What do you guys do when you become really attractive like that and you just want to interact with a girl that is with her boyfriend without causing any trouble?
You do not have any intention to seduce her but you are naturally extremely attractive? You can feel the energy of her boyfriend not liking you interacting with her, and you just want to socialise a bit, as friends, nothing special?
What do you do?
Plenty of single ladies out there. Leave the ones with boyfriends (especially present boyfriends!) well enough alone.
Or, make sure to include him in the conversation!
Is this purely hypothetical? Or are you running into issues with this?
You socialice with her or both and learn to be confortable in the situation.
Its you who must trust yourself
Do whatever it is you want: socialize. If he acts like an insecure schmuck because of your presence, she would pick up on you being a sexual threat because of his behavior, which would work for your favor. Expect some mate-guarding from him, if not, be friends with that guy lol
Anyone stacking WB with RoS??
Im interested in what could happen with this blend
not hypothetical but very much a personal thing, some past experience that stuck with me, ya know
I actually noticed it yesterday when I was working out in a park and there was a guy with his girlfriend, the girl was doing yoga and he was working out, It quickly reminded me of a past trauma
so that lead me to asking this question
thisā¦
you know when you have a trauma how it is sort of a memory that surfaces again at times, well unless you rewire that experience it may be there forever so Iāll have to assess how to not recreate a similar experience and how to befriend ladies that have a boyfriend without them feeling that Iām threatening their relationship and with me being able to still experience a true and full friendship (no restrictions) with them.
I can be kind of intense in any kind of relationship and it usually fuels sort of interest, enticing all kinds of jealousy in others tho. But I do not want to restrict my own freedom of experience because of anothersā jealousy.
befriending the guy and clear communication is probably a good approach.
But also think I read somewhere that encouraging new experiences to overwrite the old is a methodology of healing in the wanted program and I can already notice this in my thinking patterns and how Iām approaching this past traumaā¦
wish me luck 
Itās not that difficult. Interact with both of them and acknowledge them as a couple. Address them from time to time as a couple (how did you guys meet? I heard you were on holiday?), Thatās usually all it takes.
Iām sure you mean weāll. Minimising peopleās hardships is not helpful. Saying something should be easy when the person is clearly going through something challenging is weird.
This is very transparent to me: youāre attracted to the girl and youāre looking for ways to make a move. Maybe youāre not admitting it to yourself. There are a million attractive single ladies out there and you have to be wondering about the one who has a boyfriend. 
In case you start talking to her and her boyfriend tells you to get lost, what do you do?
If you are extremely attractive you shouldnāt have any problem attracting someone that doesnāt have a boyfriend. Am I right?
Just move on and leave them alone. This is how people get in trouble. 
Come on bro, who you think is going to believe that?
My point was that there are easy tricks to befriend couples without getting one person all jealous; which was exactly the question. It wasnāt that the trauma behind was easy.
I notice in human relationships measuring things by the heart is usually best. I have always been an empath but this also makes me aware that when Iām genuinely enjoying the company of someone that it other people may not like this so much. Because I can feel it.
In the past I had a bad experience by this that left a mark on me and I would probably never sacrifice a good relationship again unless it is for true love.
So you can approach this logically but sometimes just feeling it through and weighing it by heart is the best measure. Is it unfair to date a girl that your friend has been with if there is true love?
I think Wanted is just making me contemplate this a bit while considering past experiences.
Eventually my viewpoints change and the processing is complete. And then results come for me. Now I was just a bit in two places, if you will, as so how to handle this situation because Iām still figuring out my beliefs. I think this program is making me go through a bit of healing in this regard.
@ksub you really gave this all your own your own spin ehh, and convinced yourself that your interpretation is more accurate than what I actually said and shared. Just let people talk and share what they are going through otherwise you canāt really provide the help they came here for, itās also kind and helpful, it shows you trust others.
Now I have to reiterate the reality of things.
In the past, I had a bad experience that created this trauma in me where I can have a tendency to not even give a girl any kind of attention or not even talk to her in a situation like this because I have like an expectation now it will end up with everyone involved getting hurt.
Itās like I am afraid that if I let myself go into an interaction when she has a boyfriend that we will end up falling in love and the guy will be left heartbroken and I will feel guilty, or something like that. I had this exact experience in the past and it literally left everyone involved damaged.
So, what I want now is to release that so I can freely interact with everyone and know how to handle it well so that everyone remains happy, but I also want to have joyful experiences and not, for example, limit the interaction with a girl because it may potentially make her boyfriend jealous of our experience.
I donāt like to suppress my own joy with another person because she has a boyfriend if I know within myself it is purely on a friendly basis.
Trauma is like baggage you carry it with you, any good or bad experience is like a memory that you now identify with and creates your experience of life. One way or the other you need to release or rewire that so that it is no longer true for you.
So for me this trauma that happened, it marked me in a way, the memory is still strongly with me where when I get in a similar situation I expect the same outcome. If I did not have that experience I would still be a blank slate in romance and any outcome would be possible. Now I notice I have a tendency to recreate it myself.
It is purely self-created.
So with a new experience, I should prove to myself above all else that it is not true and that it is self-created.
@ksub when people share something just trust they are being honest and authentic there is no reason to argue their sincerity, let alone convince yourself that you know better than them what they are actually experiencing.
Also because people may not read the original post by me and we could go off on tangents based upon your narrative of what I said.
And it wonāt be super beneficial to anyone because people would be serving answers to a fiction you created.
I was just looking to contemplate exactly what I stated in this post
I already know Wanted Black will be very rewarding for me but their will be some introspection and healing that I will need to go through.
Iām a student of psychology and Iāve always been aware of how sad it is that people are super limited by their programming and usually this is just passed down from generation to generation. I like these programs because of that they help you to unfold yourself from usually being very restricted to seeing much wider than before, and releasing imprisoning beliefs but I also want to remain a very solid and moral person. Moral is of the heart I believe you donāt have to put many rules on it you can just empathise with others and naturally feel whats right and wrong.
See belowā¦
Here for example quite to opposite is true. In my experience you can have attraction between male and female, attracted sexually, feel love for that person, enjoy time with that person but have no intention of escalating it to anything more than friendship,
and just enjoy it as a friendship. (even though the potential would be there, in certain situations you donāt actually want to infringe on someoneās happiness like that)
For many reasons, one could be she is dating your friend or in a relationship. You have to find your own moral compass Iām figuring out mine, Iām still young, but as I stated earlier I tend to measure things by heart, usually.
For example sometimes I think it is worth sacrificing a shallow relationship for true love, but for casual sexā¦ I would never. It is not worth it.
So it seems Wanted is helping me to figure these things out for myself.
What a book 
@Calypso That is a tough one. Having expectations in your head due to past trauma sucks. But the best solution really is exposure and challenging the idea that this exact thing will happen again. Yeah itās anxiety provoking for sure, it could potentially happen again. But living in a shadow of that fear is infinitely worse.
At this point like you said itās less about the other people youāre interacting with and more about your emotions. You really canāt control peopleās reactions. But you can do your best to provide support for yourself in those kinds of situations so you arenāt swept away in their reactions.
You say you trust your heart. Itās a good quality, but sometimes it can lead to trusting feelings that arenāt true. Emotional reasoning can get you in trouble sometimes. So how much do you feel that exact situation from the past could play out now, exactly in the same way? Does it feel inevitable or more like one of many different scenarios?
Beautifully said.
Also you are young and you already know whatās your issues to fix. You seem to be far ahead your peer friends.
Iām curious to know which healing titles you plan to use for healing your trauma.
Just Wanted Black, this entire process actually began closely after running Wanted Black. Iām now going through this healing process that will help me to fully embrace my sexuality and own it, fully. It is also encouraging me to have new experiences so I can rewire the past experiences, and release them as no longer true for me.
It says it here.
This is exactly how it has been unfolding for me. Feels like an exciting journey I just started
I do not think much of it, actually, it did not interfere with my life at all, I was so busy with other things in life that now that Iām open for a loving relationship I need to first get rid of the baggage and Wanted is making me aware of this.
It is only a mental reality for me, it does not control me, but it is there, and it is only triggered in a very specific situation that is almost identical to the past one, for example in a setting where Iām talking to a close friendās girlfriend and our conversation is getting intense or deeply personal, like kind of bondingā¦
Listen, I am a guy who loves people, I enjoy people, I am fun with people I like deep connections it is the main source of pleasure and amusement for me, I love interacting with different kinds of humans as I find everyone so fascinating and how people can be so vastly different. But I just tend to keep these kinds of women at a distance because of what happened in the past, It is not that I did not know this, I just left it on the side because I was focused on other issues.
Now that Iām aware and focused on it, I have faith that I will somehow manifest the perfect experiences to rewire myself in a positive way.
Iām more so just self-evaluating and reflecting so I can build a strong moral compass and standard of what I do and do not do in romance to ensure it does not happen again, Honestly, it was my fault I learned from it, it would be unwise not to take this with me as wisdom and make the same mistake again.
You can check out my journal I will be documenting my progression there
Hmm in the case of the girl youāre interested in, I would just treat them as friends, keep it brief and shallow. If the guyās getting all bent out of shape just from that, the girl will recognize it and youāll start to look a lot better in her eyes. I mean, if heās that possessive and insecure, maybe he shouldnāt be in a relationship in the first place. And yeah just let the aura of WB do the work. Nothing may come of it, and if not, it wasnāt meant to be. With that said, why not go to a mall and interact with other beautiful women who catch your eye? Personally if a girl is with her bf, I donāt care to interact with her at all. Because letās say you DO get the girl, do you really want to be with a cheater? Lol. Just lots of unnecessary trouble.
In case you want to have much deeper healing sexual energy later on, Khan Energy (I renamed it from Khan Black), especially Stage 1 is the focus.
does wanted black contain physical shifting like the first wanted?
i know this question might be repetitive but i donāt have time to backread