Here’s an odd one, but, dealing with a lot of challenges in life comes down to knowing how to do enough but not too much.
No water, the plant starves
Too much water, the plant drowns
The outer surface and appearance—the leaves of the plant—will give you signals about what is needed.
Parched plant has dry leaves.
But if you only use the outer expression as your gauge, you will end up drowning the plant.
Because it takes time for the care you give to be expressed at the surface.
That means that sometimes you need to stop pouring water even though the leaves still look dry.
Concentrate on the roots as you give your care. And give the leaves time to catch up.
Doing this requires attending to yourself, and to your own feelings of panic or worry; not just the other person.