You felt Wanted pushed you too be a gym guy while WDB didn’t? Can you talk more about the differences?
No - what I’m saying is Wanted asks you to live your life in accordance with it, so going to the gym and being a “player” is in line with the sub, whereas my current lifestyle isn’t that.
I’m not interested in to going to the gym. I’m active in other ways as I walk a shit ton. Nor am I interested in being a player and accruing bed notches. However DreamBoi gives me permission to be myself, use my own natural skills and give me magic dust however I’m dressed, which is usually like Gap style smart casual.
You think so? I ran NW for 3 months and it was quite the healing experience. What it helped me feel comfortable in my body, ‘warts’ and all. Can’t say much about gym bro or player vibes. I was already someone who worked out and dressed well, but Wanted Dream Boy took all that to another level. Dream Boy had be structuring workout routines, doing macro meal prep and reinventing my style. Heck, thanks to WDB I have a closet full of suits I wear on a regular basis,
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I’m adding Genesis, taking out LBFH (gratitude for this amazing sub)
Had a reality check from a friend to said I’m drifting, not really serious about life, taking the mick, not aiming for anything and being successful.
Obviously I took that hard. Because it’s true.
This is a blind spot of mine and hoping Genesis kicks my ass. Part of not taking action is feeling like life had defeated me and letting “people not like me” stop me.
Time to stop hiding and take an active part in life, I’ve been too much the observer and blaming others for me not succeeding. “The world serves me!” What an arrogant way of thinking. The other way is to never mind what others think (a big mental block of mine since forever) and go get mine. No more ignoring myself hoping another adopts me.
Get mine.
My stack is:
Ascension ST2
Genesis OG
With DreamBoi and Phoenix somewhere on the periphery.
finding my soul
Geez Genesis isn’t playing around and I’m realising that I can’t have a level of self confidence if I don’t know who the fuck I am! Nor get to know my own soul or what is even good for me! Gemini gave a good account of why my self is so hidden, down to the effects of Caribbean upbringing.
The first answer is … watching the NFL. I know nothing about gridiron other than it’s on at 1am at night on TV but the sub says I could be interested in it. This is all because walking in the park i received the ball, kicked it and the ball fell to the dude perfectly in his hand. Unlike what usually happens when kicking a round football and it splays everywhere except the dude.
I get it, this is meant to reveal your true self, without the beating conditioning and soul erasure I endured.
I’m impressed at how quick these subs work, and being brutally honest with myself. I’m a little disappointed at not sticking to a stack, however Wanted got a fair hearing, LBFH I’ll love forever, but it’s time to get serious now.
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Genesis lets Ascension flourish
I felt like I was in a fog because Ascension felt quite chill to me, but Genesis (one play) had changed the flavour to an inner drive. I think Genesis has allowed Ascension to light a fire in my ass!
I guess I don’t know who I am (but I do know what to do in life) and I’m trying to get in touch with who Michel actually is.
It’s early stages but knowing myself a little better within lets rejection from others hit me less hard. Imagine knowing myself so deep that whatever bullshit others say it do slides off easily. It’s getting there.
I was also recently told by a friend that because of my recent moping they were considering ending the friendship. Whilst sad, I don’t appreciate people threatening me with leaving a friendship, so that person however will now be on the back burner. This revealed to me that most of my friends are strangely transactional, that needs to change too.
People pleasing < not giving a fuck.
This is the secret sauce I needed to learn for the longest time on earth. Permission to exist vs honouring my soul. Now I understand why my stack is operating at full power, because Genesis is teaching me to own and inhabit my soul.
Almost forgot…
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I promoted myself and my artwork on Instagram again. Someone criticised my work, calling it “bad boy” and “distasteful”, but I clapped it back in my post, calling the critics “limited in understanding”
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Blocked my ex. After learning of some out of pocket shenanigans, the permanent ban hammer came out after a 2 year grace period. Done. Out.
Ascension (with an assist from Genesis) 
reminder chart
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This is the real Ascension
Genesis is opening the doors, mostly it is stopping me looking for permission of looking for a powerful authority to do anything.
I cut off my ex after she did something unforgivable towards my family. I put one and one together and concluded this. No one ever does that kind of evil act and gets away with it.
My new attitude over people who know me is this:
If you ever order me about, we’re done.
I kinda asked for it because of my upbringing, I look to authority to tell me and approve me, but Genesis is nicely breaking this up by reconnecting with my soul.
This is supposed to be the purpose sub but my purpose is simply to bring my soul online. It’s doing a great job so far.
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Right here we go…
Following a great, deep healing session offline where I chronicle my insatiable need for permission from others to exist and act that has been cleared up so much that I feel that don’t need Genesis anymore. The mechanism for Genesis was to break up the fog of asking others to be and I feel that has been completed. I cried some in that session, realising that I have others so much power to run and ruin my life and I felt powerless to do anything. But it is truly over.
That leaves Ascension ST2 to do its fantastic job of instilling confidence and drive. I have that clear headed sense of presence and right to exist, now the next step is to take that freedom and go make hay, money or whatever. Ascension is the shit.
Another great immediate side effect is that my aura isn’t asking for others permission, so I radiate better and stronger, I can see it in the mirror, no fidgeting, true expression, not that stilted, on guard, “do they like me?” stance. Clearer, settled, “masculine” (if you call it that), poised but relaxed.
With DreamBoi floating within that aura… well my worry of “does she like me?” and the shame of being a sexual man disappears too. A woman today on the train chose to sit opposite me and made her sexual moves quite blatant. She did the work of flirting, I sat back enjoying the show, giving a wry smile. We could have fucked on the train and both of us wouldn’t have minded one bit.
But that’s mostly secondary to the real prize - I have my soul back. It’s in my body, no permission needed to act, take space or exist.
Ok this self permission slip will last then…
More not giving a fuck episodes (that seem basic but are quite revolutionary to me as living concepts)
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Went to the park - agenda = me. I was there because I wanted to touch grass, to listen to podcasts, to gaze at the sky. Never mind that I was there with half the city too. Picking a spot in between others being there, taking up space and not giving a fuck if someone had an issue.
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Looking at other people much less. Since the permission slip was given, there’s no more me looking at someone to see if this is ok… I assume it is because I said so. To my surprise, other people really didn’t care either. So life really is the energy you send out and get back…
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Sorting out my little side hustle with tech adjustments. Actually getting round to doing it…
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DreamBoi serving up eligible women after eligible women everywhere I turn. All I need to do (I think) is to interact a little. Also finding out that leading with indifference is also attractive too - I’m just here as a detached party, whatever happens…
I let having the approval of the tribe rule me for so long, when I should have said “fuck it” and done it anyway.
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independence week!
Feeling a lot more spontaneous and I think the true spirit within me - interests and everything is shining through. I’m a lot funnier in real life… 🫠 That confidence was inside, it needed something to unlock it.
I finally have proof that I have shed the necessity of the group - something minor that would have pissed me off and got me misunderstood (I won’t say what it was) was shrugged off like it was nothing. Because it felt like nothing - my status wasn’t up for sale and I wasn’t selling.
More proof of me being independent - carried a pram up the stairs for a woman and her child. She didn’t ask, I just took over her carrying the pram and waved both of them afterwards. Because I wanted to. There was no other motivation apart from instinctively wanting to help.
Extremely grateful for learning to shed the group approval addiction (and say no occasionally, fuck if they feel hurt…)
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more and more sorting my life out type shit
My birthday is coming up fast but I want more money. Since I’m on Genesis Ascension, those money making skills are kinda basic but I have finally fixed an issue that means I can start earning some cash. Put it off for too long being lazy and neurodivergent, thinking it was too hard - it really wasn’t.
I’m feeling myself so much - caught myself looking at my figure in the mirror and something’s happening. I have a long-standing belly protrusion and it is fast disappearing! I’m checking myself out hard. DreamBoi isn’t really known for the physical shifting (Wanted is) but even the baggy t-shirts that I can get away with due to Soulfit and natural confidence, my physique is slowly transforming leaner and cleaner.
DreamBoi - I’m out at a bad time where most girls seem to be out with partners, (it is summer) so by extension to my body, my individual goal is to just enjoy my company in the park. Water, touching grass, streaming - it’s all good. I’ve noticed a few women hypnotised by my being, until their dude joins them and I leave a little bit disappointed. But their gaze on me is still fixed. Oh well…
(There was one magical moment afterwards where I smiled at someone who stared back for a long time, then had to leave)
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DreamBoi is dangerous…
I’ve underestimated DreamBoi.
Today was my day to go to the park for myself, yet on the way to the park was several women - one after the other - letting me know in that indirect feminine manner - walking straight towards me, cutting across my path, arms outstretched, cycling past with hungry eyes, smiling…
This took me by surprise as I really thought DreamBoi was a soft and gentle romantic sub and yet going by the almost rabid reactions it absolutely can be as wild and primal as Wanted (and WB) given the right conditions.
I made it to the park, maybe because I’m treating myself a lot better nowadays, but I decided to do the solo picnic with my own entertainment, music and water. It felt liberating because it was for me only and I don’t care a shit, whilst learning to accept that I matter also. Again a few more women gazing on to this dude sat alone, journaling and forgetting their own partner in the process…
I am still feeling myself so much - maybe this inner love is being reflected outwards as pure lust? I’m not complaining…
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in two mindsets
There’s a conflict with DreamBoi in that I want to push for the sub to work… But that’s not how DreamBoi functions.
It’s the go out there and do nothing sub, but I do want to do something.
The things I’m doing for my self respect are what matters most, but when it comes to DreamBoi, I just need to slow down and just “be”. In a way I’m already crawl walking and taking my time.
So the temptation is to drive the stack forward, but I must train myself to let go and enter the flow.
Honestly there are times where an opportunity arises and I would love to take it - but I guess that would be pursuing…
No it isn’t. Most of reesults come from taking action. I ask people out all the time. I make plans, I connect with folks, I break no contact when I feel like it. Both of my partners are people made the effort to connect with.
To ‘just be’ means to stop obsessing over results. To stop treating every interaction with women as proof that sub is working or its not working. You still need to do soemthing. Saint pointed this out in the early days of Dream Boy. The sub can’t do everything. You need to something.
Reviving Genesis.
I’m in a self created stagnant funk and can see myself drifting again, problem is I’m not even trying anything outside my comfort zone and not even having the motivation to just try. I know I have a defeatist mindset and it needs to change fast. It’s a “why bother trying, you’re going to fail” attitude.
Right now, I need some quick easy wins.
I want to win at something, but more importantly, winning needs to be a habit.
Going to pair of with Genesis: Joy, so it doesn’t feel like a chore to complete something and not care. My motivation can’t be based on “someone will destroy it once built” or “this is serious”. I want to be happy building and winning in life.
I think a sense of play will help with DreamBoi to unlock a bit more of my real self. Maybe “just be” should be “just have safe fun” instead.
have you ever tried out a martial art? I feel like that is a good way to give you wins and even socialise with people and meet cute girls too.
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I did have a thought about rock climbing, just to give it a go. Nothing serious, just to see what it’s like…
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rock climbing has been on my list of hobbies to try. Other things I am going to try soon that you may want to give a go
Roller blading
Improv classes
Salsa classes
Toast masters
Run club
Seeing the same people consistently will allow you to build more friend groups and you can take initiative to invite people out and meet even more people.
Don’t be afraid to make some lady friends because you can connect with their hot friends too and let the WDB magic do its thang
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Genesis + Genesis: Joy
Very early days but I’m liking life right now.
It’s the right sub for right now, just need to feel like wanting to build something, the mountain is the size of a small warren. More that that, I would like to (gently) explore and take a few small risks whilst feeling like it isn’t a massive deal. Just playing around could be the key to opening up a bit more.
I feel quite content and self absorbed in a good way to, going to do a few activities for the pleasure of myself only because I can. Painting, skating, something new as well. Getting in touch more with me and what makes me joyful, rather than dutiful. Embracing the spotlight. Learning to fail.
Surprisingly non reactive to criticism too - before it would have sent me into a hard tailspin, but now I immediately dismiss it. Not every criticism is in good faith, not every opinion deserves to be taken seriously. As long as I know what I’m doing (Genesis is helping here) that’s all that matters.