All my life I have been super emotional. I’m curious if there is a sub that would help me fix this or is it something I would resolve myself working through Dragon Reborn?
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Are you feeling your emotions too intensely or are you acting too impulsivly on your emotions?
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Too intensively. I get overwhelmed and cry more than anyone I know. I feel everything. The only thing that calms it for me is the extreme metal I love
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Being “super emotional” isn’t a flaw, it’s just a character perk. I have been called “emotional” also, which I ignore because I own it and use it when analyzing situations, creating products, being artistic, etc. Emotion = “energy in motion,” so rather trying to suppress it (which is impossible, because energy is going to express whether you realize it or not), I try to control and divert it.
Martial arts, meditation, hard exercise, being creative or artistic (you already look like a rock star, I bet if you tried, you could create some crazy music), things like that. That allows the energy behind the emotions to express in a healthy way. My rather unhealthy, but quick way to discharge a lot of energy is by playing a very competitive video game and letting the anger burn out that way, haha.
I used to just slam the heavy bag or spar, but these bones can’t take that kinda damage anymore. I’m already going to the chiro multiple times a week.
If you must use a title (because I’m all about trying natural solutions before using a title), try something artistic just to see what happens.
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See? Exactly what I was thinking. Ever considered making that kind of music? Don’t even need to play the guitar to do it these days. Just grab a DAW, a keyboard, a guitar plugin and something like Guitar Rig and you’re good to go.
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I’m going to check that out. Thank you. I just started doing a exercise program that’s a mix of yoga, calisthenics, and dynamic resistance. I just don’t have an outlet so it just keeps building
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I wanted to learn to play guitar when I was younger but I don’t have the manual dexterity for it
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Find a way to use it to your advantage.
I used to hate being very sensitive and hyper aware of things going on around me, because I didn’t believe that it aligned with the hardcore corporate lawyer I thought that I had to be. However when I embraced these traits and dropped the overly macho act, I was stunned how many people who appreciated me much more and preferred to work with me over other lawyers.
I’m 100 % sure that you can find a way to use it to your advantage, because you probably see a lot that other people misses.
That being said, zpv2 Emperor allows me to keep that part of myself while being very strong when required, but I would also consider running Genesis until you find a lane to pick (and stick with)
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When people start thinking in terms of energy (and it doesn’t even have to be spiritual energy, since the body is electric), the world around them will become much easier to understand. Energy is going to express in someway or another, there’s no stopping it. If there’s a circuit, energy is going to flow. When energy gets blocked, or if there’s a sudden surge of energy, you get a dangerous situation. You can see this mirrored in the concept of having surge protectors to prevent sudden increases of energy from destroying your electronics.
In humans, uncontrolled energy end up expressing as passive manifestation, and most likely the manifestation of a situation that isn’t pleasant. Usually anger.
Here’s the thing about crying – it’s the safest and most therapeutic way to discharge massive amounts of energy, hence why a lot of people fall asleep after crying. Their nervous system has been running hot to the point where it had to release that energy somehow. Society has just demonized men crying and now we tend to hold it all in until we explode, which is also demonized. As a result, suicide rates for men have skyrocketed and we’re generally just unhappy.
If you’re the type of man who can just cry to release, hold on to that. Because that’s ALL crying is – a release of pent up energy in a way that allows the body to soothe itself. It is the epitome of self-care.
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I finally started it about two years ago, and really haven‘t been practicing a lot. These days there are some cheap, quite nice guitars (I have a $180 that I love), as well as amps, so the start-up cost is small. There‘s also some good online courses (my recommendation would be https://www.justinguitar.com/ The guy goes at a good pace and explains things very well). Those crazy solos the best players do are one thing, but starting to play, getting better at it, and having some fun with it really does not take a lot.
It took me forever to figure out that I didn‘t actually need to get good at it and just wanted to have fun, and then I got a guitar. (Before that I was like „I know what it take to get really good at it, and I don’t have that time, yadda, yadda“). And then it occurred to me that I don’t need to aim at being a rock star, and now I‘m just having fun. And (very slowly, on account of not having a lot of time to practice right now) getting better. Honestly, if that‘s something that interests you just do it. For playing along with a lot of songs you do not need a lot of manual dexterity. I regret not just starting 20 or 30 years ago… 
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I truly agree with this. I’ve only been on DR for a few days, and I just finished a blah movie actually feeling soft and seeing the touching moments. I found myself looking for them. Those are always the most memorable moments in movies for me. Think Good Will Hunting and "It’s not your fault’ said repeatedly by Robin Williams. I cried while writing that.
Also, and yeah this is embarrassing to admit, but I really looked forward to using DR since it allows all that stored up energy to come out. With me, it’s definitely by crying. That’s my biggest reason for using it, so I’m not in that ineffective loop of stuffing it down again and again.
@James, you’re not alone. I’ve felt led back to DR a half dozen times or more since pulling off St.2 last year. If healing is releasing pent-up stuff, I’ve wanted that a LONG time. I’m back on it, my first week now.
This can be developed by counting/moving things. Like moving small items from one jar to another. Since it requires more control in the fine motor skills department.
I tend to ignore this since there’s so much emotion there, but I made it through college partly on music scholarships. I played French horn, and I still own it. The very last time I took a shot at playing (roughly 10 years ago now), I had my chair and my music stand in place, and slowly I began playing.
What happened was I completely melted into a puddle of tears. I remembered holding emotion in so many times while alone or in groups, keeping all of me (and my emotion) inside. I simply dumped tears for a couple of minutes.
Having said that, DR is one avenue to let stuff out. I may have found another from me writing this.
I cry a lot starting from the 4th cycle of LBFH.
It doesn’t feel bad. it feels freeing, like i’m allowing myself to be more vulnerable to myself.
From what you said, it could also be the scripting for releasing physical tension in action. Opening the gate to discharge the excess energy.
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@SaintSovereign
Can sensitivity be a spiritual thing? I was going to send you a message last night with questions about the link between the spirit and reality. I had it worded a certain way but I forgot what it was
I feel like a major portion of my sensitivity and problems most of the time is because I don’t feel good about myself or love myself. I’ve tried running Love Bomb for Humanity multiple times but something stops me. It’s as if I feel or believe that I deserve love.
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@SaintSovereign You mentioned martial arts. When I can afford I really want to start taking Kali classes again. I am so fascinated by Filipino martial arts. Back in early 2002 I trained at the Minnesota Kali Group in Minneapolis for a while. It was fun but I stopped because I was working overnights and it was on the other side of town from where I lived.
Guy who owns the place is Rick Fay. He trained and was certified Dan Inosanto , Sifu Larry Hartsell , Sifu Paul Vunak , and Grandmaster Chai Sirisute.
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was it a recon that made you stop? i don’t think suggesting another sub is the ideal answer, but you can try DRLD too if you haven’t yet
being aware of it is a good start to solving the problem.
If I may offer my unsolicited outside view: I think your, if I may say so, obsession with heavy healing subs might come from a deep view that you are too broken and need to be repaired or replaced before you deserve happiness and love. But that very attitude might be the only thing that needs urgent fixing.
Oh, and training at Minnesota Kali sounds amazing. I did some Kali many year ago and loved it.
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So what should I do? Focus on learning to love myself so that I feel worthy and deserving?
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