Solving Self-Worth Issues

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#21

There’s this phenomenon that happens with gifted children where they become quite lazy. The reason is really interesting. They get praised for being smart that conditions them to value intelligence… And intelligence is how good you are at something without trying or practicing…

It sounds like you are quite smart when it comes to sales, and once you got that validation that you were the smartest in the group, you got what you wanted so you took your foot off of the gas

I’d suggest not looking at your relationship to self-worth, but your relationship to work and effort, as well as real long-term mastery rather than just short-term validation. This might be a delayed gratification issue,

I agree that your time on Khan will help you because it’s about true greatness, which never comes without effort

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#22

This is interesting :face_with_monocle: I do feel it’s more like boredom than laziness for me.

I am considered “gifted” and see where this might be something I am doing. If you take your foot off the gas aren’t you essentially coasting?

Long term mastery…. I see how reframing is useful when becoming “bored” or “lazy.”

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#23

Yeah, that was me. Didn’t need to learn in school until French entered the curriculum. Suddenly I had bad grades.

Since I can’t see my own blind spot, I can’t say for sure. But I gave my best to eliminate this during my time at university. I had subjects I sucked at and didn’t like the professor. So I put the pedal to the metal to get good grades nevertheless.
But that was before my burnout. So maybe it’s a valid factor.

This is definitely something I have to keep working on. Especially since I connect seriously s work with being left alone as a kid.

But generally, it feels like a intangible resistance, like when you’ve encountered the end of the map in a video game.

Just had a longer conversation with my fiancee.
No concrete results as of yet.

But it feels like I’m stuck in analysis paralysis.
I’m so focused on understanding why I can’t get myself to work, that I didn’t even try anymore.

One last process later, and then I’ll simply start working. Fuck the reasons, fuck my self worth issues. I’ll just do it with them.
(Is this Khan?)

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#24

Have you focused on inner work? Like knowing what do when a less than positive thought, feeling, or behavior keeps happening in any occasion? And also resolving it rather quickly… Imo this is a good litmus test to see if someone has done inner work optimally.

There’s so many method out there but I found the most progress with Core Transformation (parts work). I also found the letting go book, Sedona method, wholeness process, and many more methods useful. Nowadays I just “know” what to do.

David Snyder also has the magic frame and spinning method on his YT. His identity by design course is good for inner work.

I don’t mean to dump a whole bunch of material on you, but you could also try an emotional healing subliminal. Tbh, I should’ve started with an emotional healing subliminal along with the subliminals I wanted to run - so important.

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#25

I’ve experienced something similar as well. Whenever life backs me into a corner where it’s 100% or perish, i excel far beyond my expectations each and every time. The feeling of having such enormous potential and power causes laziness since " I could do it any time, It’s already mine, Ill do it another day etc. "

Whenever you are rewarded for going ALL IN and doing great at that. It give’s a false since of security because, in this situation, you know you will pull it off again and again when it’s absolutely necessary

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