so ungrateful and arrogant wow
Yes, in that post you quoted - I talk about how changing the fundamental lens of how you perceive and express sexuality will automatically make you uninterested in porn.
Healthy intimacy, self-respect, self-worth, agency, etc, further develop those things within yourself, and youâll naturally perceive sexuality through those lenses, which will push you away from pornography. Strengthening your sense of agency will also help you easily overcome compulsive behaviors like PMO because compulsion requires a gap in agency. And Iâm talking about deep subconscious structures related to agency. That way youâll always be in control and feel in control, and wonât have to rely on willpower, distracting yourself, or whatever superficial method people advocate for you to apply, lol.
These types of things are bulletproof in terms of how they work, because they address the root causes. Root cause philosophy is what actually produces the real results.
I have a friend of a friend who follows some mainstream guy named Chase Hughes, and he told me that my philosophy is the exact same of what that guy talks about. The idea that society hardly moves the needle because theyâre obsessed with symptoms instead of root causes.
A great example of this, is the whole ânervous systemâ trend going on in wellness spaces, where everyone is obsessed with nervous systems.
âI need to heal and strengthen my nervous systemâ.
âI need to fix my nervous systemâ.
Notice how itâs focused on as if itâs a biological issue, as if the nervous system is broken or something.
This is because a lot of people in general have overstimulated nervous systems due to living in a constant state of fear, worry, and stress.
The people who are little more experienced, will tell you that nobody has a nervous system issue. Their nervous systems are working 100% perfectly, and healthy.
If you feel powerless, victimized, helpless, and like you have no control, choice, or direction in changing your experience - then your nervous system will get cranked up. The moment you start feeling powerful, in control, aware of your choice, and your ability to respond or create your future - your nervous system will relax. People donât have a ânervous systemâ problem, they have an agency problem. And itâs not black and white, itâs on a spectrum. The nervous system is just a responder to your perceptual lenses and sense of agency. Think of your nervous system as a highly sensitive microphone, that adjusts itself in response to what it âhearsâ about your agency. It doesnât create anything - it reflects what your perception of agency is broadcasting. If you crank up the volume of choice, power, and control, then the nervous system will lower the volume on fear, reactivity, and uncertainty. Take âdoomscrollingâ for instance. Doomscrolling is literally the nervous system reacting to a lack of agency. You encounter something outside of your locus of control, the system spikes, and then you compulsively scroll to try to regain a sense of agency. Obviously scrolling isnât going to provide that, so you just end up with a cranked nervous system, and a state of stress, reactivity, and weaker energy. Social media like IG will literally bombard you with uncertainty (politics, viral drama, other peopleâs lives and situations) that is outside of your locus of control, in an artificially hyper-concentrated manner that humans arenât really evolved to handle - which keeps people in a fight or flight state, constantly weak, highly suggestible, reactive, and at each otherâs necks. That also disrupts physical health because your body shuts off, delays, and suppresses natural healing and regenerative processes while prioritizing survival.
Even if your addiction is a coping mechanism for emotional processing - itâs really the agency that keeps your system calm, and gives you choice on how to respond to an emotion. If you donât have that stabilized feeling and awareness of being in control, then it becomes much easier to reactively cope with a ânegativeâ emotion like fear, anger, or sadness through avoidance or numbing. If your agency is strong enough, you donât even need to do âdetachmentâ or âobserver modeâ in emotional processing, you can stay fully present with your emotions, feel them, and integrate them without being thrown off. You donât even need to âregulate your nervous systemâ with a strong enough agency, as it will just happen automatically.
If you have a cranked nervous system and only rely on relaxation techniques, breathwork, etc, youâre not actually changing anything on a deeper level - youâre just managing symptoms. Instead of upgrading the root cause, youâre just âde-stressingâ the system until the same interpretation of reality reactivates that stress. You donât heal stress by calming your system, you heal it by actually changing the perceptual lens that keeps creating it. And most of that lens is related to agency.
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The Heaven Shaking Power module really did that for me. I have 2 customs that include it, both are making me super calm and relaxed, they´re shifting me directly into the parasympathetic state.
Exactly, it goes Agency â Nervous System.
The nervous system is a constantly adjusting mirror of how much power, control, choice, and ownership you feel you have in a situation. Thatâs why someone can remain calm even in a highly intense situation - they feel in control, capable, and free to respond rather than react. The real way to âhealâ a chronically cranked up nervous system, would be to expand the baseline sense of power, control, choice, and ownership you have in relation to your life. Itâs completely perceptual and identity based.
In mainstream wellness spaces however, youâll see everyone talk endlessly about how they âneed to fix my nervous systemâ, but youâll rarely ever see them say they âneed to fix the sense of power, control, choice, and ownership I have in relation to my lifeâ, which is constantly being chipped away by social media, news, and cultural conditioning.
Itâs things like this for why a lot of people in self-development either plateau, quit, regress, or go around in circles for years making minimal progress - because they avoid the root causes.
You can do 1000 nervous system techniques, or breathwork exercises, and it wonât amount to much if you havenât healed the perceptual framework that cranked the nervous system up in the first place. If you operate from a strong victim mentality for instance, where you believe life just happens to you, and even minor stimuli spike your system like a blade of grass in the wind - then those techniques might calm you temporarily. However, unless you heal the identity-level perception of your own agency, the nervous system will get cranked right back up at the slightest disturbance. Like I said, itâs not black and white, itâs a spectrum, meaning thereâs different levels and degrees of agency. Itâs not an all or nothing deal where you either have it or donât. It can always be developed more.
This also applies to trauma because people like to think âwhat about the nervous system being cranked due to past traumaâ. When you heal traumas, youâre actually healing the perceived agency around a specific experience. Your sense of agency collapsed during that experience, and your nervous system because again, itâs a mirror/responder of agency - basically logs that collapse of agency in memory. So the nervous system is still reacting to it even if the event is over. This is why rewriting the story and meaning around the event even works in the first place, as youâre changing what the nervous system is reacting to. The main point Iâm making is that it helps to deepen understanding of different layers and mechanisms to things, instead of people thinking that their nervous system is broken like they do in wellness spaces. Itâs not broken, itâs perfectly responding to the personâs perceived sense of agency. It could not be any more perfect, lol.
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Is it cool if I DM you?
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sure, DMâed you
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