How do you reset a sexual fetish?

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#82

Have you run Dragon Reborn, mech?

#83

I disagree with people that are saying you can’t reset it, our brains can change so much. Just find a fulfilling relationship while staying away from porn or even fantasizing.

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#84

So you mean just find a girl that’s fine with that fetish?

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#85

I don’t even want to give a specific meditation recommendation, but I did Vipassana, which is essentially just a very basic watching the breath meditation. The key was that I was doing it 5-10 hours a day while living at the centers over the course of 8 months. At that point, I was so jaded sexually, I was getting concerned about how fetishized I was and how I wasn’t really having normal sex anymore, I needed it to be a bit fetishized all the time or I didn’t like it.

3 weeks of meditating in the center and I felt cleansed of all that and reset back to normal.

So it’s not the TYPE of meditation, but it’s the FREQUENCY and LENGTH of meditations that occur.

If you can start watching your breath an hour a day every day, or half an hour a day ever day, or half an hour twice a day, or whatever frequency you can manage, you’ll chip away at the fetishization. Not to mention every other element of your life will start to improve as well. This’ll apply to any meditation technique.

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#86

No, I think if you deprive yourself for like a month or two you’re gonna be very sensitive and won’t need a fetish to get off, and if you go straight into having normal sex in a healthy relationship, the fetish will be gone.
It has to be replaced, kind of like how they say you can’t just remove a bad habit, you gotta replace it with a good one.

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#87

While I agree, that you will be fine with regular stuff after a month of, I highly doubt this one encounter will undo your fetish.

With the example of habits, it takes a MINIMUM of 21 days of repeatedly doing the new habit to alter the existing one.

With a socia-sexual fetish imprinted (possibly) at a young age, I’d say that is even longer.

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#88

Internal Family System is a method of therapy. Just google it.

But. Once again Parts Integration from NLP can be enough to make it move.

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#89

Also, depends what kind of fetish it is. If it involves hacking blonde women up with an axe, I recommend having some sort of talk therapy, preferably with a qualified psychologist.

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#90

I would ask myself what triggers the fetish ? specific environments ? stress ? without an understanding of what triggers it you cannot decide on a course of action.