to me it is the man’s job to pursue. Some people think women should cook, I think a man should pursue. The few times I have been offered sex, it felt weird to me. I had a woman just sit a my table where I was having a coffee and started chatting me. It felt soo weird
I asked her to leave 
I prefer to be the one that choose I dont care to be attractive to every women but to the ones I like.
I liked this Don Draper though