long post about belief
I’m curious how others define “belief”.
I personally subscribe to a pragmatic view, where what someone truly believes is demonstrated by their actions - not what they claim. In other words, your beliefs are what you live.
For example: Someone who says they believe that their health is important, but consistently smokes cigarettes, eats junk food, and avoids exercise. Oh here’s another one, lol. New Agers who say they believe they’re “infinite light and power” but then go jerk off to pornography in shame and self-hatred due to being powerless in their ability to attract any women into their life.
I used to watch a TV show called Shark Tank, where entrepreneurs would make business presentations to a panel of investors. On many episodes, an entrepreneur would “believe” so much in themselves and their idea despite it being miserably doomed for failure. They were so delusional in their own “belief”, that they ignored the brutal reality of their idea being complete garbage, while willfully neglecting any constructive feedback. I do think that believing in yourself is important, but I think that it can be severely overemphasized in a manner that’s self-destructive as a form of coping mechanism. Competence, skill-building, goal-setting, executive function, getting out of your comfort zone, overcoming adversity, learning from successes and failures, having the humility to integrate feedback from people who have more expertise and knowledge than you, etc. There are so many things that are overwhelmingly more paramount towards success in any endeavor in life than “belief”. I often scratch my head when I keep hearing “belief, belief, belief” in self-development spaces. I’m naturally inclined to treat it like a meme. This is merely a general observation based on my own experience, but I consistently find that people who are most often vocal about “belief” on the internet tend to be low status and low QoL in general, which ends up with them flocking to each other through an echo chamber/group-think so that they can avoid the discomfort of growth together. I have never seen nor encountered 1 verifiable instance in both real life or the internet, in which a successful person attributed a large majority of their success to the power of “belief.” It’s mentioned of course, but other things typically take far more precedence such as being consistent, being obsessed with your practice, having a relentless work ethic, etc. I even have a quote that goes something like:
“Just believe you’re a millionaire, bro. Don’t get a job, don’t invest, don’t learn any skill - just believe and the money will rain from the sky.” said the broke person to the other broke person. #LOA
Again, I’m not downplaying it - I think belief is very important, but I also think it’s one of the most overrated, overhyped, and misunderstood concepts in the self-development space. I’ve seen it too often be treated like a magical fix, like something you just “turn on” like a light switch. Nobody likes to talk about work, and what it takes to actually get things moving to build something. Someone who is desperately latched on to their comfort zone will subconsciously feel anxiety when the words “taking action” are mentioned. It’s the nervous system on autopilot. The natural response is “I don’t like this, let me go and focus on something that makes the bad feelings go away”. A lot of people don’t like to talk about the things that actually produce the real results, let alone implement them into their lives.
One of my favorite sports teams recently had more belief than they’ve ever had, and I watch them first-hand get absolutely dominated in every way you can possibly fathom within their own arena. All of that “belief” did nothing to help - they got their asses handed to them on every level (psychologically, physically, spiritually, emotionally). If belief is so magnificent and powerful, then why did they get their souls ripped out of them? That’s what I asked myself after witnessing what I witnessed. I’ve also watched MMA fights where the fighter strongly “believed” they could whoop their opponents ass, only to get knocked the fuck out. “I see it in my dreams!”, “I’m the man, there’s no way I’m going to lose!”, next thing you know their skull is bouncing off the canvas like a basketball.
Cool thread by the way, lol. I’m interested in your thoughts if you have any.