Ok awesome thank you. This was my first post so I didn’t know
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The thing is: Every time you repeat “Hi, I’m Nick, and I’m an addict” you reinforce the notion that you’re an addict. If the meetings help, keep it, there.
But for yourself, change it to something like:
“I’m a free man. I determine what I do. No one else”
Forget about the past, In a way, that it’s passed. It’s over. The Nick from 20 months ago doesn’t exist anymore. The new you isn’t controlled by any substance. So speak it out aloud “I’m a free man”.
I was a porn addict for 20 years. I’d never say that I’m an addict. I was an addict. Sure. But not anymore. And even at the times when I relapsed, I knew that I chose to use porn again. It was a deliberate action.
Now, when I feel the urge to consume porn again, I say to myself “I’m a free man and will never ever get enslaved again”. And this helps a lot.
For me, I tried to break free from porn for 15 years without success, being an addict always carried the feeling of an excuse. “I can’t change because I’m an addict deep down”, “I want to stay clean, but the urge is there and since I’m an addict, it’s normal to relapse”, etc.
Only when I acknowledged my responsibility for my life it started to change.
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I like that. Thank you. I am a free man. And thank you for sharing your story
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That’s kind of THE POINT though.
From how I understand it, most addicts have this notion of freedom, invincibility, an unbreakable sense of independence when it comes to doing what they want to do no matter what.
Regularly reminding themselves they’re an addict means that they are regularly reminding themselves that they are only human, need to submit to a higher power to receive help, and are not invincible - not free to do whatever they want if “whatever” is drugs, alcohol, or their addiction of choice.
@Nick just remember this is a forum of free ideas but it’s not medical advice, and if anything you read here conflicts with what you’re working on with a therapist or professional, it’s almost always better to trust the professional’s opinion over the internet stranger.
“I determine what I do” quickly becomes “I have complete control over what I do” which instantly becomes “I have control over myself to take my addiction in moderation” which turns into “I have lost control, because I forgot I was an addict.”
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A little update, it’s only been a week on this stack. I’ve just been doing loops of about 4 minutes then a day off. I did one day of full loops and I felt angry at a past girlfriend a lot so I think I’ll stay at smaller loops for a bit. In just a week I’ve been given free food three times and more empathy and understanding with those around me and my dog who is pretty old and has some issues but it’s like I’m bonding all over again with my dog which is a pretty cool feeling. I was planning on running this stack for 3 months then go from there
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Free gifts is so common on LBFH 
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Actually it’s Love Bomb not LBFH. Maybe they have similar benefits. I did run LBFH and Genesis for a week. I sub hopped at first and I didn’t journal. I really started to notice things since I’ve been journaling every day
Will just point out that this is correct - this forum is not a place for medical advice. Anything of the sorts - contact a professional.
Check with your medical professional before accepting any advice that sounds even vaguely medical, regardless of how good it might sound.
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