Guys, I need help. I think I have been projecting a lotttt. Pretty much everything. I know that, now that I’m conscious of it, I can stop it. But, what I’d love to get some help on is what are some techniques that can help me.
Thanks, SubClub!
Projecting in what sense?
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“Projecting” can refer to the psychological phenomenon where someone unconsciously attributes their own unacceptable feelings, thoughts, or traits to another person to avoid dealing with them in themselves.
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EFT by Gary Craig or Faster EFT by Robert Smith (my personal preference over Craig because Craig’s add in needless woo)
Can help clear out a lot rapidly.
Any further insights?
Results or Projecting?
projecting
It’s a normal part of growth. The key is to really understand what projecting is.
When you’re doing internal growth - everything is about facing yourself, looking at your own fears, acknowledging and feeling your own emotions, etc. All of the focus and processing revolves around you to incite the most amount of positive change, release, and transformation. However, due to things like fear, shame and guilt related to whatever is being processed, you begin to subconsciously avoid that processing by focusing on everything outside of you - whether it be other people, systems, subliminal technology (lol), etc. It’s pretty much “I don’t want to feel, look at, or deal with any of this which is my own, and therefore I will focus on everything outside of me”. It is a defensive mechanism to avoid processing, which at its essence, is just avoiding discomfort.
I use the quickly changing the conversation analogy. So let’s say you got drunk at a party and acted a fool, doing wild things. The next day, you’re with your buddies and one of them says “you have a lot of fun last night? ;)” and you try to quickly change the conversation and focus on something else to avoid the subconscious emotional pain (embarrassment, regret, guilt, fear of “oh what do people think of me now”, etc) around that experience. It’s the same defensive mechanism of avoiding the processing. Now, if you had a stronger and more independent self-esteem, more self-acceptance, or perhaps even integrate your experience from a detached, observer perception (lol), then the pain would be processed more easily because you can overcome it, shrug it off, understand its temporary, and maybe even laugh about it - not holding it against yourself, or not being ashamed to accept the vulnerability in feeling a certain way about something. You’re able to give that allowance to yourself because you can, and it’s required for you to grow and experience what you want.
In any high level coping mechanism or defensive mechanism, the very first thing you need to immediately ask yourself, is:
- What is it that I am afraid of facing, that I would go to such psychological lengths to avoid?
And that my friend, is both the millionaire dollar question (literally, if you’re doing abundance work lol), and rabbit hole deeper than any modern day conspiracy that one could possibly imagine.
This shift of focus towards yourself will automatically support the processing, as there is nothing to project on when you’re primarily focused on yourself. The next thing you do, is pay attention to your own feelings, and being okay with them. Subconscious guilt and shame act as a barrier, and self-love/self-acceptance dissipate it, allowing for self-transparency and smoother processing. Someone mentioned EFT which is also viable. If you’re consciously aware of it, then just make a mental commitment to not judging anything outside of yourself. Good luck buddy, lol.
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