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#1

Hey guys, I’ve recently have started running ascension and I noticed that I’m really motivated to change my life and have a more fulfilling and fun life with real friends, financial freedom, women that care about me and I care about them etc…

The problem is that this is very far away from my situation in life right now and I realized that I need to dedicate some years only to myself and build my dream life. I also run pcc and I noticed that I don’t really have real friends that care about me or anyone else in general. Never had a good relationship with my family since I was young.

So I’m thinking about cutting off my toxic friends completely and focusing on myself but then I’m gonna be lonely sometimes. I want to find real friends that care about me and also want to be successful in life but that seems difficult and rare to happen, since most successful people hangout with other successful people and sure I can find people that are interested in success but my experience is that they will fall off at some point and go back to their old ways of living. I’ve seen that many times.

Also about my family I realized that we are not a good match and they don’t and never will understand me. So I don’t know what to do about them, since our relationship is almost non existent. We do talk on the phone but they never open up or say anything meaningful. It’s just repeating the same stuff.

Ascension is making me aware that I have to carve my own path in life and jump in head first into new experiences, even if that means being just by myself. But I’m afraid to do that.

So I’m thinking that I need to work a lot for 3-5 years make some good money and then start my own business. After that I can focus on girls and gym/body more. But that requires a lot of loneliness and time with myself. Is that realistic?

Has anyone been in the same situation? Or have anyone got some advice?

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#2

Cutting off friends is perfectly fine but for sanity sake at least keep 1 or 2 friends around who you can hang out with once in a while. You don’t need to agree with them regarding everything but it is nice to let off some steam by conversing with them no matter the topic as long as you are having a good time.

If that is not possible and you don’t have any such friends, try going for meetups in your area related to your work or study interests. For example, if you are a programmer, visit meetups where similar people hang out. Or about entrepreneurship. Facebook and meetup dot com has such events.

Or do something similar for a hobby you have. Learn photography or video editing with those who have the same interests.

You get to make friends with a better group of people this way.

What I have learnt about family is to have a certain level of acceptance of who they are. Love them the way they are and keep things simple and it will be fine. Make them laugh once in a while and call them on a regular basis like once a week or every 2 weeks. And visit them especially for important occasions. Things like that. Later you will be happy for having done your part and will not feel guilty for neglecting them. Appreciate them while they are here.

There is no need to be afraid. This is realistic and Ascension is guiding you. Embrace mistakes and learn from them. That’s the only way to grow.

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#3

Thanks for the input man! Well none of my friends are aligned with my purpose in life, and I’m growing older every day. So I feel like I need to focus on myself 100% and cut everyone off that doesn’t have my best interest in heart. Many entrepreneurs say that the most difficult part is loneliness. And I don’t feel like my life is getting better when I hangout with my current friends.

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#4

And let’s be real not many people are your real friends. Most only care about themselves. At least that’s my experience. I want to find real friends that also want to grow and have ambition in life

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#5

Do Ascension + Inner Circle. You will find the right friends and mentors for you.

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#6

Years ago I came to the realization that my values were changing, and I wasn’t in alignment with most of my social circle. I was getting into my 30s, and I wasn’t ok with just scraping by anymore. When I started pursuing wealth, I was called a sellout, a corporate shill, and all sorts of other names… so after reading Marie Kondo’s book, I decluttered my social circle by about 80%. I’ve trimmed in a bit more since then, to the extent that I haven’t got many friends at all anymore. That was of course also influenced by covid as well as just generally being busier with having a kid now.
I’ve never been very social at all, so this doesn’t bother me… at least not that I can tell - maybe it does, who knows.

As for health… being healthy is NOT mutually exclusive to focusing on wealth, get a simple diet that meets your nutritional needs and goals (at the moment most of my meals are just pan-fried salmon and a huge pile of green veggies) and get a good exercise regimen. I’ve found walking 6-8 miles per day (about an hour at a reasonably brisk pace) is the perfect time to listen to relevant podcasts or audiobooks to help with your goals.
A program like Body By Science (Dr. Doug McGuff) will help you reach physical fitness in about 15 minutes a week (don’t take my word for it, read the book).

Systematize what you can… I never have to think each day about what to eat when it comes to nutrition for health, as I just cycle through a few meals that I’ve pre-selected as meeting my needs. At mealtime I just grab the ingredients and toss them in the pan, mix up a salad, whatever it is I’m doing.

Do things that show (to YOU, not necessarily to others) that you care about and value yourself, things that are interesting… a new social circle will find you, if you wish.

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#7

Do you have friends that have ambitions and goals in their life? Also how did your wealth creation path started? Did you use any specific subs/courses/mentors? And how is your wealth creation path going now? Are you free economically? Thanks for taking the time to answer my questions!

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#8

I have one good friend who has been struggling financially, another one who is a very high achiever (multi-millionaire by his early 30s), and the other ones are more traditionally corporate/job-minded but all are earning well into 6-figures and own $1M+ properties. So… mostly?

I’ve wanted to be wealthy for as long as I can remember, except for a foolishly naive detour during my college (and a few years after) years when I fell in with a bad crowd that grew far too anti-capitalist for my liking…I digress…

4 Hour Workweek (Tim Ferriss) is a good place to start - the specifics in that book are mostly outdated now, but the concepts are sound.

No specific mentors that I can recommend without having any idea of what it is you want to do.

I’m not free yet - I’m still full-time in a corporate exec-level job. I’m very comfortable financially, and I do quite enjoy what I’m doing, but I’m not free yet. I have an internet marketing side hustle project that I’ve been planning for nearly a year, but I’ve yet to actually pull the trigger to start doing the work.
I’ve also got a tech side project that I believe will be very lucrative, but a series of dev challenges (and chip shortages…) have dragged that one on for a LONG time.

I hope that’s somewhat enlightening, and if you care to share what sort of wealth plan you’re interested in, I’d be happy to share any recommendations that may be suitable.

@Hoppa in particular is another person you may want to seek some advice from for general business, as well as perhaps @Billions if SMMA is of interest to you.

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#9

Wow didn’t expect that answer! Thanks! How did you meet those friends? I’m mainly interested in building a personal brand but that takes some time before you get financially free, although it’s highly fullfiling as you help people and give freely which is my passion

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#10

First one, online friend from back in the 90s who now lives about an hour from me… second, friend from school that I’ve kept in touch with, and the rest… mostly my wife’s friends, who I glommed onto lol.

That depends 100% on how you monetize your channels, but a more pertinent question is… a brand to do what?

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#12

Emotional healing.

#13

So like a… guru/coach for helping people with emotional issues?

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#14

Yeah.

#15

Did you get your inquiries answered?

#16

Well I did get some answers. Not ones I was looking for but I guess I’m asking too much. You can close the topic of you want

#17

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#18

@RVconsultant I don’t know man. If saint reads the very first post I posted here in this thread, he will go crazy :laughing:. he has his own problems to deal with