A good way for me to reconnect with my default relaxed state is by taking a calm walk in nature. Sometimes I’ll sit on a rock and quietly observe my surroundings, and when I feel truly present and at ease, that deep serenity starts to resonate within me. It’s a feeling I knew well when I was younger, I used to do this all the time. But over the years I forgot. Now, when I return to it it truly feels like coming home.
And responding to what you wrote about that effortless state you had, and then lost it when life threw some curveballs. There’s a powerful lesson in that, one I’ve only just recently started to truly grasp and be able to apply in my life.
The law of rhythm is a constant in the Universe, sometimes things rise, sometimes they fall. That’s just how it goes. But the real reason we often get stuck or fall out of alignment is because we unconsciously keep feeding those unwanted feelings. Out of habit and a lack of awareness, we perpetuate emotional states that don’t serve us. Over time, they take over and become our new norm, not because they’re true, but because we’ve allowed them to. It’s almost like the mind becomes addicted to those emotions, even when they’re harmful to us.
But that means the opposite can also be true, we can through our conscious awareness, train our minds to become addicted to the sweeter feelings instead.
What I have started to do when signs (usually a sharp sensation around my solar plexus) like this start to appear, is to just take 30 minutes or so and fully relax, and then just start to tune into that area. Just listen and don’t get involved and let the emotion come up without judgement(I even talk to it sometimes, like telling its okay to feel and that I love it.) After a while it starts to dissipate and in that release of tension there is a little seed of wisdom.
So you’re not ignoring the negative emotion, you allow it unconditionally. You feel that emotion fully without resistance or mental distortion, just be still and watch with your awareness. When you have reached a state of neutrality, when the negative feeling has burnt its energy, that’s when it comes to me what it meant and why it arrived.
I see it as working with the emotion, not against it, almost like being a doctor treating a patient. The doctor doesn’t get entangled in the patient’s pain, but instead remains present and focused on healing it and making the patient healthy again.
From there I can transmute that “negative feeling(although I don’t see it as such, it just is what it is).” Because from the release of the unwanted charge, there’s relief and joy arising instead, and that’s when you experience the positive seed of wisdom and integrate it into your being. Because when you have felt it, experienced it, that’s when you truly understand it.
So lately, I’ve normalized a strong sense of abundance internally, one that comes entirely from within. Then, whenever something unwanted happens outside of me, I simply reframe it to work in my favour. It’s actually fun, like a game where I’m the only one who can win.
I tell myself things like, “this too is a blessing in disguise,” or “this too shall work in my favour,” and I smile as I say it. Also I affirm to myself daily that, “everything always works out for me.” And if heavy emotions suddenly arise, I use awareness to bring them to a neutral state, integrate the lesson, and return to my natural state of abundance.
So in a way I just make sure I consciously steer my inner emotional state towards those of love and abundance, and knowing fully if I keep saturating my days with them… then that will be my default state of being.
This to me is inner power, and if I have to… I withdraw from the outer world during the days and realign in inner silence… I trust myself to stay abundant, but would never trust my surroundings to do that for me.
Because ultimately, the outer world is a reflection of my inner world. If I’m feeling turmoil within and try to find answers outside, it never truly works. The only way to calm the waters is from the inside out.
