Cry???
Any other sub that can be stacked with DRRED ???
Any one who has tried to stack khan black or emperor or genesis with this
Official stacking recommendation
Stacks well with: Alchemist, Sanguine, Emperor
Some emotions are so strong that you donât want to admit them so crying is out of option, partly because of poor emotional skills.
Not really had any recon yet. If I could experience any recon it would be in the form of introspection of my negative thoughts for example any arguments with my parents or friends I just think about how pointless or silly it would be and let it go.
I will keep incremental loops going by 10 seconds each time until I hit the heavy seas of recon. But so far so good
Once you get triggered, my approach is to let the emotion be there, donât try and push it away or hold it close, then right after that I try to feel completely aware/be the awarness (this distances you away from the emotion and helps you realize that you are not them and they have nothing to do with you) I also try to sense where in the body that is being held, and visualize it opening up and releasing; like a gas valve opening or a knot unraveling.
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How much can Phoenix achieve in comparison with DR red? In long term run, can Phoenix clear a person sufficiently enough, so there wonât be need for dragon reborn?
I know itâs single stage vs 4 and also experiences can vary, just curious how phoenix and dr stand in comparison generally speaking.
Itâs the same dynamic with any single stage versus a multistage. The multistage covers more ground, over a longer period of time and thus will help you spark deeper growth. Phoenix is a remarkable title, but when it comes to which will give you more results, a multistage always wins out.
Inner Child
The inner child is a structure inside our conscious minds, or⌠if youâd prefer⌠asubconscious mind-process that you can access consciously.
It is a personification and reanimation of your past self. Literally yourself at 3-6 years old, when youâve only just first started to take on concepts of self/other. Before a certain age⌠about 1.5 years old, young children suffer something called Temporal Permanence, where they literally think that things that are not within their field of vision do not exist⌠this applies to humans and family members as well, meaning, if their parents arenât in eyesight for even a second, the child will think that theyâre alone and have been all their lives.
This obviously creates a sense of abandonment.
So the âInner Childâ is a visualization that you create of your 5 year old self, and in that personified visualization you place all the unmet needs of your child, all the pain, the anger, the frustration he was too young to understand and express. Inner Child work is a genre of processes where you allow that Child to be his highest self, and have selfish needs, have true pain, have a childlike love for the world and a burning desire for some joyful activity that he wants to do more than anything else (play, run, jump, dance, sing, etc.) with child-like abandon.
The process would then involve forgiving your inner child for anything that he did and telling him it wasnât his fault, he was only a kid. It would involve apologizing that there was noone there to protect him. It would involve giving him permission to fully live in his joy as much as he wants. Itâs a series of questions meant to unearth represssed wants/needs/desires, itâs a series of apologies that heal past pains/regrets, and itâs a series of intentions about how the âAdult Youâ will act differently to give the âChild Youâ the experiences he always wanted.
It can also involve things like empathizing with that visualized child as the child tells the Adult You all the things theyâre hurt about, so that you can bring your caring, adult wisdom to the situation and say âI hear you,â and âLetâs go say what we wish we said back then to ____ together.â
You get a reconnection to childhood joy, a new outlook on the subconscious pain that could have been lingering for a lifetime due to unprocessed emotions relating to your parenting, and on a more front-of-mind level you start to become aware that thereâs a less mature, less resilient, less disciplined âChildâ in yourself (which is basically your needs/wants/desires/pains/joys, just personified) that needs to be honoured by being listened to, acknowledged, cooperated with, and sometimes indulged and sometimes disciplined/restrained.
Itâs a very self-love focused practice, too, so a great sub for it is actually LB, even if thatâs not directly mentioned.
My interpretation of âA mature inner childâ from DR-RED isnât a child thatâs deprived of joy, as joy and being able to feel positive emotions is very mature⌠DR-REDâs âmature childâ would be one who doesnât let unmet needs and desires cause temper tantrums in daily life, and who is able to ask for what it needs like âI really want to take a breakâ but also is willing to delay gratification, make sacrifices, think selflessly, and be able to hear âno.â
(I also just found out from this video that Inner Child work is ALSO a jungian concept⌠fascinating⌠he had a massive impact⌠wow.)
Shadow Work
Shadow Work, on the otherhand, is a very jungian concept, which is what Iâm engaging in a lot of right now while running Khan Stage 1.
Itâs less complicated. Itâs just getting really, brutally, ugly honest about the lies you tell yourself, and then telling yourself the truth you wish wasnât true.
Those lies are the âShadowâ you hide from yourself. Theyâre called Shadows because you can never catch them, but you can also never run away from them, and most importantly, theyâre the darkest part of yourself (that you normally never acknowledge.)
Theyâre usually things that you think are âtabooâ so you reject that you would even do them or think them. Wanting to cheat. Hating someone. Chronically lying. Most peopleâs issues arenât solving these issues⌠theyâre easy to stop once you realize youâre doing them⌠but people run into an issue of having these shadow thoughts and denying theyâre even having them.
Just as an example, realizing youâve been acting out of hatred and jealousy towards someone when youâve been telling yourself this whole time âyouâre happy for themâ is a realization typical of Shadow work.
Then youâd consciously process those emotions, why youâre jealous of them, how youâve been lashing out at them, what the real âshadowâ is thatâs causing this all to happen, etc.
Just as an example, someone might realize theyâre actually jealous of a person because of 2-3 beliefs. One, a belief that theyâll never be successful because there is something wrong with them⌠& Two, whatâs wrong with them is that âtheyâre not smartâ and (3) they think intelligence is fixed and canât be changed/improved. Theyâd process each individually as well as process how they have combined to create problems in thought and behavior.
Loop 2 in the books and today has been on of the smoooothest days in a long time. No anxiety, not worrying about the future, and just being full blown present in the moment. I know not all days are going to be like this on this journey but damn do I feel good today.
Even noticed some slight changes in my behavior in smaller interactions with others, best way to put it is that I can tell parts of me is maturing and starting to execute.
Quick question is one is about to start the old version of DR stage 4 could you switch to ST4 RED or do you need to start all over?
You could do DRR4 but if you want the best results, you need to start from DRR1. This is cause all the stages have been rewritten from scratch.
What you can do is try DRR4 and if it feels off or too much, start from DRR1.
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Relevant post to the topic:
I really try not to ever use the word âegoâ and instead, always find the word that more accurately describes what Iâm trying to explain.
The problem with âegoâ is that itâs been adopted and/or filtered by so many different schools of thought that itâs impossible to really pin down a true meaning of the word without disregarding another completely valid, but oftentimes only casually connected, version of the word.
Take this phrase
âWatch your ego, bro.â
Well?
If youâre a westerner out clubbing, that means âyouâre way too cocky and you need to learn humility before I teach it to you, bro.â
If youâre into Jungian psychology, that same phrase means âYou should really take a look at your unconscious biases and how theyâre affecting your assessment of this situation, bro.â
If youâre into Freudian psychology, that means âI donât know whatâs wrong with you, but youâre either A) a carnal monster that only lives for sex and drugs, or B) a total sheep who lives completely for others, bro.â
If youâre into oriental-collectivist schools of thought, that SAME PHRASE means âYouâre really letting your selfish interests get in the way of the interests of the collective, the community, your familyâŚâ
If youâre Christian, it means âYouâre too prideful and need to realize you are nothing without god.â
So⌠itâs tough to answer âwhere does Ego fit into all this?â
The only thing they all the Ego definitions have in common is âThe Selfâ, especially the âSurface Level Self That We Can Identity With.â
rant about language
âŚespecially the âConscious/Aware SelfâŚâ (God dang it even âConsciousâ and âEgoâ have both been adopted by the new age spiritual movement, and popular culture, who have twisted them with their own interpretations of the wordsâŚ
Ok letâs call it the âself weâre aware ofâ âŚ
So essentiallyâŚ
Shadow Work and Inner Child Work relate to the self in that theyâre two different types of processes that you can do to understand your âselfâ (read: ego) better, and, theyâre two different ways to imagine two differents parts of your âselfâ (read: ego) that you can develop a better relationship with, or otherwise leverage to develop better emotional control, and find clarity about who you are and why you do what you do.
AnywaysâŚ
This is completely unrelated but scrolling through the âCastleâ thread got me reading on why ZP is so individualized and I think this is all beautiful.