Internal conflict, is this normal?

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#1

not sure why I’m still feeling this way but if you read my primal seduction and limitless executive journal, I finally took action on something that I was too afraid to take and thats go on dates. In the past, I’ve had plenty of women either hint that they wanted to go on a date with me or just out right tell me but I always talked myself out of it. I don’t know why, but it was like I wanted the date but when it actually came down to taking the action, like going on the date, I couldn’t physically do it. I would cancel at the last minute, the women would get mad and stop talking with me. But now that I have taken the action and had a good outcome, why do I feel an internal conflict, even with proof that things went well? My date literally told me that we have to go out again soon but for some reason I’m demotivated and feel like I had a bad date and that she thought I was awkward or whatever. Just a lot of negative thoughts coming to mind of not being good enough and just anxiousness… is this normal after taking action that you have procrastinated on taking ?

ps my date literally is still texting me flirting and all right now, so I don’t get why I feel this way
its almost like a part of me is resisting the change, holding onto an my old self with all its got and it feels shitty right now. It’s almost like a psychological detox. I’m not physically ill at all, I actually feel great but I feel really really drained and anxious.

The best way to describe how I’m feeling is from the avatar clip here, minus the flu/fever/physical symptoms lol
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When Zuco saves Aang (the avatar) who he has been going after, and gets an internal conflict

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#2

Reconciliation. Your old beliefs, behavior, and mental patterns are being reconciled with your new experiences.

The old you thought, felt, and believed and behaved this way, therefore, now that you’re having new experiences that contradict what you’re accustomed too, it’s creating internal conflict.

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#3

Also, this clip from Avatar is EXACTLY HOW I FELT EARLIER THIS YEAR. This is blowing my mind! I watched the whole series again a few months ago, and I’ve thought about that scene often. It’s one of the best fictional accounts of reconciliation that I’ve ever seen.

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#4

Whoever told you that change is always easy lied to you! :joy:
Your old self will not give up that easy. Especially since it thinks that change is dangerous. This is the time you need to keep your foot on the pedal and charge forward.

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#6

I didn’t expect it to hit me this hard. It’s like my brain went into panic mode, not knowing what to do next. I guess I just have to continue to take action over and over.

#7

I know bro, it can be pretty uncomfortable and pretty shocking when the recon hits. But just remember that the old thoughts are now false. The thoughts might keep popping up for a while, but they aren’t true anymore, and your experience has proven it to you.

#8

even with all the anxiety that hit me and the recon, I still prefer this new me over the old me. The old me just wanted to sit around, avoid anything uncomfortable and watch life pass me by. Yea it was comfortable but miserable.

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#9

Thats the funny part, everyone knows consciously that change is not easy, when talking about it, it’s when it hits you and you feel it, when you say to yourself like man, this is not easy. I feel like that quote mike Tyson once said, that everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth. Yea, my old self punched me in the mouth alright. I just have to get back in the fight. lol

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#10

That’s a tell tale sign of change.

If you want, try this out:

It’s my fave routine, feels great. If you do it, just take it slow if you’ve never done BW before. Also, make sure you are lying down. You can get VERY lightheaded temporarily, and if you’re not used to the sensation, you might fall over. LOL.

Empty the mind, and set the intention of clearing the energy. You’ll probably feel amazing after trying it.

Disclaimer: I do not endorse any particular metaphysical claim or belief. Breathwork is an exercise that causes a physiological reaction that can be useful for mood regulation and need not be association with any group, religious or otherwise.

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#11

If I may, the answer might be not to fight. If you resist, it persists. It’ll clear away on it’s own, the fight is to focus your intention on the new you, on the results, on the changes. Just look at the new reality to take the momentum out of the old reality.

Alright, I’m done.

Great results, man!

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#12

will definitely look more into this tomorrow, I don’t know much about breath work so this will be good to learn. Thanks

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#13

so I saw the video, he described my struggle for change so well but I was curious, is tapping okay with sub club

#14

It’s perfectly okay!

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#15

awesome, another skill I can add to my life, thanks.

#16

I use tapping from time to time aswell when some subs stir up to much emotions.