Lately went through a rough time. Issues have been building up to the point where it all collapsed.
In scrims (practice matches vs other teams) I lost my self-control and left the voice chat of my team, because I got tilted from my poor performance. The following week the same happened again. My mental got progressively worse to the point where it became worrying for my coach and my team mates. The reasons for my poor mental are mainly too high expectations of myself, pressure to perform well in the tournament and fear of not improving fast enough - an incredible, self-destructive obsession.
However, my view of how i perceive my own gameplay is warped, as I do perform better than I actually think, even if I’m having a bad game. The more I tried to fix my mental issues, the more they seemed to fight back. I panicked thinking that those issues want me to suffer and ruin everything.
After each outbreak I felt sick on the following day, which led to me practicing and studying less, while feeling really weak.
Today my coach told me that he has prepared a substitute for my position, if I’m not mentally ready for the games. I knew that these consequences were coming due to my terrible actions towards my team in those scrims, regardless of being the best player on the team according to him. Nonetheless, I felt awful when thinking of getting replaced if I don’t fix my mentality.
Additionally my relationship with my partner has been falling apart due to several reasons (no, gaming is not one of the reasons xD we both love gaming), and today we decided to end it, but still staying in contact as friends, which hopefully works out. I’ve read so many journals on this site which include a break-up. Now mine is one of them, I wonder if the sub had an influence on that. It’s painful and I cried today, but I believe it’s the better change for both of us.
The pain but also a new feeling of freedom, not having to keep up with a relationship, and be able to focus more on my mental + physical health instead, provided me with some perspective and hope. I am more relaxed and slightly less angry about my mistakes. I still need to observe how my mentality develops in the near future, I think it’s going upwards again after having hit rock bottom. Currently I’m reading ‘The Mental Game of Poker’ by Jared Tendler. It relates a lot to Gaming and I use it as a tool to understand myself better and based on that, resolve some of my mental blocks.