How to Cope With Doubt and Fear of Failure

Questions and Comments
#1

A month ago I shut down my first side hustle it ended up making no money as I was buried in roadblocks and wasn’t confident in it to make the jump to get a loan.

Now I have started a new project and I have done a quick Google search trends and reddit trends and my idea has a real good chance of succeeding. A competitor in the space made $20,560 from one product on etsy, so it has to have a good shot. Even if it doesn’t I need to find a way to fight through big time doubts and fear of failure. I feel a real burn in my heart area it’s like I am getting reconciliation from taking action and when I pause to notice what I am feeling I feel a lot of doubt and insecurities.

What are some tools that you have used in the past to get through doubts? I don’t want to let them win this time.

Please don’t just say power through it. That isn’t helpful, we get that enough with battling neurodivergent issues.

Thank you in advance for the discussion!

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#2

I dunno mehn
Just listening to subs help me about it
I don’t see any other ways as effective as listening to alpha subs for some more time

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#3

Please shift this to the Questions and Comments section :pray:

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#4

One thing I like to do is listen to success stories of others in my situation. That helps.

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#5

Pretend you’re already the person who succeeded in whatever you’re doing. Take the next action from that frame of mind.

There are other things like:

  • extend your time horizon
  • focus on what you want to create instead of what you don’t
  • view it as a game

Hope that helps.

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#6

Why do you feel those?

Like what is causing you to feel that?
Past trauma?
Parental conditioning? (I had this)
Low confidence?

Sometimes you might just feel this way because your higher self is trying to guide you to a better path.

This is an extremely helpful advice, and if you wanna be extreme, then you can be like me and see everything in life as a game, and life itself being a game as well.
What’s the point of that?
That POV that you’re gonna end up with, is going to boost your competitiveness, which will help you not get stuck on things that would normally stress you out, because at the end of the day, life is just an R-rated video game

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#7

I use perpetual tools from a book called the presence process by Michael brown. The books is about getting towards emotional/mental root causes and applying emotional alchemy to them. Very powerful for the deep-seated stuff.

You can use any emotional release tool to get past these doubts - until you reach that natural/effortless state again where there are no doubts that are in your way. Once you reach it. taking action will be simple, to get there might require some intensive self-focused work though.

Something practical you can apply, It is called PSTEC a very powerful emotional/mental release tool. If you’re curious, you can learn more here: PSTEC Essentials Overview - Where Do I Start - YouTube

To try it out, ser: PSTEC Click Track 2015 - YouTube

Applied properly, you should feel immediate (gradual) relief.

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#8

I’m not doing big things like you yet, but I’m on that path and know exactly what you mean about the heart burning thing. I couldn’t get to sleep last night and was up till 12am with that.

First thing is breathing. Make sure you have calm steady breathing. Also relax the body, you might be unconsciously tensing up to fight through these emotions and feelings. Here’s what I’m starting to learn. It’s the resistance to that fear and doubt, the unconscious energy of trying to fight it or overcome it that causes the problems.

Instead of trying to overcome, give yourself permission to be afraid. So often in society we’re told we should be above fear or doubts, shiny beacons of confidence. But there are parts of us that need validation and attention for what we’re going through. Once you give those parts validation you start seeing there is no enemy or a “winning” side. Just misunderstood parts of your psyche that need to cooperate and integrate. From there they can start to slowly get on board to the more confident side.

It’s really important when you start pushing past limits and old beliefs that you’re not also neglecting the part of you that holds onto those. Transcending fear and doubt can be the goal, but ultimately there is another part of you that feels those things and their feelings are valid.

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#10

I think it’s me pushing up against my internal limits. I have some fear of success too for having others hate me because I succeeded.

I was very much conditioned to fear failure as a kid from both school and home.

I have a trauma of being fired which is a root cause of how I feel I am not good enough sometimes.

I have always had low confidence. I can fake it real well but never developed true confidence that lasts.

Finally I have ADHD which a key trait is lack of confidence. My superpower from ADHD is I can fake just about anything because I have had to, to fit in a neurotypical society. I got so good at it that I didn’t even know I was doing it and in so lost myself in the process.

This also is easily recon from my success heavy driven business stack of EZP, HoM, and EoG.

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#11

That looks interesting. Thank you for sharing.

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