Another example @Prioritas
I think this one will help most explain how much I CHOOSE to listen rather than just listen
I was at this girlās house⦠I met her before GLM but never went out with her until after I started listening to the title⦠sheās a very chaotic scattered girl with an unfortunate relationship history that has her feeling very unsafe and untrusting of men
But she appreciates how mature and save my masculinity is
We had our second date yesterday,
Went to her houseā¦
Very attracted to her, but I genuinely was still in the phase of sassing her out to see if she was going to be consistent or chaotic⦠I wasnāt looking to seduce her, I was looking to see if she was stable and willing to meet me halfway in creating some romance
Weāre in bed, cuddling getting touchyā¦
And she starts getting very emotional and confused⦠sheās telling me how much she likes me, how much sheās attracted to me, how much sheās not attracted to me, how safe she feels with me, how unsafe she feels with me, how she wants a relationship, how she doesnāt want a relationship, just a total jumbled chaotic mess
I do my listening thing for a whileā¦
She tells me how attracted she was to me when we were in the car, and I just grabbed her wrist to look at her tattoos while I was driving without really asking herā¦
And how fearless I am in any time I want something, whether itās to cuddle her, or be closer to her, or make plans with her, or show her my interest, that I just do it without worrying about what sheās going to thinking while having zero fear about if itās going to be taken well
Then she goes back to the chaotic roller coaster of wanting me and not wanting meā¦
So I just said,ā¦
āOk Iām done talking to your mind Iām gonna talk to your body nowā
Then I pull her into me for a very tight embrace, me as big spoon her as little spoon.
She immediately gets extremely happy and comforted and safe again, all the chaotic jumble immediately went away.
Two minutes later she is SOBBING and crying in my arms about how it feels so safe and good to be cuddled and how sick she is of being scared and alone and pushing people away and wanting them to be close, literally THANKING me for giving her a hold she can cry in.
Talk about masculine⦠jeez⦠whatās more masculine than that.
Then she got real submissive & freaky 
Iām not saying you should grab girls and do what I did⦠But thatās what was needed in that moment, and it was obviously the right read.
She was talking, I was listening, and when I needed to say something to maintain leadership of and responsibility for the best atmosphere possible for both of us, I did it in the most expressive and ballsy way possible