I haven’t run Heartsong. But since deep romantic relationships is the goal of HS, that’s the reason I recommended it.
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I think interactions with others also stem from a reflection of how you treat yourself. So two big issues I see often is this odd need to be hypermasculine to the extreme and denial of any ‘feminine’ traits, even if they’re incredibly positive! In the former you’re just overcompensating and the latter is due to some form of repression. I am continuously baffled that some people think that being happy, sociable and friendly are undesirable traits. Being masculine doesn’t have to mean you must get laid 10 times a week, be emotionless as a rock and have muscles like Arnold Schwarzenegger.
A romantic relationship isn’t a transaction. She doesn’t “give” you something in return for something else. You give to each other selflessly. Anything less than that isn’t unconditional and you will always look for faults because you feel they aren’t “giving you enough for my end of the deal”. Learn their love language, how they express love may not be the same as the way you do.
Learn to be vulnerable in someone you love. If a woman to you is just having sex and having your ego validated, then you shouldn’t go looking for a romantic partner for the interests of both parties. And definitely don’t justify cheating on your partner, it’s frankly quite pathetic.
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There is no man or woman, no matter how attractive, stimulating, or compelling, who will deliver you from the responsibility of being (and living with) your self. And if you ever meet someone who seems to come close, run the other way as fast as you can. That fun-slide ends in hell.
Your first job is to learn to live reasonably well with your self.
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Malkuth never stops spitting facts 
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Almost all of them were learned the hard way.
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