Validation seeking on HoM

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#1

Mainly there are two questions in the paragraphs below.
1-Can HoM/WANTED come across as validation seeking, for example telling jokes with your friends…
2-Imagine having EVERY alpha and EVERY agressive module and core except LION IV and invincible presence in your custom. Does adding HoM/torchbearer can cause you to become passive? Like going other people’s way and being compliant. And does HoM contain anything similar to Torchbearer?

I don’t know if this is reconciliation(likely this) or HoM’s diplomacy. I am kinda validation seeking from my friends if this makes sense. Like saying a joke and looking at them if they find it funny or sth. The thought popped in to my mind multiple times that why are you doing this? And I was telling myself that I am letting him know that I want him to enjoy y company(natural winner)?
I think besides the high possibility of recon, there are two subs that can do this in my stack. WANTED and HoM. On WANTED sometimes you are hot and very enjoyable regardless of their behavior which Total nonchalnce facilitates that.
Now that I remember, my hot beahavior on WANTED is kinda different I kinda don’t look at the guys in a validation seeking way. Honestly a bit confused. Maybe need to observe more. But the question stands.
Another question, in your experience does HoM cotain anything similar to torchbearer and do the major title or the module make you passive in some areas? Like going other team member’s way? Taking account my VERY aggressive alpha custom with EVERY alpha module and core except LION IV and invincible presence.
@praisetheurdtree I have started journalling.

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#2

I’m not sure if HoM contains Torchbearer but one thing I know for sure is that validation seeking is a symptom of low self esteem. I’m not sure if HoM deals with self esteem. Maybe it does. One thing is certain though, HoM is a great sub to run when you already have your life and your mind in order. If you still have self esteem issues or validation issues, run LBFH. It was created for that.

@Sub.Zero explained beautifully what missing links are. If there are too many missing links between the sub objectives and your current situation, you’re going to have a hard time reaping fast benefits from the sub. If you have validation issues. I think LBFH is the best sub you can run. CFW is another possibility.

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#3

I never had validation issues. It’s recon my conclusion until now.

#4

I would say that Sanguine Elixir is somehow a great alternative to LBFH.

#5

It all depends on the missing links. However, even having them, you can benefit from the sub.

I go about it like this:

Running three subs is challenging yet really plausible and people run it in many different ways but what I’ve learned works best is finding your Holy Trinity and sticking to it as long as necessary to let them do the required work and aid you in your endeavours.

  1. The first and most essential sub should offer the swiftest transition between your current self and your ideal self. In my case it’s Renaissance Man since it fosters my natural gifts: empathy, ease in connecting with people, sense of aesthetic, creativity, and imaginative mind. This sub is aimed at becoming an empathetic and soulful alpha that rallies people to his cause to achieve great goals together (it covers my ideal self 100%).
    Running this title is the easiest and most natural way to becoming who I want to become (my ideal self) and what I want to achieve (greatness as a poet, writer, orator, free thinker, influencer). This sub should stay in your stack permanently unless your ideal self concept and the vision of your dream life changed or you could make an upgrade switching to a more targeted sub. That’s why that concept and vision should be thought through thoroughly and revised from time to time.
  2. The second sub should offer working on the most immediate/essential missing links on the way to becoming your ideal self and achieving your goals (dream life). In my case it’s SE as there’s still some negativity towards people in me and some obsolete defence mechanism that causes it. On top of that, it also helps with self-love I need more. This sub should stay in your stack as long as it’s necessary to fix those missing links it helps you work on and then it’s about running another sub to work on the next most immediate/essential missing links on your path. It requires of you a lot of introspection to learn on your missing links and how the work on them is progressing.
  3. The third sub should offer optimization towards your ideal self and your dream life. Something to give you a boost towards what you want to achieve. In my case it’s QL as improving my brain helps me walk towards my ideal self swifter as it’s based on cognitive capacities and certain skills QL is helping me develop. The third sub needs to be run till what you want to optimize is at the level that is satisfactory.
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#6

Beautiful.

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