Need help with impatience and annoyance

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#1

I feel this incredible amount of pent up irritation from things and people when something isn’t going my way or people are just straight up wasting time like my girlfriend was talking to me last night and I love her a lot, but at one point I was waiting to watch a movie with her (on discord stream cause cinemas are closed and lockdown is somewhat strict rn till more people get vaccinated) but when her mom came to talk to her, even though it was just for like 10 mins, it was really pissing me off because I was getting impatient and frustrated, so if anyone is reading this and feel/felt this way on emperor, I’d like to know how you deal/dealt with it.

i know I posted this in my journal, but i’d like to get help with this ASAP, so I made a question post.

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#2

Haha yes it happens to me too.
Mindfulness Meditation is the key amigo

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#3

Thank you man, will look into it

#4

I have been running Dragon Reborn by itself since mid January. I am up to ST4 at this point, and I find it helps a lot with the specific issue you mentioned. Not perfectly, because I still get impatient and frustrated at times, but it has definitely lessened the regularity of it.

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#5

Wouldn’t going into a multi-stage sub along with emperor be too much?

#6

I have found recently that, for me, running one sub at a time is best.

I’ve run versions of Emperor through Q for about a year total and found that in general Emperor pushed me towards greater irritation and impatience. I have not run Emperor since April 2020.

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#7

I think I’ll keep running emperor for a while now, like till the end of June, and if by then I still feel so irritated, then maybe I’ll buy starkQ and switch to that.

#8

Sanguine might help.

Noticing what you are feeling might help. (mindfulness)

Rest days.

How many loops are you running of Emperor per day? How many days per week?

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#9

I keep it to 2 most of the time, and I’m on a 5on-2off routine, which is what I read was the most optimal way to get results and rest the brain.

Today was day 1 of week 3 and I’ve only done one loop so far, and nothing so far happened which would cause any annoyance or impatience, but I wanna know what benefits of adding sanguine would be?

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#10

Try to find out why are you irritated…
Emperor is making you aware of your current lifestyle and all that needs to change in order for you to become an Emperor.

If for example you are irritated at your job it means you may be need to learn more about the job or that you not doing it to your best and could be that you are lazy.
What ever you happen to find that’s causing the irritability needs to stop,change or improve upon.

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#11

I would encourage you to start with 1 loops of each. That might help with irritability and impatience.

@pacman also has a good point in that your ideal you and the current you may have mismatches, therefore you might be feeling more irritable.

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#12

the general irritability comes mostly when things don’t go my way, like for example, if I have something planned and I’m with someone but they wanna do something else, then I get irritated, and the worst part is that it happens with little things, for example, the other day I was watching a movie with my girl through discord stream and planned my sleep time around the time of the movie (the movie would have exactly ended at 12:50 am and I would have slept at 1) but then her mom came to talk to her, so we had to pause the movie till her mom was done talking and it took 15 mins, that pushed my sleep time a bit, and while that is something so minor and shouldn’t be a big deal, I’ve been hating time wastage because every second adds up.
so you see?
i think I just need to practice mindfulness, especially with things out of my control.

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#13

this is what I feel like is happening because I want to make the most out of every single second and I feel like most people I interact with just waste so many precious seconds.

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#14

That is emotional maturity pure and simple. I can relate as I have been there and I embarrassed myself a lot and regret so much of the shit I lost my mind over and the behavior that came with it. Dragon Reborn is what helped me calm my ass down a lot and let go of a lot of shit outside my control.

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#15

I would like to buy it, however, I don’t want to be dependent on a subliminal for something so valuable to me as a person, so I’ll try doing my best to learn it through materials I can find online to guide me, since I’m already on a break before I can get a job and work (country’s rule for national citizens), but if there’s anything else you can guide me towards, I’d really appreciate that.

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#16

Those.

Also, make perspective-taking one of your focused priorities. Give it to the Emperor to chew on, and become impeccable at it.

This ties in to what @James said about emotional maturity.

Emotional Maturity can be characterized as having three components:

  1. Boundary setting skills
  2. Self-care skills
  3. Perspective-taking skills

That last part, Perspective Taking, is a specific area of competence that is usually underdeveloped. It takes work, discipline, and imagination. It also enhances any and every interaction and negotiation. It is a worthwhile investment.

If you have time and interest, check out Marshall Rosenberg (now deceased) and his beautiful innovation: Non-Violent Communication.

If you’re serious about this life thing (and let’s face it, you obviously are) then it’s necessary to upgrade how you identify your needs, how you practice identifying others’ needs, and how you negotiate and promote win-win outcomes. For the Emperor who also wants to love people, Win-Win is basically choice A, B, C, and D. There’s not really a second choice.

Okay. So time to handle that.

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#17

I was just about to comment about non-violent communication. You can look at this as an opportunity: if during your recon are able to navigate a conversation and get what you want without pissing anyone off, then in the day to day life you’ll breeze through it. So, the opportunity is to hone this skill that’s you’ll use though you entire life.
Here’s a full NVC workshop on youtube to peak your interest: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l7TONauJGfc

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#18

Thank you so much
I really appreciate it

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#19

Thank you too, I’ll be sure to check it out

#20

Now I’m curious, how did you arrive at this? (Maturity is talked about yet no one seems to define it.) This is one of the few times I’ve seen someone define it.

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