Another example @Prioritas
I think this one will help most explain how much I CHOOSE to listen rather than just listen
I was at this girl’s house… I met her before GLM but never went out with her until after I started listening to the title… she’s a very chaotic scattered girl with an unfortunate relationship history that has her feeling very unsafe and untrusting of men
But she appreciates how mature and save my masculinity is
We had our second date yesterday,
Went to her house…
Very attracted to her, but I genuinely was still in the phase of sassing her out to see if she was going to be consistent or chaotic… I wasn’t looking to seduce her, I was looking to see if she was stable and willing to meet me halfway in creating some romance
We’re in bed, cuddling getting touchy…
And she starts getting very emotional and confused… she’s telling me how much she likes me, how much she’s attracted to me, how much she’s not attracted to me, how safe she feels with me, how unsafe she feels with me, how she wants a relationship, how she doesn’t want a relationship, just a total jumbled chaotic mess
I do my listening thing for a while…
She tells me how attracted she was to me when we were in the car, and I just grabbed her wrist to look at her tattoos while I was driving without really asking her…
And how fearless I am in any time I want something, whether it’s to cuddle her, or be closer to her, or make plans with her, or show her my interest, that I just do it without worrying about what she’s going to thinking while having zero fear about if it’s going to be taken well
Then she goes back to the chaotic roller coaster of wanting me and not wanting me…
So I just said,…
“Ok I’m done talking to your mind I’m gonna talk to your body now”
Then I pull her into me for a very tight embrace, me as big spoon her as little spoon.
She immediately gets extremely happy and comforted and safe again, all the chaotic jumble immediately went away.
Two minutes later she is SOBBING and crying in my arms about how it feels so safe and good to be cuddled and how sick she is of being scared and alone and pushing people away and wanting them to be close, literally THANKING me for giving her a hold she can cry in.
Talk about masculine… jeez… what’s more masculine than that.
Then she got real submissive & freaky
I’m not saying you should grab girls and do what I did… But that’s what was needed in that moment, and it was obviously the right read.
She was talking, I was listening, and when I needed to say something to maintain leadership of and responsibility for the best atmosphere possible for both of us, I did it in the most expressive and ballsy way possible