Do you guys recommend I add heartsong? Me and her haven’t talked yet but she appeared in the gym of everything I described in my affirmations through ascension chamber not HS and once I had a vivid dream before that dream I was visualizing her with the connecting and everything
We recommend saying hello. Not everything requires a new sub or relying on a sub.
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Appreciate the reply and I’ll take that in mind thanks.
The best answer.
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I saw your deleted post. In this situation, there’s a necessity to build inner strength and resilience against potential rejection. Even if you did run a title like Emperor or WB for this, you would still need to take action to develop – i.e. speaking to her.
Rejection is a normal part of life. It is going to happen. It is inevitable. From the outside looking in, what I’m seeing here is a scarcity mentality of “if I can’t get this one individual, there will never be new opportunities,” and that mentality will generally start to manifest as jealous issues, or overall clinginess which is guaranteed to push her away.
The truth of the matter is that you simply need to talk to her. Invite her over to workout with you and start a fun conversation. And simply be open to the fact that she may indeed reject you.
And then say, “ah well, thus is life and people should have the ability to choose what they feel is their perfect partner.” I think people seem to forget that when a woman is looking for a partner, she’s looking for a person who potentially spend the rest of their lives with. What are you bringing to the table to provide that level of “value?”
And ensure that you too, have standards beyond just physical beauty. No one should “settle.” Not men, not women, not anyone.
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@SaintSovereign is absolutely correct.
I’ll just add this - don’t get obsessed with the whole “ignoring her to demonstrate high value” shtick that’s popular these days. Most of the time this just ends up looking uncalibrated or that you simply aren’t interested (meaning she just moves on).
Get your workout in, stay focused, and when you’re done just have a talk and see if you two click. No need to play these games - strike while the iron is hot.
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To sum it up in a sentence:
It sounds like you have an anxious attachment style.
You should look into that.
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The next time I see her in the gym I’ll do it and thank you for breaking my comfort and scarcity zone and also your friend below thanks guys I’ll take action with the possibility of rejection but there’s always more fishes in the sea.
But in my affirmations I also said she would be loyal and would have calm dominance and reject anyone regardless of looks, status, wealth, exceptional social skills charm and charisma and also have unconditional love and that she’s desired by many men but only me she sees
but hey still free will on her end and I’ll respect that if she does reject. Oh and she has my passions, interests and connects with me physically and emotionally and mentally and spiritually and intellectually but overall everything I said, thanks for your response and others and I mean it raw.
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People tend to overcomplicate this.
First, get your workout done. Then, before leaving the gym, approach her politely and introduce yourself:
“Hi! I just realized I haven’t seen you here before and thought I’d come over to say hello. My name is Claudel. What’s yours? Would it be okay if I said hi the next time I see you around?”
Chances are, she’ll share her name and let you know if she’s open to talking or not. If she says no, respect her boundaries and move on. If she says yes, take things slowly and avoid coming across as creepy.
At this stage, you’re simply gathering information. You don’t know if she’s already in a relationship (boyfriend or husband), if she’s into men or women, or even if she’s mentally stable. Don’t start fantasizing about someone you barely know. Get to know her first and see if what type of vibe you get.
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My 2 cents. Whenever i manifest someone with subs i would feel this pull towards them. When that feeling is that strong and obvious, anything you do will work as long as you go for it. If it doesn’t work then at the very least you got a crystal clear sign that you tapped into something incredible. If you did it once, you can do it again and again… there is nothing to fear or worry about either way
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You put a lot of pressure on yourself and on her when you hold her in that high regard. She‘s just human and has her flaws too. No one is perfect, no one is self actualized. She‘ll sense your nervousness when you approach her when you really think in advance that she‘s the perfect match for you. You can never know and you probably get disappointed, either when she rejects you right away or when you find out later on that she does not meet your super high criteria (for example: don‘t think that she has to be exclusive with you before being in a committed relationship, she most probably won‘t and you‘ll maybe accuse her for not being loyal but that‘s clearly not the case because a reason for an exclusive relationship has not been established yet).
Just say hi and see where you can lead it from there. Maybe you‘ll have some great sex, maybe you have other fun too, maybe you‘ll enter into a relationship with her, maybe you‘ll find out very quickly that she doesn‘t check your boxes at all. Just find out and take this exploration as the actual fun part because that is what it‘s all about. Wish you good luck!
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Very interessting: do you think our attatachment style does also affect our approaching? I always thought it only manifest in a relationship (but it would realy make sense, to have an effect on every aspect and “phase” of a relationship).
Yes of course
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Thank you. That is kind of a paradigm shift for me and sheds new light to many things I experienced…
An anxious or avoidant attachment style is nothing more than internal insecurity projected onto another person.
Nobody is responsible for your peace and happiness but you.
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If you’re asking about stack optimization, then yes I recommend Heartsong. If you’re manifesting a “twin flame” type of character, then Heartsong is better than Ascension Chamber for that. In the product title of Heartsong, it literally says “Heartsong: Meet Your Soulmate”. It’s also better for deepening the romantic relationship.
People should be using subliminals that best align with their desired goals.
Heartsong Pro-tips:
“Take action! When out and about, take notice of the people that are close to you. If you feel any “click”, an intuitive “ping” or pull, or a feeling of attraction/desire, then talk to them. Same with online dating. If it is a friend, consider spending some more time with them to see if any new feelings arise.”
So like others have said, you still have to take action and talk.
Now if you’re terrified of rejection and don’t have the balls to start anything, understand that this is completely normal.
I don't know if that's an issue for you but if it is (skip this if it isn't):
I would give you some approach motivation, but in my experience that shit doesn’t work most of the time. Realistically speaking, it rarely ever does. I have too many instances of telling guys, “grow a pair and talk to her” giving them lectures on why there’s nothing to be afraid of… “plenty of fish in the sea”, yada yada, all types of paragraphs and shit while hoping something clicks, them saying “you know what, you’re right” but then fast forward to the actual situation and they still shit themselves. That’s just reality. The truth is, there’s no substitute for real life experience. Words of encouragement and motivation are rarely ever enough to override deep-seated fears and anxieties.
I would recommend something like Primal or Daredevil to boost your social/extroverted/approach confidence, and start taking subtle action on that to develop it if you struggle to just even interact beyond your comfort zone. Practical solutions for developing those skills involve starting small and building yourself up. For instance, starting small-talk with someone in a low pressure environment. Go and practice, say hi to a stranger, etc.
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Primal romance might help you