Hello!
I’m having trouble with courage or fearlessness… i don’t know what to call it. for example, i can’t stand up for myself when i frankly need to do so, and i get hit with some panic or something like that. On the contrary, my friend is willing to lay down his life for another person. I was recently threatened, which still makes me feel bad. what title will help me develop equanimity, calm and fearlessness in emergency situations? i don’t want to live in fear and be a coward. Help me, please.
P.S. you are welcome to suggest foundation requiring titles if there is a need to do so.
Is there areas in your life that you are courageous and fearless, because from your statement I guess (may be wrong ) but my guess that you experience fear in definitive situations .
So what type of fear are you looking to remove
with people and having win - win situation at the intellectual or business level (intellectual)
or casual relationship you want to express your self better (social intelligence)
or to be able to get into fight or do and have adventures like sky diving for example (physical)
or fearless in expressing your opinions that differ than society Norms (intellectual )
You see what I mean , what situations happened to you that made you think ohhhh I need to be fearless ?! If you answered this question in specific . Members suggestions will be more accurate and helpful to you .and welcome to subclub
SE makes you really calm, confident and solid rooting out your insecurities and negative thinking patterns. LD makes you super confident and courageous clearing out your social anxiety.
Most of us men have our warrior spirit stripped out of us as boys. The push to be peaceful and non-violent haven’t been balanced with being strong.
My advice would be to build your body up with either lifting weights and/or taking fighting classes. When your body becomes strong, your mind becomes strong as well.
Titles like Spartan, Boxing Mastery, etc can complement your workout regime and you will be a warrior in no time and feel natural about standing up for yourself.
In fact when your mind and body are powerful, bullies can sense that and will avoid you of their own accord.
I think a stack of Godlike Masculinity + Spartan will do wonders for you along with working out.
I have some good experience with the module Lion VI. I was just outside walking and minding my own business and a lady came by with a big dog. That dog seemed like a fighter breed. I was passing her and suddenly the dog jumped in my direction in an aggressive way and started barking.
Normally I would be frightened but this time I was very collected, calm, and just observing the dog to what is it up to. A very interesting experience for me. Nothing happened because the lady has the dog on a leash and shouts at him to calm down. But I did not flinch.
By this, I wanted to say that with an alpha title, you can get that feeling. Everyone is saying Khan is very calming. I am only on my first cycle of Khan st1 but I am already experiencing some of this calm.
Another good choice is
Aegis Initiative: Survival Instinct:
Calm, composed, courageous, and focused during stressful situations, allowing for the optimal and most effective response. *
In the last period I’m realizing that we are our experiences, and experience is = our actions and thoughts, if you want to become fearless then take some time to understand what you want to do to become that person, imagine every day how you would be if you weren’t afraid and acted like you were that person, it doesn’t matter if you succeed because it’s more important to try to face the fear because it will have less power over you and you give power to what you think, you can choose whether to give more power to fear or to yourself
I totally agree with what you said, strengthening my mind and body has helped me so much it reminds you that you are becoming stronger than your fears, also becoming calmer and breaking bad habits and replacing them with good ones is helpful to become more confident
And if you want to do it naturally then you have to face your fears head on.
But do it slow and gradually
Start with the smallest fear you have and face it, then pick the next area and overcome it. That’s how you build your confidence
The trick with fear is this : let the fear talk and lisen to it in full presence until the fear inside you feels that it’s been heard fully - then it disappears, it has done its job and dissolve
You’re conscious of your problem and zp is so good that you can achieve this goal with any title in the store barring maybe the wealth ones, it’s about choosing the journey, you can do an alpha program as to develop the social awareness to always demand respect, or to know how to think around people with flaring egos, and therefore how to act.
You can do a fitness program or boxing mastery or Muay Thai mastery and develop some real confidence through real experience, and also you’ll be joining a community of fighters so you’ll develop confidence just by breathing the air they breath, and also you’ll open up the possibility of competing and perhaps gaining some glory (further confidence and calmness)
Godlike masculinity can also get you there in its own way. The world is your oyster man.
Take this extremely broad, vague, large, and subjective goal, and try to transform it into specific actions that you would like to work up to taking. Fear, Courage, Fearlessness, and so on, do not mean the same things to all people. For some people, Courage means public speaking. For others, Courage means taking part in a street fight. For others, Courage means asking their boss for a raise. For some people, courage means finally deciding to have children. Courage can mean applying to medical school. What is courage for you personally? And why? As you make progress in defining this more particularly, you will also have specific goals that will be meaningful to you.
Right now you sound like you would be at risk to become a victim of peer pressure. All someone would have to do to manipulate you would be to accuse you of being a coward, and then you might do whatever they wanted. Does that sound wise? Or you might be smart and tell them to go f**k themselves, but then go home and beat yourself up for the next two weeks. Which would just waste two weeks, probably.
So figure out what specific things are meaningful and valuable to you. What’s the next mountain that you want to climb? Not me. Not some other stranger on the Internet. What matters to you? Pursuing your own values and bringing them into reality will be your own personal Yellow Brick Road that will lead you to the Courage that you seek. (Shout-out to L. Frank Baum.)
Improve yourself yes. But, please, please, please, don’t treat yourself like s**t. Seriously. Nothing good comes from that. Celebrate what you are now, and then build it to become more. Things don’t get better when you treat them like crap. And that applies to yourself as well. Things get better, when you feed them, care for them, exercise them, and challenge them. If you want to become better, don’t start taking sh*t care of yourself. No. Take better care of yourself.
The little green bit in that picture is called the amygdala. If you are freaking lucky enough to be physically healthy and whole, then you’ve got two of those. One in each half of your brain. If you’ve got those, bro, then you’ve got fear. You’re supposed to freaking have fear. Courage is facing it, not getting rid of it.
