“I am worthy,” saying this and internalizing this are quite complete things. I’ll try to internalise it altho i dont know how.
I really don’t understand this.
There’s a hierarchy. There’s value provided. Providing value is valuable. It put u higher on the hierarchy. Makes you more worthy.
But like this our value is at the mercy of outside forces. Not good.
It shud come from inside so no one can trample on it.
How do I bring this I am worthy feeling from inside? How can I say those words and be as truthful and honest as possible?
How can I make them more than just empty words?
AM is a good start for a lot of people even if they don’t know it.
So are most people. At least you know you are adrift whereas most people don’t even recognise this.
You can start by learning to spell correctly and I am not be facetious.
Plus you have also identified a need for some money. IOW, you don’t what to fuck off and live in a cave like a hermit, see you are already making progress.
Using AM will help you in getting goals. Oh look, you now know to run AM for a year.
Feelings change.
This too shall pass.
(Especially if you run AM for a year).
Yes and no, see Azrieals reply.
However, why should the truth make you sad and insecure? (Ever get the feeling you’ve been had, that society has been lying to you? More on this later).
Excellent, most people never get this far.
Most people never think. Because thinking is difficult, not particularly fun (especially if you have been lied too), they have not been taught how and society at large doesn’t encourage it.
So in order to think most people need to talk.
Talk about something important.
But most men talk bollocks about sportsball and women gossip about their acquaintances.
And what’s wrong with that? Men evolved to want to impregnate women.
Of course society tells you its wrong because society doesn’t want hordes of young men running around and raping everything in a skirt. Leaders understand that society can be made much more productive if conditions are set up so that the majority of men can fuck/pair bond as in antiquity only 40% of men reproduced.
And if pussy is missing in your life subs can help and AM will be a great foundation.
“Fuck” being the operative word, no doubt!!!
Men evolved to get a DNA tug when walking down the street and seeing and attractive woman and lets be honest here, you want to use her body as a masturbatory device and if she is a nice person and feminine you might even enjoy talking to her as well. Its all perfectly natural and normal.
Like most guys you won’t be a natural and will need to learn this skill set but skill set it is and can be learnt. And yes, once you know you can get laid and its just a numbers game you will become less interested in it. And just like women, if men have too many sexual partners it will impede your ability to pair bond. For women you want her to have no more than 2 especially if you are going to wife it up, for men the number is far higher.
Really, you have already mentioned your need for money so the comforts you enjoy currently will run out in the future.
Also, you have readily acknowledged you are deliberately sabotaging your life by not sleeping properly and wasting time with wankflix.
Fuck me sideways, you now know how to improve your life. Things are looking up.
Everything. EVERYTHING. I highly doubt that. As a kid I always wanted to drive and fire a real tank. My parents never arranged this for me, should I feel bad.
So we don’t have to run from sabre toothed tigers and people walk round with full bellies. Isn’t civilisation and capitalism wonderful. Aren’t we blessed.
So you are not particularly bright then. I know someone who got 4 A1’s at A level in Maths , further maths and physics (before the grades were devalued) with no revision. And no, its not me I hasten to add, I am not that clever but also I was never troubled with the curse of the high IQ (which is a real thing).
Certainly is. Society pumps this shit out and you all lap it up.
Don’t be, I’m quite enjoying it.
Because you are feeling a void and have come across subs as a way to fill it.
Whilst it would be easy to tell you to simply read the forum most people who get success leave which means that those left tend to be the ones with the biggest problems which is why you will come across such weird shit if you read a lot here.
Could be.
Is this an excuse to change subs just as AM is starting to work?
Porn is bad for you and rots the brain.
Would you rather fuck your hand or fuck the women in the porn you jack off to in real life.
This reminds me of the old joke, “Whats a virgin, I’ve never met one”.
Nobody is forcing these people to engage in porn. Having said that the nastier parts of society are advocating it as a life style choice but that is them simply wanting to gain power and needing to undermine cultural assumptions in order to do so.
And what if god doesn’t exist or the OP is not a believer.
A diplomatic response here would be “Your reply is not particularly helpful”.
You already have AM why don’t you run it properly for a year?
And AM will also help you make money.
Worthy of what?
Simply existing?
The OP already exists, now what?
Which bit of this is incorrect?
snippety snip.
Not really. It was pornographer Hugh Hefner’s only original idea. That you could get the girl next door to strip off and provide titillation for the masses.
The most common female sexual fantasy is the “rape fantasy” to be forcible taken by some dominant man and she is powerless to stop it.
Women are scared little bunny rabbits and whilst men might not be big bad wolves you have approach anxiety, fuck off.
I don’t think the OP would find this “particularly helpful”.
(Raphael would, as he appears to be interested in that sort of thing).
This is true but the ages are 18-21 or 16-23.
I am at a loss to understand this mindset.
Hallelujah.
Pay attention OP, AM is already working.
This is wrong. people clearly have more choice,
You imply they have unlimited choice.
TL:DR
Anyway OP, good luck and best results come from sticking to one thing and playing it for a long time.
Well, that’s your (incredibly opionated) opinion and you’re welcome to it. To be honest I don’t think that comment is very helpful to them or me either. Come to think of it, it wasn’t that helpful when you said it to DarkPrince either. Everyone is trying to help in their own way here. But I’ve seen your habit of putting people down on other threads too, didn’t impress me there and it still doesn’t. Have a nice day.
As frustrating as @David’s story reads, (especially since his issue is essentially a fundamental one), can we at least try to remain civil on this thread?
He knows what to work on, has identified several personal goals he wants to achieve, he just needs to understand that he’s starting at Level 1 and some patience is needed. That’s all.
Insulting the dude isn’t adding value, it’s value-stealing, taking cheap shots at someone for asking for help says a lot, unfortunately not about the OP.
Trust me david, porn is a cruel beast. it will eat you alive and spit you with no mercy, and thos who say it is just as easy as stopping any habit are completly wronge.
because reproduction is our very basic need, our brain releases tons amounts of dopamine where it spot chances of succeeding with this task.
now imagine this, with couple of clicks your brain can access the evolutionary jackpot. breeding with multiple women from different races and locations, hence diversifying your spread to many different genetic hosts and multiplying your genes goal of survival.
research has shown that quitting porn is actually harder then quitting meth or heroin. it is that addictive.
which is why i highly highly recommend you first to get rid of this nasty habit before trying your luck in the dating game. the women will wait, trust me they go nowhere(and there are always new crop).
You have to read success story in yourbrainonporn, read “atomic habit” thoroughly and join support groups in whatsapp/discord/whatever else.
Having a reboot partnet will help you tremendosly to quit.
I guarentee you, after 90 days it will start become much much easier. and the benefits you will obtain will surpass most if not all subs combined(ok exaggarating here but you got my point😉).
Dont wait for tomorrow, every second of being prisoned to porn is one second less from your finite time on this planet.
I wish you good luck in your journey and if you want more info about where to find support groups DM me.
Nothing personal, I just wanted to remind everyone what RVConsultant asked us to keep an eye out.
The behavior changes/recon related to the newest tech. Just that.
Asking for general personal advice in the midst of what is basically a self-help/self-improvement community is always going to be a rife/risky undertaking at best.
Sort of like innocently raising a question about the meaning of life at an International Convention of World Religions.
The resulting uncapped fire hydrant may not be the convenient drinking fountain that you were hoping for.
How many young boys dream of becoming the next Lionel Messi and leading their team out at the Nou Camp and scoring a hat trick at the pinnacle of football in the champions league final?
Are you really going to tell me its their own fault if they don’t make it because they didn’t try hard enough?
Or how about money? A worlds former richest man, Carlos Slim Helu got there (partly) because the Mexican govt gave him the telephone monopoly. I also want to be the worlds richest man yet try as I might the British govt have so far yet to give me the UK telephone monopoly, the dirty rotters.
You are a life coach aren’t you.
Is this simply you talking your own book?
How many innocent people are you going to lead up the garden path?
However, if you had said “everybody can improve” I would be right behind you because at least that statement is true.
Everybody can improve, albeit they may well not want to or its an area of life they are not particularly interested in.
Yeah, you did sort of imply that but my response stands either way.
Can you work for this company for free without it affecting the lifestyle you want?
If the answer is no then you need more money.
Are you the brightest person either at college or your new employer. I’ve got no idea but probably not because you had to work hard. And a capacity for hard work will take you a long way in life, further than brains alone. You are set up and primed for success. Plus this is something else that AM will help you with.
You could argue that you are addressing higher level issues but you aren’t even doing that.
Yet I remain fascinated by your use of “and your welcome to it” and “have a nice day” when you would far rather I not post at all or simply post light and fluffy stuff that that agrees with you.
Perhaps this is why society is so messed up, people so longer say what they mean or mean what they say.
@remarkable - what’s the matter, man? Why so rude? You are clearly intelligent but don’t know how to communicate. Do you think you are the only person who is right in any conversation?
You need to understand that everyone has their cognitive dissonances (including you) and you can advice others but to just simply say something is stupid or incorrect isn’t doing anything for your argument.
If you have any experience in talking to people, you will understand that you don’t bring people to your side by just straight up saying that they are wrong. You share your experiences and explain why it seems to fit into your narrative.
It’s quite simple really. You might think you are calling a spade a spade but all you are being is a person who no wants to be around
Learn a bit of persuasion and influence. That will take you far
