Finding My Foundation

[Michel]

Still on washout.

But I’m very pleased.

I’m taken aback at some of the results I’m getting.

Like I seem untouchable in a mild way.

Like people have seen a celebrity

Women are a few steps from grabbing me off the street.

Chosen is me.

It just works for me in a way that the other hard edged subs don’t.

Bright, positive, open. Immune to bullshit. I feel lighter too.

Chosen + Hegemon gives it a smouldering seductive edge.

I belong here, the best years are to come.

I feel great, I look “sparkly”, I get to create and mentor in line with my natural energy.

The main monkey on my back - constant dread fear at nothing major - is faint background noise. Barely audible.

It’s a 180⁰ from feeling heavy, ill, can barely walk up the stairs, in a 10hr job taking insane amounts of stress, then returning to a toxic relationship that I co-created.

I wouldn’t call myself an optimist at all. But as long as the sun shines, it’s a good day.

[Michel]

Chosen Hegemon custom is still delivering for me

The deceiving thing is the thought:

I’m fine, let’s add some more stuff

Because the level of self confidence now feels “normal”, the chaos of building it is missed. So adding another sub won’t harm things, right?

I can convince myself that the rate of progress should be faster

But on Wanted it took 4 cycles to get past the first fence.

Things will take time

Wonderful things like participating in “grown up” kids games and winning is a good ice breaker around women.

Joyful things.

Will it be too much to continue to the end of the year? Don’t think so. A Wanted year end sounds nice. Who knows who will show up (or how many 🫢)

[Michel]

@Michel

Wonderful things like participating in “grown up” kids games and winning is a good ice breaker around women.

Looks like I’ve found an interesting way in to success with women - just play. I’m good at having fun

Speaking of success with women:

You know you are getting successful when a good friend says down on the phone line that I sound a lot more positive today than a year ago. She said before I wouldn’t take her advice to get my mind right and think better, but now I’m a lot happier and the evening out with her was the most she’s laughed out loud.
She also felt safe with me despite a full blown rock concert about to start around her.

The key here was that I didn’t care about whether my jokes “landed” or my observations were outlandish. I was myself and I felt really positive about myself.

I’m seriously thinking about adjusting my stack, making play and joy central to it as it works much better than trying to be dominant alpha . Outward, shiny fun, joyous @Michel is more me.

So Chosen with Summertime (Chosen/Endless Summer) with Wanted swapped out for DreamBoi?

[Michel]

And then I see this advert for Lego on the train today… Maybe there’s a message 🤷

[Xelas]

I’ve had very similar breakthroughs on WANTED. At some point I realized that my natural way of being is all about fun and play, and, most importantly, not caring whether my jokes or my personality overall lands with people or not. it skyrocketed my results with women and helped me become more popular overall.

I’d suggest to consider that it’s probably WANTED helping you to discover your authentic style of seduction and being before switching to another sub. Although, an addition of Chosen and Summertime to WANTED sounds pretty sweet

[Michel]

Tools for seduction

I present to you my tools for seduction and opening with women:

Play this and become unnecessarily competitive.

Balance this on the temple of any women you find interesting.

[Michel]

Finding My Own Joy

Stack is now:
Chosen + Summertime + DreamBoi

Chosen: The MVP. Gentle but powerful radiant leader. Very useful for work

Summertime: unwind a lifetime of bracing, friendship betrayal and failure, return joy to system.

DreamBoi: to replace Wanted - results mostly physical shifting, bodily aches and pains, clashing with Chosen

Happy with the selection, it fits much better with my own system - Wanted/Chosen was the warm leader clashing with trying to be the mystery alpha and it showed in my body when stuff started to hurt in my feet and torso. It’s time to swap it out for the gentler, energy compatible version and play that for a cycle or two.

Grateful for the 5 cycles for what it showed me - that I was genuinely becoming more and more attractive, leaner and more able to free myself for approaching women. Summertime will handle the nervous system relaxation better and it will get me to understand that past childhood friendship failures doesn’t mean to shut yourself off totally from expressing oneself spontaneously.

[Michel]

I stopped a fight.

Felt kinda embarrassed about stepping in as well. Mild act of road rage where two big burly blokes are roughing each other up. I stepped in between them and kept telling them “he’s good, he understands he messed up” while more drivers behind them are adding to the upset because they’re causing a tail back. Dude even thanked me, but what tf for? Regulating his nervous system or what?

Then I Snapped

After that bunch of nonsense and soon as I sat in my usual hangout place outside, I was taken by this extremely fit dancer in a group of people as part of a flash mob. She was fine as hell, however I was also aware of how much stock I put in her as a woman with such presence.
Then a thought crossed my mind - she is never going to see me out here. So I returned to my own entertainment.

I’m the WANTED one and yet I’m out here hoping and yearning to be seen and liked. It was then that I knew I hated how much I sold myself out for approval rather than put priority on my life. I always knew this was my background operating system.

No more.

That choice — to stop performing and start becoming — belongs only to you.

I decided to lead me first rather than be fake af. Let them come to me.

DreamBoi is telling me to be spontaneous and real (attractive, kooky, weird, artistic, misunderstood whatever) and fuck trying to be liked. I’m learning to, after trying to be the “alpha mystery man” it hurts physically. Let’s lead with weird instead.

[Fractal_Explorer]

Honestly though with all the manosphere and redpill stuff that’s been showing up and men running around trying to be “high value” leaning into your own aesthetic gives you a huge advantage. It’ll make you stand out more. Weird and artistic is a winning combo imo.

[Michel]

It makes me laugh at how many men think being a hardass is the winning ticket with women when we are entering 2027 and beyond with Gen Z and alpha teaching everyone a new way of being that is much more grounded, “authentic” and self leading, despite social media pressures and the like. I like the direction our society is going…