I think both is correct in terms of self-love.
Especially when self love and self esteem is still low, rejection can really hurt.
But infe you’ve grown/healed enough, it’s time to put you out there. Because once you’ve gained a stable foundation in self love and self esteem, you know for a fact, that rejection doesn’t do anything to your self love or self esteem.
If you approach a woman, you make an offer. She can accept or decline. But if she declines, it doesn’t have necessarily to do with who you are (as long as you’re well groomed and don’t act like a creep).
It might be that you remind her of someone she didn’t like, she has a crush on someone else, she just got fired, got a huge unexpected bill,is super focused on her career and doesn’t want to spend anything (thoughts, time, emotions,…) on sex or even a relationship. And hundreds of more reasons.
If your selflove is high enough, you know this and her rejection doesn’t phase you.
But as long as your self-love is still very low, every single rejection might rock your self esteem. So in that case it would be wise to spend more time to grow/heal before training Game.