Guys, I have hit a point where I am now desperate as what I should do. As embarsing it is to say this I am 35 years old and never had a girlfriend. My approach was always let them come to me and just do little. Then when it gets to the point where even their friends tell me they like me I cower away. Feeling as if I am not worthy or they will find out I am boring guy with nothing going on for himself. in the past I have end up hurting women making them cry, or really dislike me. Nowadays at work I have some female friends that I hang out with, travel with, go out to lunch with etc…
I am finishing my degree but honestly I don’t really feel a drive for it, but I know I needed it if I want to get my desired job. I would like to do project management, I am excited about it and does not feel boring to do. Also I want to proof to myself that I can lead a team, influence people successfully.
Lately I I don’t engage my friends much I am not interested in hanging out. I feel less than them because they have their own house, kids a nice family. Or the above minus the kids…
Sometimes I just feel broken as fuck, why don’t I have these things? What is wrong with me? I even went to some mental health websites but didn’t find anything serious. Perhaps a neurotic, but nothing serious, I just feel down but depressed.
At the end of the day I just want to have a family of my own, good set of friends and a good job.
I have bought several subs from this website, my first one was sex and seduction. Which was great and it attracted woman in my life, one of them is now friendzoned. She liked me and I her but I placed her in the friendzone eventually.
I am also very much overweight and it makes me uncomfortable.
I really like meditation and have dived into it pretty deeply and I love what it gives me. I even naught this emotional releasing book TPP, it is about doing breathwork and releasing. It is great because it puts me in my body and I actually feel more alive
You know when I grew up I reached a point where I wanted to turn off my feelings because I taught it would show how weak i was and made me vulnerable to attacks. I also suppressed a lot. When my uncle died I did not feel a thing then when I saw him all of it started to come out but I just pushed it back down.
Part of me thinks that doing this emotional work will be very good for me. But I always self sabotage and end up nowhere. I am just weak and feel like I am getting nowhere.
What I desire:
- family of my own
- lose weight
- get a good job and house
- create good deep healthy relationships with good quality friends