Just had a fun, heated discussion with Kenya about religion. T’was good.
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Running Primal Romance and Ascension Chamber. I’m forgoing Alchemist this run for a quasi-washout as I’ll be startin’ ST3 the next play-date.
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The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.
T’was I who broke 
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Yes. Let it flow through you.
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Oh, I did. And unto/onto her.
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Yeah, great book but I actually realized I don’t agree with everything in it. He says early in the book that the only way to be good with women is to love all women. Did Ted Bundy love all women? Did Richard Ramirez? They had “lady’s man” reputations before being caught ( Ted Bundy particularly not sure about Ramirez).
I ran LME and PR two days ago, full. Running Alchemist ST3 for the first time now, also the full 15.
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As seems to be coming up in my life lately in discussions with multiple people, about ‘love’, I think the answer is revealed in:
What is love?
Then, I would have to ask, “Well, what is good with women?”
The seducer in the Alabaster Girl clearly has a love for women. As far as I can recall, he has no hatred or even misogyny towards women.
Can the same be said of Bundy or Ramirez?
It depends on what you consider to be success with women.
Some men see women as property. Some, as a means to an end. Some just want to dominate them, control them.
None of which the seducer in AB exhibits, whatsoever.
Charles Manson had a certain way with women. He was known to be able to ‘pick out’ women that would literally do anytime for him - his track record proves the same.
Did he ‘love’ all women? Not in my definition of love, though this followers likely felt like he loved them.
Was he good with women? To a point.
Charisma and love are not mutually exclusive, but I think people confuse their adoration for someone’s charisma, which all of the men aforementioned had.
I’ve said it often but if you love someone, you can’t bring yourself to kill them; it’s like killing yourself.
So, my answer to this:
Is, no. Bundy did not. Ramirez did not. Manson, did not. They lacked a basic humanity that prevents the majority of us from committing atrocities. And the basic part of that humanity is: love.
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Baby don’t hurt me
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But. I also don’t agree with everything in it.
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All three of them were very different. Manson never actually murdered anyone himself. Bundy knew what he was doing was wrong, but had a powerful urge to do so and got pleasure from it. Ramirez may or may not have known what he was doing was wrong but tried to justify it. He was the dumbest of them imo (but I also know the least about him so). 
Anyway, my point of even bringing them up was just to make a counter-argument against the author of the Alabaster Girl’s assertion that “you have to love all women to be good with them, there is no other way.”
For sure, not saying you did.
True, good post 
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When I read Alabaster Girl (like with most books I read), I had mostly what “New Code NLP” calls the “know nothing state”.
I read the material as if it’s the Gospel Truth (according to the author). Being a modeler before just about anything else, I “take on” what I’m reading about to experience how it is for me.
I probably disagree with some of the things in the book, but I can’t say what they are, since any agreement/disagreement happens at a subconscious/unconscious level.
I will say that reading that book helped me immensely with talking to women more smoothly.
For example, the part from the book where he talks about every women being “my girl” (his words in the book), I found myself sitting in the grocery store one night waiting on the wife to be off work. Sitting on the bench.
I was looking at Maja (bagger girl) from a distance, she working at the checkout line.
I started thinking about her as “my girl” and feeling a deep appreciation for her beauty, her physical form, her voice, etc.
Where she’d been standing with her back to me, she suddenly wheeled around and saw me looking at her, and smiled the best smile I’ve ever seen.
I probably do disagree with parts of the book, but not knowing which parts, the level of unconscious competence has kicked in, and those parts I disagree with would’ve been discarded.
It’s such a great read, I bought it in paperback form after reading the Kindle version.
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Gratitude Acknowledgment:
Kenya had a friend send her a surprise package yesterday night. She called Kenya to see if she had gotten it.
We went downstairs to get it; no package at the door.
We looked at the delivery confirmation photo; it had been delivered to the next door neighbors.
We walked out there to see if we could hail the house (low fence, ‘beware of dog’ signage, unpleasant past encounters with the neighbors, etc) and got no answer.
I had Kenya contact her friend. She said she was able to get a refund so she was sending it out again.
Fast forward to today, about 2 hours ago. Kenya picked me up, she wanted to pick up a food box and go to her PO Box as apparently her friend had resent the package to her box address.
I dropped her off at the place where her box is and look up from my phone 5 minutes later to see Kenya walking up, followed by two employees, who were holding a TV box.
I didn’t know they were with her initially - I didn’t know what the package had actually been - and was a bit dumbfounded when they came up behind her car with her. I got out, and helped her to put it in the back of the car.
As I sat back in the car, the situation with her neighbors annoyed me. "They know damned well they didn’t order a TV. They saw us on the Ring camera outside the fence.
Then…
“Well ok. I’m a little upset about this but this is me taking this personal.”
So, I did a little prayer that God would have his will be manifest in the situation, and not my own will.
We picked up Wendy’s and headed back to her place to drop off the TV (she had to head to work immediately after) and, as we pulled up, we saw a little girl and older woman outside of the mentioned neighbors place.
Kenya had asked me on our way back not to say anything to them and after some grumbling, I agreed.
I didn’t agree not to stare them into uncomfortability though. So, I did just that when I got out and went around to the passenger side to get the TV out. I could feel the woman’s inner cringe.
Just as I opened the passenger rear door, I heard an, “Excuse me…?”
I felt two reactions. Excitement - yaaay, I might get to say something after all! And curiosity - I heard something different in her tone besides combative defensiveness “what’re you staring at young man?”.
I responded, “Yeah?” And started walking over there.
She asked if there was anyone named “Kenya LastName” at the house we were going to?
All tension melted away from me and I responded, with a slight smile, “Yes. That’s my lady’s name, she actually is in the car behind me. What’s up?”
She said she took the TV into her garage last night as she realized there must have been a mistake, especially after asking her son if he had ordered one. She didn’t want the wind to blow it over and bust it (and it was a windy night last night in that area).
She let me in the yard to grab it from the garage and we thanked them.
Kenya gave me the other TV.
End of the acknowledgement.
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Gratitude Acknowledgement.
The other day, my dad, my uncle and I went to this discount store in our area that we had been put onto by a member of his stroke recovery support group.
We went there for an Air Fryer. We left with the same and a Fender guitar that my dad bought me, for my upcoming birthday.
For $60.
I couldn’t say “fuckyeah” enough the whole day.
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I’ve been playing the Witcher: Wild Hunt on PS4 for the first time on the new TV; it’s gorgeous dude.
Cold War and Skate II, another game I recently got, also look much better.
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Gratitude Acknowledgement: I’m grateful to have two healthy, loving children that forgive me for my shortcomings.
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Running LME and PR, full.
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I gave the welcome for the visiting Church for our pastor’s anniversary today.
I can’t lie; I was nervous leading up to it. I was sorely/not at all prepared lol I was asked to do it over the phone, and have never done anything like it before. In the church, at least.
However, besides forgetting to ‘give honor to God, honor to the pastor’ and so forth, everyone told me I did a fantastic job.
A couple of prominent members want to introduce me to their daughter/neice that lives in North Carolina, has ‘just gotten her first degree’.
“We need more young, responsible black men like you…”
Alas. For Kenya is here for the most foreseeable.
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Alchemist ST3 - full run
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I’m feeling drawn to add Spartan or Legacy of the Spartan to my stack, again.
Edit: BDLM, as well.
Wanted Black, on the other hand, is not so much of a pull.
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