Utter embarrassment

[themadsexyscientist]

I’ve been using a QTKS custom with wdb, LB and inner circle and had some very deep

revelations. I realized that women don’t feel like I could protect them if a situation was to arise

and as a man that is the worst feeling you can feel. I had a situation where I wasn’t able to

protect a female friend of mine. No one was hurt but she almost got spit on by the crazy

guy, he just missed completely . I was in control of the situation up until that point. Looking

back now, I could have subdued the guy. He didn’t want to fight me though but he tried to

intimidate and fight my female friend and I felt like I didn’t do enough to make her feel safe and

since that day, her and her friends don’t trust me to keep them safe. It’s a shitty feeling knowing

you as a man cant protect anyone and now I’m thinking of adding survival instinct or one of the

fighting subs but not sure which one what do you guys recommend for someone who has never

fought and wants to get into fighting/or something that gives off a protective energy.

I just want to know that if a situation was to arise again where I have to protect my future Gf

from a crazy guy, I can do that with my combat skills…any suggestions?

[SaintSovereign]

If that’s the direction you want to go, choose a martial art and pair it with something like Spartan. HERO: Origins. Muay Thai Mastery X (which will be updated this year, alongside Boxing Mastery X). Pair it with something like GLM, which really helps you maintain clarity in tense situations – a necessity for self-defense situations. GLM also gives off this subtle “guardian” energy, which I have experienced myself. Others have reported having that experience as well.

Part of how you feel may be recon from the QTKS, given that all three of the cores mentioned are about connection rather than hardening.

But, I am curious how a situation where you were in control up until the individual tried to spit and missed, and you still managed to get away without anyone being hurt is being viewed as an inability to protect your lady friend. Everyone managed to get away, no jail time – sounds like you did your job well.

Think of it like this – if he did succeed in spitting on her, do you think adrenaline would’ve kicked in and you would’ve fought him off? If the answer is yes, then I personally don’t see the issue. If the answer is no, that’s when you’d look into self-defense (and possibly using a title to help, if that’s what you want).

[Benny]

I mean I almost got killed in a car accident.
Sometimes you don’t need to take responsibility for everything that happens in your life.

I personally learned martial arts and I prefer to not get involved in anything because we humans are more fragile then you might think.

[heartmadeiron]

For what it’s worth, you’re being very hard on yourself for a situation that was clearly beyond your control and that no one (especially the law) expected you to take into your own hands.

[ryder004]

Unless its your family member, girl you’re dating or someone close, you should not get into a habit of trying to protect every woman around you. Not every confrontation is a “gentleman’s fight” where two guys square up and throw punches. Some people are unstable, armed, intoxicated, or willing to escalate far beyond what a normal person expects.

A man’s job isn’t just being willing to fight, it’s being able to assess danger, de-escalate when possible, and protect the people around him without unnecessarily turning a bad situation into a worse one. Sometimes that means physical intervention. Other times it means creating distance, getting people to safety.

Learning self defense is good but don’t become a statistic because you think you gotta get tough with every asshole out there.

[SaintSovereign]

@ryder004

A man’s job isn’t just being willing to fight, it’s being able to assess danger, de-escalate when possible, and protect the people around him without unnecessarily turning a bad situation into a worse one. Sometimes that means physical intervention. Other times it means creating distance, getting people to safety.

I concur.

[Moon]

@themadsexyscientist

I just want to know that if a situation was to arise again where I have to protect my future Gf

from a crazy guy, I can do that with my combat skills…any suggestions?

Honestly, you did a good job if you were able to de-escalate. You’ve got to remember all combat skills at the start hammer in that the best thing when you’re about to fight is run or de-escalate, because combat skills don’t equal real street fights. Someone will get hurt and will go badly. This isn’t a movie type fights.

@ryder004

Unless its your family member, girl you’re dating or someone close, you should not get into a habit of trying to protect every woman around you. Not every confrontation is a “gentleman’s fight” where two guys square up and throw punches. Some people are unstable, armed, intoxicated, or willing to escalate far beyond what a normal person expects.

A man’s job isn’t just being willing to fight, it’s being able to assess danger, de-escalate when possible, and protect the people around him without unnecessarily turning a bad situation into a worse one. Sometimes that means physical intervention. Other times it means creating distance, getting people to safety.

Learning self defense is good but don’t become a statistic because you think you gotta get tough with every asshole out there.

This. He’s right.

[themadsexyscientist]

@SaintSovereign

Part of how you feel may be recon from the QTKS, given that all three of the cores mentioned are about connection rather than hardening.

I didn’t even realize that till now but it makes sense though

[themadsexyscientist]

@SaintSovereign

GLM also gives off this subtle “guardian” energy, which I have experienced myself. Others have reported having that experience as well.

Maybe all I need is GLM. I have used emperor in the past and I figured it would have the same guardian energy.

[themadsexyscientist]

@SaintSovereign

Think of it like this – if he did succeed in spitting on her, do you think adrenaline would’ve kicked in and you would’ve fought him off? If the answer is yes, then I personally don’t see the issue. If the answer is no, that’s when you’d look into self-defense (and possibly using a title to help, if that’s what you want).

Tbh, I’m not sure, I’ve never been in a situation where adrenaline kicked in and had to defend myself or someone else. Usually when adrenaline kicks in, I have a freeze response, so I don’t know tbh.

[themadsexyscientist]

@ryder004

Learning self defense is good but don’t become a statistic because you think you gotta get tough with every asshole out there.

Very true

[themadsexyscientist]

@ryder004

Unless its your family member, girl you’re dating or someone close, you should not get into a habit of trying to protect every woman around you. Not every confrontation is a “gentleman’s fight” where two guys square up and throw punches. Some people are unstable, armed, intoxicated, or willing to escalate far beyond what a normal person expects.

Tbh, thanks to LBFH, emperor at the time, I probably wouldn’t have had the type of confidence and calm to even step in. I’m not the type to intervene and get involved in situations that I know could lead to a bad outcome.

The guy was 100 percent emotionally unstable, possibly armed and you’re probably right, if I had decided to fight him, things would have gone side ways quick. It’s this nagging feeling that I still have inside, like if something like that happened again, could I deescalate if the guy was more aggressive especially towards me.

edit:
Like the weird thing is this guy had zero animosity towards me but wanted to fight all the women. It was very puzzling. Which is what made it more hard to respond when there’s no aggression. I calmed him down, eventually. The women made it worse though, they kept talking back at him and made the situation way worse than it should’ve been. So there were a lot of factors at play too now that I remember…I also don’t know what was said before I got there. I kind of walked into a crazy situation all around like a deer in headlights…in the middle of a highly tense moment

[Green-power-ranger]

@SaintSovereign

Muay Thai Mastery X (which will be updated this year, alongside Boxing Mastery X).

Any plans on survival instinct X?

[Michel]

@themadsexyscientist

I had a situation where I wasn’t able to

protect a female friend of mine. No one was hurt but she almost got spit on by the crazy

guy, he just missed completely

The very reason crazy people are crazy, their behaviour makes no sense. Why would you step in and try to train with someone like that?

@themadsexyscientist

since that day, her and her friends don’t trust me to keep them safe

If she isn’t your girlfriend, then this is a very unreasonable expectation on your part. Who said you had to protect them? Why would they expect that requirement from you? I get it, men are big and strong and should step in to calm things down. But why you? Sure, you could beat the shit out of him, but for what? A criminal record? It seems this crazy guy has a lot of animosity against women, so let that be guy’s karma by himself, don’t step into it.