Introversion vs coping/trauma

Questions and Comments
#1

What are you guys experience with this? I’m starting to think introversion is some form of coping mechanism because of social anxiety, overthinking, trauma etc. A protective shell that is draining, hence introversion fatigue.

Not trying to minimise anyone’s experience, but I’m talking about my experience and life. Trying to understand this phenomenon in my life.

I’m curious if anyone transformed themselves away from this ”limit”. Did you notice after a while of personal development that ”ohh wait, I’m not actually introverted”? Or did you realise it’s not changeable?

PS: I’ve seen so many ways I’ve limited myself in life and seen others and myself overcome these and realised it was just limiting beliefs. Mindset can both make you or break you, which is why I’m thinking it’s something that can be overcome.

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#2

I think what you describe by introversion is a sociophobia

#3

I am a HARD introvert. You’d never know it if you saw me working a crowd. For me, the distinction is clear: do you become drained from interacting with people, or do you become energetic?

After a day of socializing, you might be lucky if you hear from me a week later. I don’t think we need to really delve too much into it, or even create scripting to mitigate it. Instead, just honor your natural cycles of interaction and accept it.

Yes – if I were an extrovert, I would probably see more success in life. However, I also recognize that much of my best ideas occur when I retreat into solitude and contemplate the interactions I have. So, what would happen if I did try to “fix” this (not saying you’re asking about scripting, just opining from my perspective as a producer) rather than simply honoring the fact that I find my own mind highly interesting and can spend large amount of times contemplating.

Not saying this is fact, just food for thought.

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#4

I agree with this. It’s always better to use your personal strengths and “limits” to your advantage, rather than trying to break yourself and re-learn everything from scratch, all while being unhappy and getting subpar results

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#5

Yes, I understand that it might not be something changeable and I just need to work with it instead of against it. When I tell people I’m an introvert, they get shocked. So I started to think I’m just putting myself in a box perhaps.

Depending on the people, I feel like I get more energy with some, where I can party all night and with some less. I don’t know, I think I need to explore it more to fully understand how it works for me. Because sometimes I think it’s social anxiety or being bored, etc. I’m also open to the fact that perhaps this is introversion, it’s just not clear to me. Leaning towards introversion though

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#6

From my experience I’d argue that a lot of “introversion” may be simply the individual recognizing how little many people actually add to their life, and chosing not to participate in low roi environments.

But even with great people around I still need freedom to just leave at a moments notice if required or desired, this applies tripple when going through strong transformations.

But I assume that’s normal the more “specialized” ones path is, whether professionally, personally/spiritually.

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#7

I’m an introvert and I have people with whom I gain energy, but even then, I can’t really meet them daily just because I crave some alone-time as well

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#8

Definite homebody introvert here. I don’t see it as a weakness or whatever I guess. If I sociaize too much, I find myself withdrawing energetically and not talking Feel like a turtle trying to pull inside my shell totally.

I’m most at home (lol) reading or tinkering in my “lab”.

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#9

I have.

Used to be seriously anxious in social situations as a kid—Got so bad that I actually had a medical exemption from doing presentations in class. It took years of steady effort (Lots of failing along the way) to get comfortable socially, but honestly, I’d go through it all again. These days, I’ve got a bunch of amazing friends and unforgettable experiences under my belt that I wouldn’t had otherwise.

That said, I’m still pretty introverted at heart. I enjoy solitude. It lets me reflect, recharge and reconnect with myself. And going into ‘monk mode’ helps me deal with social burnout.

#10

When you are more healed you will certainly start to know.