I’ve heard many of these stories—not just in this forum, but from countless others as well.
A lot of people come from difficult family backgrounds—broken homes, drug issues, or other forms of instability. These early experiences can play a central role in shaping someone’s path. Kids who grow up heavily attached to gadgets often end up facing deeper issues, especially when those devices become their main source of comfort or connection.
For many, exposure to pornography happens at a young age—long before they’re emotionally or mentally equipped to understand what it’s doing to them. Over time, this exposure can become deeply rooted, almost becoming part of their identity.
But this isn’t just about porn. Our modern world is full of compulsive and addictive behaviors—everything from endless scrolling to hyper-targeted entertainment, all engineered to be as irresistible as possible. Even when people recognize the harm these habits cause, breaking free can feel nearly impossible. That’s the painful truth about addiction - the struggle to let go, even when it’s hurting you, is a pattern that many know all too well.
As the saying goes, “Old habits never die”
Healing isn’t a one-time event—it’s an ongoing journey. The old version of you may resurface from time to time, but if you have the strength to face your fears head-on, nothing will be able to hold you back.
We know that fear isn’t a healthy motivator, so we won’t focus long on this point. When you feed your appetite, it grows. If you’re trying to calm your sex drive down by masturbating, you’re really not helping yourself.
If managing your sex drive feels like an never ending battle, there’s probably something out of balance in your life. It could be spiritual, emotional, physical, or relational.
These will help:
- Learn and practice self-awareness
- Practice putting words to your feelings and experiences.
When we are able to name our feeling, we are more able to name our need. And when we can name our need, we can fill it in an appropriate way.
- Learn and practice self-control
- Be aware of your needs
- Be aware of what is stimulating your senses
- Invite others in and say No to shame
I maybe a bad guy to some but I go to church to pray - I meant it.
I will not recommend seduction titles for you at this point.
Perhaps Love Bomb or Heartsong will be enough. LBFH and Genesis The Art of Happiness and Joy.
When you had this thing when you love to appreciate things, grateful, full of energy that’s the time you can say “Yes” i it works.