Escaping the Rat Race

[AlexanderGraves]

@Billions

Self improvement books are entertaining, not wealth building.

@Billions

I immediately realized that blogging was NOT a reliable way to make money.

Fully agreed.

Both these things are LEADS.
With a blog or a self improvement book you generate an email lead or similar. Same with YouTube.
Once on the list, you make them buy, upsell, downsell, etc. THAT is where people get rich.

Most people get this conflated a lot.
My books make me about $150 a month. The big money is in the courses and coaching I do. High ticket, but this comes way later.

@Billions

MY PURPOSE WAS TO BECOME AN INCREDIBLY POWERFUL MAN INSTEAD OF A LOST 23 YEAR OLD, AND I WAS GOING TO DO THAT BY MAKING ENOUGH MONEY TO LIVE ON MY OWN, BUY THE THINGS I WANT, GAIN SOME RESPECT FROM THOSE AROUND ME, AND BE PROUD OF MY EMPIRE.

I keep telling guys that your purpose will illuminate yourself once you’re on the path, determined to BE something. Might take years. Who knows. The initial “finding your purpose” is really just to GET STARTED with SOMETHING.

Generally though. Wholeheartedly agreeing on everything haha

[AlexanderGraves]

@Billions

If your purpose is self improvement, there is no better way to achieve that goal than wiith money.

I denied this truth for so long, because I saw myself elevating above this bullshit greed society.

But this was really just negative outlooks on money in general (childhood), which is also why it eluded me.

MORE MONEY MEANS HELPING MORE PEOPLE.

It’s as fucking simple as that

@Billions

Not for what the money will do for you, but for the person you’ll have to become to get rich.

It’s this simple distinction many miss out on.

It’s the same to make your business more profitable.

Stop focusing on making money. Focus on making IMPACT. Money will then be a side-product.
But this doesn’t mean you hate money.

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Beautifully said, real motivating!

[SWITCH]

That is a whole lot!! You have said it all. Thanks.

[SWITCH]

@AlexanderGraves

I keep telling guys that your purpose will illuminate yourself once you’re on the path, determined to BE something. Might take years. Who knows. The initial “finding your purpose” is really just to GET STARTED with SOMETHING.

This might be true. But been fully on your purpose requires source of support which is money. Do you think Elon musk will start Tesla o r try SPACE PROJECTS if he doesn’t have money to do so ?
Purpose is great when their is money to put it to action.

[SWITCH]

@AlexanderGraves

Both these things are LEADS.
With a blog or a self improvement book you generate an email lead or similar. Same with YouTube.

That’s actually true it gives conviction that you are providing the free value.
Persuading them to buy those courses that requires payment.

[Billions]

@AlexanderGraves

MORE MONEY MEANS HELPING MORE PEOPLE.

Forget about helping people. Earning more money than your neighbor earned means you were more capable or smarter than him.

Note how I said EARNED, not had.

Money is the way we pit ourselves against each other to see who will be king.

Sometimes people stop and are happy after a million or so. Other people want to compete all the way to the top and show they’re the best.

Making money is important to prove to yourself that you fit into the world and are valuable.

If youre not making money its because you’re so useless nobody is willing to give you anything for your help.

Dont be useles…

Figure out how useful you are by determining how much money you make.

Debt is just a tool to gain skill or resources to be more useful.

[Billions]

@Billions

Forget about helping people

I’m a really compassionate person. I really want to help people. Dont mistake me for meaning you shouldnt help people. You’re also right, with more money, you can help more people… but one of the biggest reasons you can help more people is because you’ve already helped yourself.

So many people without money say they want to help, when really they’re the ones receiving all the help from other people.

Helping others is an ideal that motivates us right up until the point that we face our first challenge… but the moment that challenge comes, the motivation doesnt hold, and we quit and stay useless.

We’re selfish. So if we realize that why its important to be able to make money is because money is an indicator of our value to society, it becomes much more personal and internalized… if you’re not making money, that means you’re not contributing. If other people are paying your bills, you’re actually less than helpful. You’re a burden, taking more than you’re giving.

Thats why women like rich men. Because between two equal men, the one who EARNED more is more valuable and a better mate.

There’s also the resources side. Between two equal men, the one who has more is slightly more valuable… however, personality is really important here, more important than actual net worth, so long as the woman doesnt have set expectations for what a man’s net worth should be.

This is why studies have shown that women will focus more on a man’s earning POTENTIAL than his actual income. She invests into his future and makes that gamble based on her perception of his character.

Women won’t believe excuses of grandiosity and charity. They know the men that earn more work harder and more helpful (charitable without charity) than the ones working replaceable low skill jobs.

If you become a coder, you’ll succeed at something that 99% of people can not do. You will be respected because everyone recognizes that you had to work hard to learn that skill. You will have a rare skill so people will want your help. You will have options, so people will pay you handsomely to incentivize you to stay with them… and you’ll have real self respect because you’ll know that you did what you set out to do, and you didnt set out to do something easy.

[AlexanderGraves]

That’s a lot of external validation.

I give zero fucks what anyone thinks of me.

In this fake world you don’t know what’s really paid or not anyway.
It’s truly irrelevant to me how much money I have when I pass the Great Wall.

For me, only experiences are relevant. And money helps with that.

[Seeker]

@Billions

This is why studies have shown that women will focus more on a man’s earning POTENTIAL than his actual income.

Can you share these studies?

[Billions]

@AlexanderGraves

That’s a lot of external validation.

I think i’m explaining it with external validation but I’m speaking about the internal validation that comes from being competent, even an expert.

Simply put, money is what you get when you’re skillful.

And you should be proud of yourself for being skillful. Your goal should be skill, not validation.

If you are/aren’t skillful, the world will be a mirror to you and show you how you are/aren’t contributing. If you’re not skillful, that should light a fire under your belly more than the idea of someone perceiving you as unskillful. If you are skillful, it doesnt matter what others think. Nobody would give Jk rOwling a book deal for Harry Potter… they perceived her as unskillful, but because she knew deep down inside the value of what she had to offer, she persisted and eventually succeeded.

That’s not external validation… although external validation (the resources from the book deal) were one of the rewards. The core lesson in that story is her own sense of confidence based on genuine world class skill, regardless of who recognized her for it.

But it only works cuz she’s actually skilled. Confidence without any skill or intention on becoming skilled is pure narcissism.

And whaddaya know… Narcissists suffer from self esteem issues more than any other group and just hide it from themselves and others with constant external validation.

[Billions]

@Seeker

Can you share these studies?

No. You can do your own research. I am not a librarian.

[Seeker]

That made me laugh.

[SWITCH]

@Billions

If you become a coder, you’ll succeed at something that 99% of people can not do. You will be respected because everyone recognizes that you had to work hard to learn that skill.

Noted. I will work on it