i think even if we try to convience ourselves that it doesnt influence us it still does,
you cant hang around people with poor mentailty and losers mindset and victim mindset and say they cant infulence you. slowly slowly youll start to think like them they will influence you in a way
theres a saying that goes ’ show me your friend and ill show you your future’ everything effects us thats why we have to be becareful picking whats benfiting us in the long run
You’re not wrong man. All I’m saying is you have way more control over that than you’re giving yourself credit for. It’s an influence sure, but you have the choice to react to it or not.
Victim, loser mentality, anything you want to label it is an individual struggling with something. Wanting to distance yourself from them can also be an internalized fear because it mirrors back your own insecurities or limiting beliefs. But they’re just a human being going through their own struggles.
i disagree, we all go through stuff theres ups and downs but if their regular bassline is that mentaility thats the problem , my prespective on friendships is it either gives me joy or knowledge or it helps me grow if its none of the above, then why are we friends? i cant have friends that are just a bad infulence and people that just smoke cigs when im trying to quit?
sometimes if you wanna ditch a habit or a certian lifestyle, you have to leave your old friends too
otherwise you wont change, i mean ive never seen a guy who wanted to stop smoking and drinking and he quit and he still hangs with smokers and people who drink
I guess there’s a threshold for all of us. I’m willing to stick around friends with bad habits and vices if I care about them because they’re only human. If I had a friend that wanted to get into bar fights every time we go out I’d see what could be done to negate that. If it got to the point where I needed to cut him out of my life I would, but I wouldn’t immediately jump to that action.
But it’s your life, I’m not telling you how to live it. Just lending my perspective.
Does this behaviour hold you back?
I don’t believe so. I’ve only got a handful of friends and their behavior doesn’t influence my own decisions in my life.
Having said that I’d like to meet more people with similar goals to myself. So while my current friends don’t hold me back, I also haven’t been good with meeting new people.
