Oh I see that I’ve been tagged quite a while ago. It is an interesting question though, so I try my best to give an answer that seems to work for me most of the time.
MechaShaman asked “How do I put together unconditional self love and full self acceptance with the drive to improve and be become different than I am now?”
I guess I don’t know anything about unconditional self love. But I do see the interplay between self acceptance and self development. They are not exclusive. Quite the contrary. Self acceptance is saying: “everything is perfect as it is, nothing needs to be done right now”. Self development is saying: “let’s discover what else is already there that I cannot see at the moment”. So self acceptance opens the spirit to actualy see what will unfold naturally, not guided by intent or will but by the inherent nature of change. Self development is development of the self by itself, not by ego.
And maybe you know the saying that it’s not about becoming something but about un-becoming everything that you are not. This is the unfolding process in my understanding, you peel back the layers that cloud our self perception so that in the end one can say “I am”.